Anonymous wrote: And going by reputation or "what DCUM thinks" seems like a terrible way to pick a school.
Yes, reputation as in "everyone knows that X is a 'bad' school" is not reliable, but talking to neighbors and acquaintances who have kids at specific school is an excellent way to learn, and even hearing secondhand, as in "my friend loves X" or "a neighbor moved because his child didn't feel safe at y" is also meaningful information, though not definative.
DCUM general vibe and chatter reputation is terrible, but there are people on here who are very knowledgeable about schools and can point you to real information or help you understand and interpret real information in a very helpful way. And honestly, the anonymity makes people rude and snarky but it also makes them willing to say things that are true and valuable but not socially acceptable to say in person. There's hardly any other place where you can get that.
OP, if you're looking for a school where the preschool is cozy and crunchy and all-natural low-pressure but the upper elementary academics are strong, well.... you might have to move. Lots of people want that, but it's pretty hard to come by. Those things tend to point in opposite directions.