Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A CEO of a dating site once said in a podcast interview that looks really aren’t all that subjective. If you ask people for a 1-10 rating of someone, we will all mostly agree.

I’ve never worried about this too very much. I was attractive enough to the kind of men I wanted to date my whole life. I don’t need any more than that.

That makes sense. Beauty is a burden because you get too much attraction from men and the opposite from women - they hate on you. It's really not that fun to be beautiful.

Women do not like to be made to look bad - and in some cases, it takes very little.

Being "pretty" is equated to being more successful or having "no problems" to some, which only makes matters worse.

The way my husband looks at me 17 years later and how I know I am his arm candy, among other roles, 17 years later.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tell you that you are beautiful, men pursue you, women hate you, sometimes men (women) can't make eye contact with you, strangers stare or at least turn their heads.

If these things don't happen, you ain't got it.

+1

This is a dead give away with men. If they are walking toward you in passing, and they look down and fake preoccupation with their phone or some other object, they likely find you attractive.

Anonymous wrote:People tell you that you are beautiful, men pursue you, women hate you, sometimes men (women) can't make eye contact with you, strangers stare or at least turn their heads.

If these things don't happen, you ain't got it.

+1

Anonymous wrote:A CEO of a dating site once said in a podcast interview that looks really aren’t all that subjective. If you ask people for a 1-10 rating of someone, we will all mostly agree.

I’ve never worried about this too very much. I was attractive enough to the kind of men I wanted to date my whole life. I don’t need any more than that.

That makes sense. Beauty is a burden because you get too much attraction from men and the opposite from women - they hate on you. It's really not that fun to be beautiful.

People tell you that you are beautiful, men pursue you, women hate you, sometimes men (women) can't make eye contact with you, strangers stare or at least turn their heads.

If these things don't happen, you ain't got it.

Anonymous wrote:It actually amazes me how different I was treated as a pretty woman.

I was an ugly duckly, like really ugly. Then I went through puberty and starting at about 17 I was very attractive, and men fall all over themselves.

I had a good friend though, that was BEAUTIFUL. The amount of attention I got was annoying, the amount of attention she got was off the charts insane.

When people say "they feel invisible" it is just that you go from everybody breaking their necks to look at you, falling over themselves to open doors, buying you drinks to nothing.

You know because of the way society treats you, if you don't know its because you never received that treatment.

This is so, so true!

I was very attractive as a teen and in my 20s. I knew it. After I had kids I had PPD and gained a ton of weight. I definitely felt the shift and it was humbling. I truly felt invisible. I spent three years working on myself, lost a ton of weight, focused on the way I presented myself, and one day I just noticed the attention was back. But I’ll never forget who I was when I was fat. It truly was a humbling experience.

Anonymous wrote:People will tell you.

This. And they will be genuinely surprised, almost taken aback. It’s unpleasant about 80% of the time.

People will tell you.

A CEO of a dating site once said in a podcast interview that looks really aren’t all that subjective. If you ask people for a 1-10 rating of someone, we will all mostly agree.

I’ve never worried about this too very much. I was attractive enough to the kind of men I wanted to date my whole life. I don’t need any more than that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have mirrors and exist in the world. I don’t understand how a person wouldn’t know how their looks compare to others.

because beauty is subjective. As they say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

I have two sisters. I always thought the oldest one was the prettiest, but I was told by a few men, that they didn't think that was true. Objectively, I think she is prettier, but I think because maybe they knew our personalities, maybe they found me more attractive. IDK. But, it is subjective.

That’s a question of preference, not saying that you thought she was pretty and they said she is not. Also, they were probably trying to sleep with you so they told you what they thought you wanted to hear.

It actually amazes me how different I was treated as a pretty woman.

I was an ugly duckly, like really ugly. Then I went through puberty and starting at about 17 I was very attractive, and men fall all over themselves.

I had a good friend though, that was BEAUTIFUL. The amount of attention I got was annoying, the amount of attention she got was off the charts insane.

When people say "they feel invisible" it is just that you go from everybody breaking their necks to look at you, falling over themselves to open doors, buying you drinks to nothing.

You know because of the way society treats you, if you don't know its because you never received that treatment.

Please tell me this is a joke.

the volume of men who compliment you, hit on you. That's how.

yes, beauty is subjective, people will be beautiful to you because you know them... but there are objectively beautiful women, and they know because they are told and it on multiple times a day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have mirrors and exist in the world. I don’t understand how a person wouldn’t know how their looks compare to others.

because beauty is subjective. As they say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

I have two sisters. I always thought the oldest one was the prettiest, but I was told by a few men, that they didn't think that was true. Objectively, I think she is prettier, but I think because maybe they knew our personalities, maybe they found me more attractive. IDK. But, it is subjective.

Siblings often look similar enough that it's really a matter of personal preference.

we don't look similar, but yes, it's subjective