Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing she’s ready to move because she’s sick of dealing with obnoxious and entitled parents.

BINGO! I really hope this is a troll post

Parents are so entitled

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing she’s ready to move because she’s sick of dealing with obnoxious and entitled parents.

BINGO! I really hope this is a troll post

Well, the title of this thread is incorrect. OP clearly does not understand military moves.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol. The military does not demand that the spouse moves with you with a certain timeframe, but there is no reason not to. Housing is not an issue, since it’s paid for or subsidized. . Why be separated from your spouse and family for many months, when you don’t have to be? Most families would avoid that. Also military spouses have to deploy regularly, and then they are already separated for many months. Most don’t want to add additional time of separation. I’m reallly surprised you don’t know any of this, and can’t believe you emailed her.

But, two housings are not paid for or subsidized unless spouse is deployed. If they are going to live on post, she won't be getting subsidy here or be able to live in housing here. And, in this area housing is quite expensive.

I was a teacher. I guarantee you the teacher has considered the options.

If they are in base housing, she cannot remain there. If they are not in base housing, they'd have to pay for it and if they aren't high ranking office, they cannot afford two houses. If the is enlisted, he doesn't make much. Military will pay for one move. So, it not an option.

Did you offer to pay the extra housing, moving and other costs? No, she's right.

Anonymous




Please, please, let the poor teacher who received this email post next to say this really happened. I can’t fathom this being real.

Wish I could say this was shocking, but it's just not. APS parents are over the top.

Please, please, let the poor teacher who received this email post next to say this really happened. I can’t fathom this being real.

Anonymous wrote:Does the spouse have to move with them at the same time or can they wait till June till the school year is over?


MY DD teacher is leaving at the end of the month because of a "military move.".
What I don't understand why doesn't she just stay here for 3 more months. I emailed her and told her that she should still here, since its 3 more so its will only be that much more money wise. 3 years ago when my DH was relocated we kept playing for an apartment for him, and the house we were living at doing that time. That was for 6 months, and we could afford it. I told her to look into it, but she never responded. Could it be she just want to quit?

YES she wants to quit because of the intrusive parent who is hassling her about a private matter! No teacher should be "told to look into it". WTF, you are unbelievable.
Get some therapy, mommy- you have serious boundary issues and need to learn about staying out of other people's personal decisions.
ps- nobody cares what you can "afford".

Anonymous wrote:Lol. The military does not demand that the spouse moves with you with a certain timeframe, but there is no reason not to. Housing is not an issue, since it’s paid for or subsidized. . Why be separated from your spouse and family for many months, when you don’t have to be? Most families would avoid that. Also military spouses have to deploy regularly, and then they are already separated for many months. Most don’t want to add additional time of separation. I’m reallly surprised you don’t know any of this, and can’t believe you emailed her.

But, two housings are not paid for or subsidized unless spouse is deployed. If they are going to live on post, she won't be getting subsidy here or be able to live in housing here. And, in this area housing is quite expensive.

I was a teacher. I guarantee you the teacher has considered the options.

Lol. The military does not demand that the spouse moves with you with a certain timeframe, but there is no reason not to. Housing is not an issue, since it’s paid for or subsidized. . Why be separated from your spouse and family for many months, when you don’t have to be? Most families would avoid that. Also military spouses have to deploy regularly, and then they are already separated for many months. Most don’t want to add additional time of separation. I’m reallly surprised you don’t know any of this, and can’t believe you emailed her.

Anonymous wrote:You are not part of their family so you don't have a say.

What gall you have to email her about it.

I am sure she gave your email all the thought it deserved.

Anonymous wrote:Military make a lot less $$ and the move is paid for and the housing is paid for. They are no taking $ out of their pocket and away from their family needs to stay teaching. They already sacrifice enough. Not to mention, some moves are followed immediately by deployment so if they have kids then the non military spouse has ti stay there.

Written by someone who has no understanding at all of military life.

1. Yes. The move is paid for. Two moves are not paid for.
2. Expenses would likely outweigh money coming in for the spouse.
3..Does the teacher have children? That would be another expense. Support and child care.


Military families face many separations. Why would she choose to face another? It is also possible that her spouse is coming off deployment and they want to be together.

And, most moves are not "immediately" followed by deployment. I can assure you that she has weighed that possibilty.

And, last, you have no idea at all of her choices. If her husband is taking a command, she would likely want to be there to support him. The move may even be overseas and she does not want to face that separation. If they are in military housing, staying may not be an option.

There are so many different caveats, I cannot imagine anyone being so insensitive.

OP, I'm a military spouse and have spent 2 years away from my husband for a variety of reasons. I'll likely have to do it again in his career. It's extremely expensive to choose to live apart. In some cases, like moving abroad, it would not be doable to move at a separate time. Teachers aren't highly paid and she'll easily get a job at their next assignment. No need for her to stay behind.

You have some nerve and lack of boundaries. You can’t be serious- this is probably a troll.

Shocking that OP’s spouse decided to live in their own for three months due to relocation. 🙄

This is the most ridiculous and entitled thing I have seen in a while, and agree someone is trolling.