Sure. I’m mixed race and I know my mom’s family (the dark ones) speculated a lot. I think it’s normal to wonder what any baby will look like. (Am currently 37 weeks pregnant and very eager to see what this one looks like, for example! :lol

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

I’m white. That would have made me extremely uncomfortable 15 years ago. If you’re not white, I’m not going to judge you if you think that’s in good fun, but as someone who is white, count me out.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

I don’t know if it’s racist, but it is very weird.

15 years was an eternity ago. Social media was still in its infancy.

PP. It would have been weird to me 15 years ago as well. I just find focusing on skin color to that extent very strange.

“To that extent”? It was one comment!

I think it’s not racist, but I also am skeptical of this world in which race characteristics Cannot Be Named but also we should celebrate them…it is very confusing because it lacks a logical structure.

Yes, this is what I meant by social media being in its infancy.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

I don’t know if it’s racist, but it is very weird.

15 years was an eternity ago. Social media was still in its infancy.

PP. It would have been weird to me 15 years ago as well. I just find focusing on skin color to that extent very strange.

“To that extent”? It was one comment!

I think it’s not racist, but I also am skeptical of this world in which race characteristics Cannot Be Named but also we should celebrate them…it is very confusing because it lacks a logical structure.

I think buying paint chips in various colors and passing them out to others to guess a future child’s complexion is very strange. I don’t know what comment you are talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

I don’t know if it’s racist, but it is very weird.

15 years was an eternity ago. Social media was still in its infancy.

PP. It would have been weird to me 15 years ago as well. I just find focusing on skin color to that extent very strange.

“To that extent”? It was one comment!

I think it’s not racist, but I also am skeptical of this world in which race characteristics Cannot Be Named but also we should celebrate them…it is very confusing because it lacks a logical structure.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

I don’t know if it’s racist, but it is very weird.

15 years was an eternity ago. Social media was still in its infancy.

PP. It would have been weird to me 15 years ago as well. I just find focusing on skin color to that extent very strange.

I just refrain from discussing anything related to looks to be on the safe side. Unless it’s someone else’s baby or someone else and I am talking to a trusted friend.
But never in a social situation where parents are present

The quarter black is the most hard to know combo. I am half black and my sister is also half black (obviously) and I look black and she looks mixed. Very common. But she married a white guy and her kids literally look white EXCEPT for the last one who looks mixed/skewing to 75 percent black. I married a black guy and all my kids look black (as most 75 percent do, think Obamas kids) but my husbands brother married a white girl and their kids look whiter than my sisters white kids. Anyway, mixed genes are a grab bag but when you are down to a quarter it’s the biggest “what if” in my experience. And everyone, and I mean everyone, is wondering about it and I think it’s natural. I disagree that loving your kids blue eyes or “promoting” them is racist, everyone looks for qualities they have in their kids and usually feel some special way about them? I think it’s natural. The worst part of being mixed is looking too white or too black because you can’t make anyone happy. I hope it’s something this next generation doesn’t deal with as much since interracial marriage is now common across all socioeconomic groups.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

I don’t know if it’s racist, but it is very weird.

15 years was an eternity ago. Social media was still in its infancy.

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Anonymous wrote:Context matters.

What context? Apparently, no one actually made this comment as the dynamic duo refuse to give name(s). Personally, I would be hoping the child would look like her and not have red hair and his father's peculiar too close together eyes. Oh. Dear! Am I red hair and strange eye shaming,!

Do you think red hair is a negative?

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Anonymous wrote:Context matters.

What context? Apparently, no one actually made this comment as the dynamic duo refuse to give name(s). Personally, I would be hoping the child would look like her and not have red hair and his father's peculiar too close together eyes. Oh. Dear! Am I red hair and strange eye shaming,!

Have you seen the relatives on her father's side?

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

Some Indians are obsessed with skin color.

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

I don’t know if it’s racist, but it is very weird.

I have a friend whose son (Indian) married a woman of Hispanic descent.

At the baby shower, Benjamin Moore paint chips were passed out so folks could guess the baby's skin color. Everyone was happy to welcome the baby, and love him/her whatever complexion.

It seemed pretty harmless at the time, maybe 15 years ago.

Anonymous wrote:Context matters.

What context? Apparently, no one actually made this comment as the dynamic duo refuse to give name(s). Personally, I would be hoping the child would look like her and not have red hair and his father's peculiar too close together eyes. Oh. Dear! Am I red hair and strange eye shaming,!