Anonymous
03/07/2023 12:10
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Here’s an idea, if you’re worried enough about what will happen at beach week that you want to draw up an unenforceable and non-binding contract with your kid, don’t sign the effing lease for the house and don’t send them to beach week. It is not some kind of right for 18 year olds to spend a week at the beach partying and drinking and wrecking rental houses, to say nothing of ruining the vacations of others who are unwittingly renting the home next door.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 10:30
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:I can’t. You let your kids go to beach week but want them to sign a contact you think they will obey?
What a laugh
Kids going to beach week will be leaving for college two months or less later. If you can't give your child some freedom, with limits, eight weeks before they leave for college then you did something wrong.
It's the soon to be leaving for college that's a big party of the problem IMHO.
You hook up with someone at beach week or get crazy drunk or high because it feels like there are no consequences or it's the last chance to be with these people.
In college, you at least have to think about whether you'll see these people again in your dorm or in class.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 10:29
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
No bubble bath in the hot tub
No firework from butt cheeks
No firework from butt cheeks
Anonymous
03/07/2023 10:29
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can’t. You let your kids go to beach week but want them to sign a contact you think they will obey?
What a laugh
Kids going to beach week will be leaving for college two months or less later. If you can't give your child some freedom, with limits, eight weeks before they leave for college then you did something wrong.
Kids in college have unwritten contracts.
+1. If your child heading to college (or in college) doesn't know what you expect of them, and care what you expect of them, then the battle is already lost.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 10:23
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:I can’t. You let your kids go to beach week but want them to sign a contact you think they will obey?
What a laugh
Kids going to beach week will be leaving for college two months or less later. If you can't give your child some freedom, with limits, eight weeks before they leave for college then you did something wrong.
Kids in college have unwritten contracts.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 10:22
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
Who is enforcing these rules you all are coming up with? Genuinely curious. This is just not based on reality.
My advice is every kid goes in and it's every man for him/herself. As the adult, never ever agree to sign the lease or have anything to do with the landlord. The parents who do this are nuts but a sucker is born every day.
Tell your child:
If you see your friend unresponsive call 911.
If a friend is missing from the house, contact their parent.
For females, drink nothing you have not opened yourself.
For boys, consent, consent, consent, consent, consent.
All can be filmed. All can be shared.
Decisions made during this weekend can cause signficant road bumps in your life and rescind college acceptances. This is not just scare tactics, it's happened.
If/when you get evicted, call and I'll come pick you up.
My advice is every kid goes in and it's every man for him/herself. As the adult, never ever agree to sign the lease or have anything to do with the landlord. The parents who do this are nuts but a sucker is born every day.
Tell your child:
If you see your friend unresponsive call 911.
If a friend is missing from the house, contact their parent.
For females, drink nothing you have not opened yourself.
For boys, consent, consent, consent, consent, consent.
All can be filmed. All can be shared.
Decisions made during this weekend can cause signficant road bumps in your life and rescind college acceptances. This is not just scare tactics, it's happened.
If/when you get evicted, call and I'll come pick you up.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 09:50
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
None of this is helpful to OP. Here you go:
Make use every adult of every student, and every student, has a copy of an emergency contact list with cell numbers for each student and each parent
Make sure every adult has a copy of a list of who is driving to and from the beach with whom
Legal (I am not a lawyer!):
All parties agree to share equally in the costs (rental fee, shared food and beverages)
All parties agree to indemnify and hold harmless all parties from all claims, costs liabilities, loses, damages and expenses, including but not limited to court ot arbitration costs, attorneys fees, etc.
The exception to the above is "you break it, you pay for it" if one parties acts, activities, accidents, negligent or intentional acts cause damage, that person pays
Waiver and release of claims against the rentor (adult who signed lease) for personal injury, bodily harm or death
Rules that all must agree to:
-Buddy system when in the ocean and after dark
-Driving under the influence will not be tolerated - no one gets into a car with someone they know or suspect is under the influence
-no swimming in the ocean after dark
-no going on the roof or jumping off anything
-no cigarettes, vaping, vaping devices, drugs, or fireworks in the house or on the premises
-all must be back in the house for the night by 2am
-no additional guests in the house after 2am/no sleepovers
-no large gatherings/parties at the house
-any guests must follow the rules of the house or will he asked to leave
-guests in common areas of the house only
-no destructive behavior to the house or its contents. If damage occurs an no one claims responsibility, costs will be divided equally among families in the house
-noise levels kept to a minimum
-every morning students must clean up any trash, spills or dishes
-fighting of any kind will not be tolerated and will be grounds for dismissal from the house (no refunds or partial refunds)
--on the last day, all must clean the house until it is in the condition it was upon arrival
-no one leaves without checking in with chaperone to confirm they have cleaned up after themselves and contributed to the overall cleanup efforts of the group, and to confirm to chaperone they are departing for home
Make use every adult of every student, and every student, has a copy of an emergency contact list with cell numbers for each student and each parent
Make sure every adult has a copy of a list of who is driving to and from the beach with whom
Legal (I am not a lawyer!):
All parties agree to share equally in the costs (rental fee, shared food and beverages)
All parties agree to indemnify and hold harmless all parties from all claims, costs liabilities, loses, damages and expenses, including but not limited to court ot arbitration costs, attorneys fees, etc.
The exception to the above is "you break it, you pay for it" if one parties acts, activities, accidents, negligent or intentional acts cause damage, that person pays
Waiver and release of claims against the rentor (adult who signed lease) for personal injury, bodily harm or death
Rules that all must agree to:
-Buddy system when in the ocean and after dark
-Driving under the influence will not be tolerated - no one gets into a car with someone they know or suspect is under the influence
-no swimming in the ocean after dark
-no going on the roof or jumping off anything
-no cigarettes, vaping, vaping devices, drugs, or fireworks in the house or on the premises
-all must be back in the house for the night by 2am
-no additional guests in the house after 2am/no sleepovers
-no large gatherings/parties at the house
-any guests must follow the rules of the house or will he asked to leave
-guests in common areas of the house only
-no destructive behavior to the house or its contents. If damage occurs an no one claims responsibility, costs will be divided equally among families in the house
-noise levels kept to a minimum
-every morning students must clean up any trash, spills or dishes
-fighting of any kind will not be tolerated and will be grounds for dismissal from the house (no refunds or partial refunds)
--on the last day, all must clean the house until it is in the condition it was upon arrival
-no one leaves without checking in with chaperone to confirm they have cleaned up after themselves and contributed to the overall cleanup efforts of the group, and to confirm to chaperone they are departing for home
Anonymous
03/06/2023 20:15
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:
1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos
ASK FOR CONSENT.
Anonymous
03/06/2023 20:00
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My contract:
Don't do stupid shlt.
Don't get drunk
Don't do drugs
Don't drink and drive if you do get drunk
Don't abuse the rental house; it's coming out of your checking account if you do.
Don't f*up your chances at college just for fun for that week
-love mom
LOL good one.
Add nobody gets left alone drunk.
Anonymous
03/06/2023 19:59
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Sad thing is that once your daughter has that first drink in the company of a bunch of friends, she’s a target for assault. But you delude yourself into believing, my kid can handle it.
Make sure you at least encourage your daughter to call 911 if she’s raped or assaulted in any way by acquaintance or stranger.
What is wrong with you?
Anonymous
03/06/2023 19:58
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:
1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos
And if any rules are broken?
5) No breaking rules
Anonymous
03/06/2023 19:30
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:
Sad thing is that once your daughter has that first drink in the company of a bunch of friends, she’s a target for assault. But you delude yourself into believing, my kid can handle it.
Make sure you at least encourage your daughter to call 911 if she’s raped or assaulted in any way by acquaintance or stranger.
Anonymous
03/06/2023 19:18
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:
1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos
And if any rules are broken?
OH WELL! Joke's on the teenager!
Anonymous
03/06/2023 19:10
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:I can’t. You let your kids go to beach week but want them to sign a contact you think they will obey?
What a laugh
SERIOUSLY! I am cackling at the naivete and hypocrisy.
Anonymous
03/06/2023 19:05
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:
1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos
And if any rules are broken?