Anonymous wrote:I'd guess not keeping his hands to himself.

This, or repeated classroom disruption, looking up inappropriate material on his school computer, or making racist or sexual comments that have led to complaints from staff or other students. The bar is set very high in middle school. There's no way a middle school guidance counselor has the time or inclination to call most low level behaviors to a parent's attention.

I'd guess not keeping his hands to himself.

My wild guess is that there is a new not very experienced counselor who bothers teachers with her project of checking stupid boxes and it’s easier for them to check than to tell her how dumb it is. Then she sends it to parents with no explanation - almost like a dr telling you a diagnosis with no support
Maybe the behaviors listed for teachers to check against were really way too much expectation for the middle schoolers and then they all checked “not quite there yet”

Anonymous wrote:I find it kind of odd you, as people who live with him, would have no clue what they might be talking about. Did you ask him? They know what they’re doing.

It's very easy to miss "inappropriate behaviors " at 13.
It's the tween years where some kids are very mature and others are not "there" yet. Kids who are immature for their age tend to gravitate to other kids who are immature for their age. Unless your friends have similar age kids, there's a big neighborhood group or you work with children, it is just yoir kid being a kid.

Op I strongly suggest heading to the special needs board with any further questions. The women on this board will never win any awards for empathy

Anonymous wrote:Our son, diagnosed woth ADHS in 7th grade, was not sitting still in class and listening to teachers. Medication made a world of difference in every aspect of his life.

But there's no way to answer your question about your child until you hear back from the school.

I was told my son with ADHD was immature when compared to his peers in 7th grade. He went to a private school where the majority of his classmates went to pre-first so almost all of them were at least a year older than he was. I reminded his teachers of that. He was 12 and many of them were 14.

What does your son say about it? The school didn’t specify at all?! agree with previous posters who said he should have some idea what this about.

How are grades? Any problems there?

I have a 14yo DS (and also a 12yo DS) but I’d say there is a range for 13yo boys, for sure. Hard to help without more specifics.

If “all teachers agree” I would guess this is about in-class behavior, likely disruptive behavior?

Anonymous wrote:I find it kind of odd you, as people who live with him, would have no clue what they might be talking about. Did you ask him? They know what they’re doing.

I don’t find it odd at all. Before our daughter was diagnosed with ADHD and started taking medication, I was so used to her “style” that I though it was normal - just chalked it up to personality. I was inured to it.

Anonymous wrote:Immaturity. Excessive horseplay. Repetitive, intentional annoyance of classmates. Whining.

The middle schooler BOYS (and girls too to some extent) are like this!!!! Some more than others of course, but still too many that I don’t find this behavior atypical.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Immaturity. Excessive horseplay. Repetitive, intentional annoyance of classmates. Whining.

Sounds age appropriate to me.

At 13? At school? No. The kids who act like that at school are the troublemakers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Immaturity. Excessive horseplay. Repetitive, intentional annoyance of classmates. Whining.

Sounds age appropriate to me.

Well, sounds like OP can just ignore. Nothing to see here then. These teachers wouldn't know the difference given the wide range of 13 year olds they see. Or maybe they would?

What do you mean a box was checked? Are you at a private that does some kind of social emotional assessment? It could be a mistake or it could be something little like the talks too loud or interrupts.

Anonymous wrote:Immaturity. Excessive horseplay. Repetitive, intentional annoyance of classmates. Whining.

Sounds age appropriate to me.