I’m 54 years old, 122 pounds. 10 pounds would take me down to 112.

I’d rather be muscular and fit at 122. I’d be skeletal at 112.

I do the Peloton strength workouts. Choose weights that are challenging, but you can maintain good form.

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Anonymous wrote:For people who strength train at home, what weights do you have and where did you buy them?

I got mine at target. I have 3, 5, 8, 10, 12, 15, 20 pounds, but both my husband I use them. We've acquired them throughout the years.

Yes...I love the Target weights, and they often go on sale for 20% off. If you want fancier ones, then I've seen Peleton weights at TJMaxx and their affiliated stores for about 30-40% off from their online prices.

I know most people will say the brand or matching set of weights doesn't matter, but I'm on the side of whatever motivates you to workout.

Anonymous wrote:For people who strength train at home, what weights do you have and where did you buy them?

I bought gloves & free weights from Target. A floor mat. I bought a Peloton. I like their strength classes. I use 20lb weights for heavies and 15lb weights for my mediums. My next step is getting a barbell, I’ll do that down the road. For people who lift “heavy” 20lbs doesn’t sound like a lot, but it’s amazing how my body has changed since I’ve started even w/out working out heavy - my arms and shoulders are redefined. My back is strong. My poster is straight. My butt has muscle. My core is stronger. It’s exciting to see the progress.

I would really, really prioritize getting more rest. Sounds like you're worn out and that's not exactly conducive to a big change in habits. You might have to drop a few other balls but it'll be worth it for your health and well-being.

Maybe focus more on macros? And I know this sucks to hear, but I gave up sugar for diet-maintained GD and noticed I stayed fuller longer, had far fewer cravings of any kind, and had more consistent energy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I could have written this. I definitely can cut back on portions and snacks. But I enjoy food and because of sluggish midlife metabolism I am really not eating copious amounts of food. But definitely not restricting or avoiding carbs or anything like that.

PP, 5-10 lbs will make a big difference for some. Not sure why you would say that.

5-10 lbs would make a big difference for me! 10lbs would take me down from a size 4 to a size 2

Short people! I lost 10lbs and it took me from a snug size 8 to a comfortable size 8.

Anonymous wrote:5-10 pounds will make a difference, but it’s not much, and it’s difficult if that’s all that’s needed to get to your goal weight, especially right now when it’s still cold outside.

Wait until you’re 30 pounds overweight like me, in the obese range, and your blood pressure is teetering on problematic - then you will be super motivated and not mind being a little hungry.

I'm 6lbs off my goal weight and motivation is an issue. Tempting to say "what's the difference"

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Anonymous wrote:For people who strength train at home, what weights do you have and where did you buy them?

I have 3, 8, 12, 15, 20
Amazon or any sporting goods store. Skipping some weights like 5 and 10 pound dumbbells acc helped me get stronger faster

I have 3, 5, 10, 12, 15, 20, 25, 30. And a couple kettlebells. We’ve gradually acquired them over the last 5 years or so, from Target, Dick’s, or free from neighbors giving them away. DH used them also. I think I started with 5s and 10s.

Anonymous wrote:OP I hear you. In the same boat.

I used to have a killer body, I was beautiful, watched what I ate, and exercised. But now, I just want to give up and do and eat what I want. But the consequence is I feel ugly, look ugly, I know I’m now the fat nobody disappearing into the background. I just have no willpower anymore and no idea how to get it back. I’m a ghost now. A fat, lazy nobody. I’m ashamed, but it’s so hard now to lose the 40 pounds I’ve gained. My world feels is stressful and adds to this weight gain. Wish I could do something else but it isn’t that easy.

Please don't think about yourself this way. You are not your body shape or weight. The scale doesn't define you.

Anonymous wrote:5-10 pounds will make a difference, but it’s not much, and it’s difficult if that’s all that’s needed to get to your goal weight, especially right now when it’s still cold outside.

Wait until you’re 30 pounds overweight like me, in the obese range, and your blood pressure is teetering on problematic - then you will be super motivated and not mind being a little hungry.

now that is a motivator!

find a gym your kids like- one that has a lifeguard pool/indoor play area and have the kids there and workout for 30 min, go to sauna/hottub for 30. then work up the exercise factor. we absolve eating a really yummy dinner so I figured out a few salad and soup recipes that feel super indulgent and yummy and used our beans/lentil intake. I started fitting. better in my clothes like 2 weeks in. find a way to workout that is self care. I'm too lazy and love food too much plus have 3 kids and middle schoolers are exhausting, at least my 4 year old is super stinking cute plus it doesnt really matter if I lose that battle, 7th grade it matters more=more stress. so I just started doing the, working out a bit, sauna and hot tub and then increasing the actual workout time. some days I do a whole strength training workout, somedays I walk 3mph for 20minyes and 20 in the hot tub, the gym just feels like relaxing place to check out though so I make the effort to go. I think lifetime is the only dc gym the offers this though. I move to the midwest and there are a lot of these social club type gyms here.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I could have written this. I definitely can cut back on portions and snacks. But I enjoy food and because of sluggish midlife metabolism I am really not eating copious amounts of food. But definitely not restricting or avoiding carbs or anything like that.

PP, 5-10 lbs will make a big difference for some. Not sure why you would say that.

5-10 lbs would make a big difference for me! 10lbs would take me down from a size 4 to a size 2

Anonymous wrote:For people who strength train at home, what weights do you have and where did you buy them?

I have 3, 8, 12, 15, 20
Amazon or any sporting goods store. Skipping some weights like 5 and 10 pound dumbbells acc helped me get stronger faster

Anonymous wrote:I think I would lose weight if I could just serve myself small portions and no seconds. I don't need to eat like a marathoner or pregnant or nursing mother at this time in my life. But I have absolutely no motivation to make better choices, especially in the afternoon (snack and caffeine to push through the workday) and evening (dinner is the one interesting meal prepared with care I have time for). It's not even like I'm tormented and fighting myself, I just am exhausted and don't care.

But I look actively horrible in every picture of me from the last year or two. 5-10 lbs would do a lot. How do I get myself to care?

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5-10 pounds will make a difference, but it’s not much, and it’s difficult if that’s all that’s needed to get to your goal weight, especially right now when it’s still cold outside.

Wait until you’re 30 pounds overweight like me, in the obese range, and your blood pressure is teetering on problematic - then you will be super motivated and not mind being a little hungry.

OP, I read the title of this thread and thought, “PREACH!” I thought it again when you wrote, “Resetting comforting habits really does sound like a project and I’m at capacity.”

That is *exactly* how I feel. I exercise daily, meditate, eat a reasonably healthy diet, blah blah, but I also have three kids in elementary, DH and I work FT, the pandemic shot my stress level through the roof and… I want a second (or third) helping at dinner. I want to enjoy the homemade baked goods I’ve perfected during the past three years. Because I’m healthy and strong, it’s hard to find the motivation even when I know 5-10 pounds would make a difference for me (all my weight goes to my thighs).

Sigh. Solidarity, I guess, since I don’t have much by way of advice to offer. Oh, I do lift at home though, using the Peloton strength workouts. I have dumbbells in 10, 20, and 30 pound pairs.