Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 23:43     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened to me. I am glad.

My ex had a congenital heart problem. My mom told me it would lead to a lot of heartbreak to have kids with him. More is now known about his health (very rare genetic defect) and I have to admit she was right. He’s under 40 and on a list for a heart transplant now. I have 3 healthy kids with someone else.


This is cold.


Actually, I think the kids lucked out. Their father will be around.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 22:25     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened to me. I am glad.

My ex had a congenital heart problem. My mom told me it would lead to a lot of heartbreak to have kids with him. More is now known about his health (very rare genetic defect) and I have to admit she was right. He’s under 40 and on a list for a heart transplant now. I have 3 healthy kids with someone else.


You must not have loved this man.


I don’t love anyone enough to saddle my children with heartbreak and congenital conditions or myself with single parenting and widowhood.

DP. But choosing not to marry someone with a KNOWN problem doesn’t mean that your children won’t experience heartbreak and congenital conditions. And it certainly doesn’t assure that you won’t end up a single parent or a widow.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 21:44     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
I wish they would have been more clear.

And I wish I would have not married him.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 18:03     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened to me. I am glad.

My ex had a congenital heart problem. My mom told me it would lead to a lot of heartbreak to have kids with him. More is now known about his health (very rare genetic defect) and I have to admit she was right. He’s under 40 and on a list for a heart transplant now. I have 3 healthy kids with someone else.


You must not have loved this man.


I don’t love anyone enough to saddle my children with heartbreak and congenital conditions or myself with single parenting and widowhood.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 17:45     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:Each of my parents have been divorced three times, so their opinions on marriage carry no weight.


lmao!
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 17:40     Subject: Re:Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Yes, because they've only ever wanted what's best for me. If they said do not marry DH, I would have listened.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 16:39     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened to me. I am glad.

My ex had a congenital heart problem. My mom told me it would lead to a lot of heartbreak to have kids with him. More is now known about his health (very rare genetic defect) and I have to admit she was right. He’s under 40 and on a list for a heart transplant now. I have 3 healthy kids with someone else.


You must not have loved this man.


She may have loved this person. We all know marriage is hard, why set yourself up to make it harder. Why would you want to go into a marriage and have kids with someone that might not be around to help you raise them? Love does not conquer all. The practicalities of life are important when considered who to marry.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 16:37     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened to me. I am glad.

My ex had a congenital heart problem. My mom told me it would lead to a lot of heartbreak to have kids with him. More is now known about his health (very rare genetic defect) and I have to admit she was right. He’s under 40 and on a list for a heart transplant now. I have 3 healthy kids with someone else.


You must not have loved this man.


You must be young & naive.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 16:36     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:Love clouds judgement + youthful inexperience so this is exactly when you should listen to parents.


+1. I should have listened to my parents. But I was in my 20s and of course, I knew better than them at the time.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 16:35     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
and his dad was twice divorced before marrying his mom so likely not the best person to seek advice from.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 16:33     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
My DH's mom was financially dependent on him and didn't want anyone who would interrupt that so her advice was self serving even if not with no ill will towards DH or the other person.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 16:04     Subject: Re:Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
I didn’t listen to my parents who didn’t like ex-DH and wow, how I wish I did! I waited over 12 years of my life and my divorce was messy and co-parenting is awful. I 100% should have listened to my parents. Sometimes (not always) parents DO know best.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 13:47     Subject: Re:Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
I deliberately did not confide in my parents. I’d made my decision to go through life with this woman; to hell with what anyone else thought. And I did the right thing, looking back.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 13:47     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened to me. I am glad.

My ex had a congenital heart problem. My mom told me it would lead to a lot of heartbreak to have kids with him. More is now known about his health (very rare genetic defect) and I have to admit she was right. He’s under 40 and on a list for a heart transplant now. I have 3 healthy kids with someone else.


You must not have loved this man.


+1
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2023 13:34     Subject: Would you listen to your parents if they told you not to marry someone?
I think it depends on your parents and how they've guided you in the past. If they're always looking out for your best interests, then it's worthwhile listening to them. If they have a history of screwing with you, why would you listen to them?