The paying adults (OP and DH) get their own room. The kids share.

If BF is uncomfortable sharing with GF’s siblings, we’ll, to torture the cliche, an invitation is not a summons.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t all the kids share a room and you and DH get your own room. Your DD and her boyfriend will just have to abstain from having sex in the hotel room.

Because then BF has zero privacy and gets put is a room with kids they may not know

What is this "people they don't know" thing. Generally, you introduce your boyfriend to your family when you bring him on vacation, thus transforming them into people they know.

Having been introduced to your GF’s siblings doesn’t mean you want to sleep and snore next to them, have bad breath and morning eye crust together, fart, wait for someone to finish taking a dump, and change clothes together.

You people are gross and way too familiar with strangers.

If their relationship is at a point where you would bring him on vacation with you, then he should be able to suck it up and sleep in the “kids room”. You and DH, being the parents, get your own room.

Anonymous wrote:2 hotel rooms is tight. I’d take one room for DH and me and all the “kids” in the other. Or men/women. I would not give the 2 of them one room and have us squeeze into the other. For beach houses when we have the space I give them a room. (I’ve evolved to this thinking — my parents would be rolling in their graves).

this is a good op[tion.. all 4 kids together. adults own room. I mean you're paying I'm assuming?

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t all the kids share a room and you and DH get your own room. Your DD and her boyfriend will just have to abstain from having sex in the hotel room.

Because then BF has zero privacy and gets put is a room with kids they may not know

What is this "people they don't know" thing. Generally, you introduce your boyfriend to your family when you bring him on vacation, thus transforming them into people they know.

Anonymous wrote:split by gender.

+1

Unless they want to pay for their own room.

Anonymous wrote:2 hotel rooms is tight. I’d take one room for DH and me and all the “kids” in the other. Or men/women. I would not give the 2 of them one room and have us squeeze into the other. For beach houses when we have the space I give them a room. (I’ve evolved to this thinking — my parents would be rolling in their graves).

I’d do the same with two hotel rooms - all kids together including boyfriend.

Anonymous wrote:They are adults and should be treated as such. They sleep together. It is actually more awkward for everyone the other way. Imagine sharing a hotel room with him. That is really weird.

I’ve shared hotel rooms with coworkers and classmates; if we went to the pool we might end up inthe locker room at the same time changing.

I would probably not want to share a bed with him, but a room with a bathroom with its own door? Fine.

BF or DD should offer to pitch in.

I don’t have any problem with a 21yo having sex with her boyfriend, but if anyone is having sex on the vacation it’s gonna be he/she who pays the bills… so if we couldn’t afford 3 rooms it would be me and DH in our own room and all the “kids” in the other. The BF can deal with the lack of privacy or skip the trip. Why is he going on the family vacation anyway?

Yeah, you need at least 3 and probably 4 rooms. Your DD and BF want to fornicate freely and have some privacy. Your teens also don’t want to share a hotel room with their parents. Depending on the ages and genders of the teens, maybe they can share, but we’d probably just get them two rooms (or at least a suite where they have separate BRs and bathrooms).

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t all the kids share a room and you and DH get your own room. Your DD and her boyfriend will just have to abstain from having sex in the hotel room.

Because then BF has zero privacy and gets put is a room with kids they may not know

Why can’t all the kids share a room and you and DH get your own room. Your DD and her boyfriend will just have to abstain from having sex in the hotel room.

Anonymous wrote:I didn't have sex until I married at 31 and would have been uncomfortable being forced to share a room by his parents with my boyfriend at 21. At the same time, it's weird to force her to stay with same-sex strangers she likely doesn't know.

A large vacation rental solves this problem (and many others).

No one is making you have sex just by sharing a room. I'm gonna bet you share a room with your husband but don't screw every night.

Three rooms: One for you and your spouse, one for your teenage kids, one for your young adult daughter and BF. Give everyone some freaking privacy and space.

The teens WILL NOT comment on their sister’s sleeping arrangements, because they are at an age when anything involving sex + family members = exponential embarrassment. But you will still be modeling respect and support for a healthy, committed relationship between responsible, consenting adults, which they will notice and file away until the appropriate time.