Anonymous
03/07/2023 21:11
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Does he do other things? I cook, but DH does bath and bedtime and dishes. I like having my evenings free after the dinner rush.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 21:09
Subject: If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Chick fil a
Order pizza
Taco night
Pasta night
Breakfast-for-dinner night
Sheet pan meal night with pre cut chicken breast and veggies from market
Grill night? Would your DH be in charge of making hamburgers and veggies on the grill?
Order pizza
Taco night
Pasta night
Breakfast-for-dinner night
Sheet pan meal night with pre cut chicken breast and veggies from market
Grill night? Would your DH be in charge of making hamburgers and veggies on the grill?
Anonymous
03/07/2023 20:59
Subject: If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Make food 4 days you are not working. I mean 3 days with cleaning help does sound too much to me
This. Make extra and have leftovers on the nights you work. Or learn to love the slow cooker.
It's sounds too much she does all of the cleaning and cooking and wants to outsource the intense cleaning?
Anonymous
03/07/2023 20:36
Subject: If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:Make food 4 days you are not working. I mean 3 days with cleaning help does sound too much to me
This. Make extra and have leftovers on the nights you work. Or learn to love the slow cooker.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 20:35
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids? We have ours help with chores.
3 & 7. I have a hard time getting them to pick up their toys. I have to ask a million times, no joke.
Stop asking so many times. Give them a deadline every day to pick up toys. Give them one reminder each day shortly before deadline. Anything they don't pick up gets boxed up and you keep it in the closet for at least a week.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 20:13
Subject: If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
My husband never says a negative word about my horses so there ya go.
In your situation? I would only cook 3 nights a week.
My brother and I did the cooking on weekends starting at age 10. You can also get really good quality takeout.
In your situation? I would only cook 3 nights a week.
My brother and I did the cooking on weekends starting at age 10. You can also get really good quality takeout.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 20:09
Subject: If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:One good rule is cook once - eat twice. Roast some pork and make it into bbq or tacos. Cook a chicken and eat 1/2 each night maybe one night with a sauce. Etc ...
This. Cook on the days you don’t work and eat the leftovers on the work days. Hire cleaning help. Eat out one day a week when it makes sense. Assuming your husband helps in other ways and isn’t just checked out and lazy, I would be fine with this.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 20:07
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
I quit my job, since I earned about 10 percent of what he earned, and now I still do all the cooking, cleaning and general organizing of our family’s life, but I don’t have a second job I have to do as well.
Nothing else worked. His job earns so much money and it requires frequent travel and long hours so there wasn’t really any sharing of the housework to be done.
Nothing else worked. His job earns so much money and it requires frequent travel and long hours so there wasn’t really any sharing of the housework to be done.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 18:48
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
If you’ve had an honest conversation about what he needs to do to run the joint household and he won’t, time to outsource his half. Make room in the budget for a cleaning person and take out. If he doesn’t like it he can cook. No one is forcing you to cook. Find something for yourself and let him know he needs to make dinner for himself in the kids. Assuming he’s a functioning adult he can figure it out.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 18:35
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Honestly that is too much chick fil a.
Here are some of my less than 10 minute hands on go-to meals:
Frozen lasagna + salad
Chicken nuggets, box Mac (I do it in the microwave) and roasted broccoli.
Quesadilla with cheese, canned beans, and spinach
Baked boneless/skinless chicken thighs, rice, broccoli. I do the chicken thighs in soy sauce + chili garlic paste.
Kitchn instant pot spaghetti
Trader Joe’s orange chicken and fried rice
Trader Joe’s sweet potato gnocchi, skirt steak, green beans (microwave)
She goes once a week. Your meals look processed. Not sure what you're trying to get at.
+1. Chick Fil A is probably healthier than half the items on that list.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 18:09
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I barely cook - DH does that. We have a cleaning service twice a week. Dh loves cooking - he claims to find it relaxing. It doesn't take long to make rice, steam vegetables, and bake chicken.
Says the person who barely cooks.
I'm literally quoting him.
Way to miss the point of the post.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 18:08
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I barely cook - DH does that. We have a cleaning service twice a week. Dh loves cooking - he claims to find it relaxing. It doesn't take long to make rice, steam vegetables, and bake chicken.
Says the person who barely cooks.
I'm literally quoting him.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 18:07
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:I barely cook - DH does that. We have a cleaning service twice a week. Dh loves cooking - he claims to find it relaxing. It doesn't take long to make rice, steam vegetables, and bake chicken.
Says the person who barely cooks.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 18:06
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Anonymous wrote:Honestly that is too much chick fil a.
Here are some of my less than 10 minute hands on go-to meals:
Frozen lasagna + salad
Chicken nuggets, box Mac (I do it in the microwave) and roasted broccoli.
Quesadilla with cheese, canned beans, and spinach
Baked boneless/skinless chicken thighs, rice, broccoli. I do the chicken thighs in soy sauce + chili garlic paste.
Kitchn instant pot spaghetti
Trader Joe’s orange chicken and fried rice
Trader Joe’s sweet potato gnocchi, skirt steak, green beans (microwave)
She goes once a week. Your meals look processed. Not sure what you're trying to get at.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 17:54
Subject: Re:If your spouse doesn't cook, or clean, how do you make peace?
Honestly that is too much chick fil a.
Here are some of my less than 10 minute hands on go-to meals:
Frozen lasagna + salad
Chicken nuggets, box Mac (I do it in the microwave) and roasted broccoli.
Quesadilla with cheese, canned beans, and spinach
Baked boneless/skinless chicken thighs, rice, broccoli. I do the chicken thighs in soy sauce + chili garlic paste.
Kitchn instant pot spaghetti
Trader Joe’s orange chicken and fried rice
Trader Joe’s sweet potato gnocchi, skirt steak, green beans (microwave)
Here are some of my less than 10 minute hands on go-to meals:
Frozen lasagna + salad
Chicken nuggets, box Mac (I do it in the microwave) and roasted broccoli.
Quesadilla with cheese, canned beans, and spinach
Baked boneless/skinless chicken thighs, rice, broccoli. I do the chicken thighs in soy sauce + chili garlic paste.
Kitchn instant pot spaghetti
Trader Joe’s orange chicken and fried rice
Trader Joe’s sweet potato gnocchi, skirt steak, green beans (microwave)