Anonymous
03/22/2023 21:36
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Eh. You are a sahm, it’s pretty much your job 24/7.
So, he's just a sperm donor? and not a real dad?
Also a money donor to OP and the child. She has no job.
I know right! Because ALL SAHM just marry money donors and never had careers before kids. Those lazy women! And all working moms never have sperm donors and wouldn’t dare marry a man for money. They are so independent and never has issues about who engages their toddler. They are the best moms EVER!
Anonymous
03/22/2023 20:30
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Eh. You are a sahm, it’s pretty much your job 24/7.
So, he's just a sperm donor? and not a real dad?
Also a money donor to OP and the child. She has no job.
Bingo. OP would be playing with her kid in a cardboard box on the median with various and sundry heroin addicts were it not for DH.
Anonymous
03/22/2023 20:17
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Eh. You are a sahm, it’s pretty much your job 24/7.
So, he's just a sperm donor? and not a real dad?
Also a money donor to OP and the child. She has no job.
jsmith123
03/22/2023 20:14
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Opposite dynamic in our household. When my kids were young, and I was alone with them, I'd do everything I could to get outdoors with them. If we were indoors, we'd fold laundry, bake, water plants, clean, whatever. The kids would "help" to their capacity.
He wants to cook or walk the dog? Just have him take the 2 year old on the walk, or get them in the learning tower in the kitchen to help.
He wants to cook or walk the dog? Just have him take the 2 year old on the walk, or get them in the learning tower in the kitchen to help.
Anonymous
03/22/2023 20:11
Subject: Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:It’s fine not to “play” meaning sitting on the floor making silly voices or pretending to eat play food.
BUT he should be able to supervise her while she is not contained in a high chair or stroller. Meaning, he’s actively paying attention to her, talking to her, and tending to her needs while SHE plays. It’s boring, yes, but required of parenting.
If he can’t do the second part, you have a problem.
+1 He doesn’t have to play but he should take her for walks, teach her to help with chores, supervise her on the playground, etc.
Anonymous
03/22/2023 20:08
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Two is old enough to do some “helping” play.
Get your kid a toddler broom set and have him “clean”
Get some toddler knives and have him cut tomatoes or peppers
Etc
Get your kid a toddler broom set and have him “clean”
Get some toddler knives and have him cut tomatoes or peppers
Etc
Anonymous
03/22/2023 20:08
Subject: Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:It’s fine not to “play” meaning sitting on the floor making silly voices or pretending to eat play food.
BUT he should be able to supervise her while she is not contained in a high chair or stroller. Meaning, he’s actively paying attention to her, talking to her, and tending to her needs while SHE plays. It’s boring, yes, but required of parenting.
If he can’t do the second part, you have a problem.
+1
Anonymous
03/22/2023 20:02
Subject: Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
It’s fine not to “play” meaning sitting on the floor making silly voices or pretending to eat play food.
BUT he should be able to supervise her while she is not contained in a high chair or stroller. Meaning, he’s actively paying attention to her, talking to her, and tending to her needs while SHE plays. It’s boring, yes, but required of parenting.
If he can’t do the second part, you have a problem.
BUT he should be able to supervise her while she is not contained in a high chair or stroller. Meaning, he’s actively paying attention to her, talking to her, and tending to her needs while SHE plays. It’s boring, yes, but required of parenting.
If he can’t do the second part, you have a problem.
Anonymous
03/22/2023 20:02
Subject: Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Playing with kids (especially toddlers) is so boring. He should put her in a childproofed room and let her explore while he does whatever in the same room.
Sorry, but that's sad. It's like he can't be bothered to engage with her. That is incredibly sad.
Neither DH nor I are kiddie people, but we both engaged with our kids when they were little, even if it's just reading to them, or as OP said, playing ball with them or blowing bubbles.
IMO, men like these can't be bothered to do something that they don't like with their kids. Sorry, but when you have children, you are signing up for a whole lot of "doing something I don't like".
I disagree. I am a very involved parent. I didn’t play with my kids much. But I cooked with them and took them to the zoo and museums and help with homework every day and drive them everywhere and make all of their food and read them books. I am the Girl Scouts leader and room parent and soccer coach. But I rarely played with them.
Anonymous
03/22/2023 19:59
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:Eh. You are a sahm, it’s pretty much your job 24/7.
So, he's just a sperm donor? and not a real dad?
Anonymous
03/22/2023 19:58
Subject: Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:Playing with kids (especially toddlers) is so boring. He should put her in a childproofed room and let her explore while he does whatever in the same room.
Sorry, but that's sad. It's like he can't be bothered to engage with her. That is incredibly sad.
Neither DH nor I are kiddie people, but we both engaged with our kids when they were little, even if it's just reading to them, or as OP said, playing ball with them or blowing bubbles.
IMO, men like these can't be bothered to do something that they don't like with their kids. Sorry, but when you have children, you are signing up for a whole lot of "doing something I don't like".
Anonymous
03/22/2023 19:55
Subject: Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Anonymous wrote:Why do you play with your kid when you don’t want to?
Someone has to so they can learn and develop.
Anonymous
03/22/2023 19:47
Subject: Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Why do you play with your kid when you don’t want to?
Anonymous
03/22/2023 19:42
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
I had kids 17 months apart because I didn’t want to play with a toddler. Just kidding (kind of).
Why can’t she help him cook? Or go with him while he walks the dog?
Maybe approach him about including her in stuff he already does vs. playing with her.
Why can’t she help him cook? Or go with him while he walks the dog?
Maybe approach him about including her in stuff he already does vs. playing with her.
Anonymous
03/22/2023 19:42
Subject: Re:Husband refuses to “play” with kid.
Eh. You are a sahm, it’s pretty much your job 24/7.