Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm weirded out by the ones for funerals. If you can't afford a funeral, then you need to cremate and do the cheapest thing possible. The person is dead - they won't care about what flower arrangement was there.

States provide funds for burials.

No, they don't.

Anonymous wrote:I see a lot started on behalf of people who 1) didn’t approve the go fund me and 2) don’t even need the money. An individual I know sadly passed away suddenly - she easily made $500K a year and (I assume) had some sort of life insurance policy, yet within hours of her passing some well-meaning friend had set up a go fund me to cover funeral expenses. I think the family ultimately got wind of it and shut it down but come on - at least ask.

We had this problem when my cousin and his wife were in a car accident. A friend set up a go fund me without asking. They were asked to pull it down (my cousin and his wife had insurance and ample savings, definitely did not need or want a gofundme). Before it was removed almost $10,000 was raised. My cousin doesn't know what happened to that money. I rarely donate to gofundme's unless I am very close to the situation. There is a huge amount of fraud that could go on. It is better to just give cash or a check directly to the family.

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who started one to get a nanny for her first kid because I swear to God she didn’t want to “subject her child to the potentially stifling environment of daycare.” She WROTE THIS IN THE TEXT. I needed my smelling salts immediately. I love a hate follow, but that was so out of line I blocked her from showing up on any of my feeds.

Yah, I saw one where a woman was go-fundraising because she wanted to stay home with her 2 kids and not work. Seriously?

Anonymous wrote:I think that 100% of them, regardless of the event that occurred, are tacky if the GoFundMe was started by the victim(s)’ family member or BFF. If I see one it better be for a life or death situation, and I don’t want to see any photos or videos attached that are gruesome, or I won’t donate. The “life or death” part generally excludes living expenses for a living, able individual, or costs of replacing inanimate objects.

Not sure about tacky so much as exploitative .

So many are fraudulent and not well Monitored regarding whether the intended recipient receives the money that I don’t give through them.

Anonymous wrote:Luckily for you you don’t have to support them (or even look at them). Problem solved.

Found the beggar!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm weirded out by the ones for funerals. If you can't afford a funeral, then you need to cremate and do the cheapest thing possible. The person is dead - they won't care about what flower arrangement was there.

This.

We've opted for cremation. If we're cremating our loved ones, then I'm not chipping in for the fancy funeral for someone else.

I always donate if there is a go fund me for the widow and children when the breadwinner father dies suddenly...even if they seemingly don't need the money. I figure it's good karma...even when I gave $100 to the go fund me for the "kids" in fancy private school and a fancy mcmansion, etc. One family quickly secured $25k+ (in a day or two) and set up a special college fund thanks to north of $200k in gifts. Years later it came out the dad was loaded, heavily insured, and had investments like a Rockefeller. The kids' college funds were already covered. The widow renovated her mcmansion, bought a vacation home, and quit her job. Shrug.

Gross.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm weirded out by the ones for funerals. If you can't afford a funeral, then you need to cremate and do the cheapest thing possible. The person is dead - they won't care about what flower arrangement was there.

States provide funds for burials.

Tell us all about your experience using these state funds. By all means.

You apply.

I see a lot started on behalf of people who 1) didn’t approve the go fund me and 2) don’t even need the money. An individual I know sadly passed away suddenly - she easily made $500K a year and (I assume) had some sort of life insurance policy, yet within hours of her passing some well-meaning friend had set up a go fund me to cover funeral expenses. I think the family ultimately got wind of it and shut it down but come on - at least ask.

I agree. The ones I’ve seen/known about personally were in my opinion absolutely not necessary. One was by a couple whose child died by accidentally suffocating in their car seat. While this is incredibly tragic the parents were very wealthy and the father posted the go fund me within an hour of the child passing away asking for money for therapy. They raised 80k and then immediately remodeled their house. I found it to be gross. Another one was a wealthy couple where the husband died. They raised over 100k so the kids could have “the cultural experiences their father wanted them to”. It was tacky and they really didn’t need the money. Both parents were big law lawyers at vault 10 firms in a major city living in a historic mansion. While I feel for these people and understand they have a terrible loss it does not equal a right or an entitlement to money.

I donate sparingly but don’t mind them.

Funeral homes can be very predatory. If you don’t know the process, it can be very, VERY hard to get the cheapest option.

I don’t mind donating $20 for your kid to go to abroad or whatever.

Luckily for you you don’t have to support them (or even look at them). Problem solved.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm weirded out by the ones for funerals. If you can't afford a funeral, then you need to cremate and do the cheapest thing possible. The person is dead - they won't care about what flower arrangement was there.

This.

We've opted for cremation. If we're cremating our loved ones, then I'm not chipping in for the fancy funeral for someone else.

I always donate if there is a go fund me for the widow and children when the breadwinner father dies suddenly...even if they seemingly don't need the money. I figure it's good karma...even when I gave $100 to the go fund me for the "kids" in fancy private school and a fancy mcmansion, etc. One family quickly secured $25k+ (in a day or two) and set up a special college fund thanks to north of $200k in gifts. Years later it came out the dad was loaded, heavily insured, and had investments like a Rockefeller. The kids' college funds were already covered. The widow renovated her mcmansion, bought a vacation home, and quit her job. Shrug.

NP. A friend of mine died a few years ago and the wife immediately put up a GoFundMe that she mentioned in the obituary, because "Larlo would have wanted his children to go to college." Yes, he did, and that's why they both have/ had massive college funds since birth. The children were 16 and 19 at the time of his death. Tacky.

I recently donated to a waiter I had one time at a popular restaurant (he was crappy and not that nice at all) but he has a 1 year old son... he was carjacked but tried to drive away and was shot a few times. I don't know, when I have met a person, it feels a little different.

Really have to word it the right way, and they can really take off and make a difference. But I hear you OP!!

Anonymous wrote:I'm weirded out by the ones for funerals. If you can't afford a funeral, then you need to cremate and do the cheapest thing possible. The person is dead - they won't care about what flower arrangement was there.

This.

We've opted for cremation. If we're cremating our loved ones, then I'm not chipping in for the fancy funeral for someone else.

I always donate if there is a go fund me for the widow and children when the breadwinner father dies suddenly...even if they seemingly don't need the money. I figure it's good karma...even when I gave $100 to the go fund me for the "kids" in fancy private school and a fancy mcmansion, etc. One family quickly secured $25k+ (in a day or two) and set up a special college fund thanks to north of $200k in gifts. Years later it came out the dad was loaded, heavily insured, and had investments like a Rockefeller. The kids' college funds were already covered. The widow renovated her mcmansion, bought a vacation home, and quit her job. Shrug.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm weirded out by the ones for funerals. If you can't afford a funeral, then you need to cremate and do the cheapest thing possible. The person is dead - they won't care about what flower arrangement was there.

States provide funds for burials.

Tell us all about your experience using these state funds. By all means.