Anonymous
Post 03/25/2023 20:25     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
Anonymous wrote:You can ask about activities.

I have no idea why you’d want to ask parenting advice of someone you don’t even know and have never met their kids.


Agree. And please don’t mention IQ, gifted status, etc. He’s not a freak show.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2023 15:22     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This reads as the same OP who cannot figure ANYTHING out for her child. Same writing, questioning, etc.


No OP you cannot ask this.


I agree...could this also be the OP who wants to take her young children on a tour of Harvard to "achieve this dream"?


Of course it’s the same one
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2023 12:14     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
Anonymous wrote:This reads as the same OP who cannot figure ANYTHING out for her child. Same writing, questioning, etc.


No OP you cannot ask this.


I agree...could this also be the OP who wants to take her young children on a tour of Harvard to "achieve this dream"?
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 20:05     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
Ugh just don’t OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 19:45     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
You can ask about activities.

I have no idea why you’d want to ask parenting advice of someone you don’t even know and have never met their kids.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 18:31     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
Anonymous wrote:
DH treats him as a normal buddy. I feel like IQ that high is not a normal person.


He is a normal friend who is at a far extreme of the bell curve intellectually. You can ask sincere questions about his experience if you are capable of being attuned to him sending signals that he does not want to keep discussing it. Start with something low-level that is a more common topic for people with kids in school: "Did you like school as a kid?" His answer to this will tell you whether you can ask more questions or not.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 17:50     Subject: Q
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am normal IQ for this general area (130). I am friends with two separate people who have much higher IQs. I share a different hobby with each of them, and they are both exceptionally high EQ and can interact on my level with me relative to the hobby. They are just people.


I find it strange when people a)know their own IQ and b) share it with others.. I cannot in a million years fathom how this comes up.


Gifted testing in childhood for me, and I know these other two are much smarter than I am. Much smarter. They are kind enough NOT to tell me their IQs!
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 17:46     Subject: Q
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am normal IQ for this general area (130). I am friends with two separate people who have much higher IQs. I share a different hobby with each of them, and they are both exceptionally high EQ and can interact on my level with me relative to the hobby. They are just people.


I find it strange when people a)know their own IQ and b) share it with others.. I cannot in a million years fathom how this comes up.


Gifted testing from childhood, most likely. That’s how I know mine.


But do you share it with others? Do you know your friends' IQs?


Fair point. I guess a lot of long term friends were in the same program so I could speculate. But I can’t think of why I would.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 16:49     Subject: Q
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am normal IQ for this general area (130). I am friends with two separate people who have much higher IQs. I share a different hobby with each of them, and they are both exceptionally high EQ and can interact on my level with me relative to the hobby. They are just people.


I find it strange when people a)know their own IQ and b) share it with others.. I cannot in a million years fathom how this comes up.


Gifted testing from childhood, most likely. That’s how I know mine.


But do you share it with others? Do you know your friends' IQs?
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 16:46     Subject: Q
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am normal IQ for this general area (130). I am friends with two separate people who have much higher IQs. I share a different hobby with each of them, and they are both exceptionally high EQ and can interact on my level with me relative to the hobby. They are just people.


I find it strange when people a)know their own IQ and b) share it with others.. I cannot in a million years fathom how this comes up.


Gifted testing from childhood, most likely. That’s how I know mine.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 16:40     Subject: Q
Anonymous wrote:I am normal IQ for this general area (130). I am friends with two separate people who have much higher IQs. I share a different hobby with each of them, and they are both exceptionally high EQ and can interact on my level with me relative to the hobby. They are just people.


I find it strange when people a)know their own IQ and b) share it with others.. I cannot in a million years fathom how this comes up.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 16:33     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
You are one strange cookie
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 14:31     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
Anonymous wrote:I think that asking about his children's STEM/robotics activities is fine. That's a perfectly normal topic of conversation. If your kids are at all interested in that stuff, it would be reasonable to ask about resources or tips.

But I wouldn't ask him about their development or "journey" or how gifted they are or tips for parenting genius children or anything like that. You know that it will make him uncomfortable because he's private and doesn't like being in the spotlight. He has a high IQ, but he's a normal person not a freak show or a guru.

This. Yes to asking about the activities. No to asking for parenting tips or about child development. Just be a good host and enjoy meeting your DH's longtime friend.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 14:26     Subject: Know someone with IQ over 170
Why would you want his parenting tips? To be honest, you don't know anything about his kids other than that they are in stem and robotic competitions.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2023 14:25     Subject: Q
Anonymous wrote:I am normal IQ for this general area (130). I am friends with two separate people who have much higher IQs. I share a different hobby with each of them, and they are both exceptionally high EQ and can interact on my level with me relative to the hobby. They are just people.


Yep - I'm friends with a bunch of down to earth yet super smart people who went to Ivies (UPenn, Yale, Duke, etc.) and sure, sometimes I have to ask them to explain things, but there are things I know that they don't and things we have in common. I like smart people who are confident without being cocky.