Anonymous wrote:I'm regularly tipped from my occasional care families. As far as playdates, I usually don't expect extra but if it's something where the child will be over for 4+ hours and/or I'm expected to take them to outings, I won't turn away extra if given.

Maybe it’s semantics, but are you getting tips, or are they paying you a wage to watch their kids? A tip would feel insulting to me, but arranging for a nanny to watch your kids, and paying them an hourly wage is different.

Anonymous wrote:I have never tipped any sitter or nanny, ever. Please don't start this! Tipping culture is already way out of control.

I pay them a fair rate and (if a long-term nanny) provide bonus/severance/days off.

Wow.... You should probably tread lightly with statements like this....
what is a fair rate? Can you live off of the wage you pay your nanny? (probably not) so dont every say that what you give out for the care of your child is a fare rate....fare rate to who?

Now it may be what the nanny or babysitter charges because the INDUSTRY itself hasnt given us an appropriate raise. I am appalled by some of the low rates families are asking nannies to work for. Some are asking them to deal with a lot for a little.


Any and All service industries deserve tips.

Why would you give a server a tip for doing his job well but wouldn't consider giving a tip to someone who is caring for your Seed/Child you birthed? Chew on that.

By making this statement you have basically said that you value others more than a nanny/babysitter.

If you feel tipping culture is out of control then you should contribute to the discussions in congress to make sure wages are appropriate for such service jobs you dont feel deserve a t

nanny should discuss it with the parents so they would find a way of asking their child to only invite a friend when a parent is present. No, op, once you realized it was a nanny you should stay there yourself, maybe for a shorter time, but not to dump your child on other people's nanny. I do not think tipping is needed for one time but maybe regular payment next time you use their babysitter.

Anonymous wrote:No tip, but family should have told you

Did the parents even know they had a play date? OP said it was arranged by the kids at recess.

Anonymous wrote:When I was a nanny, I always felt SO used by people who would drop their kids off for playdates. I worked so hard at my role and it felt like my employers were farming me out to the neighborhood for free childcare. I would absolutely pay for my child to be watched by a nanny at someone else's house.

But that's on your employer. Especially if the parent like OP didn't even know there was going to be a nanny/sitter there instead of a parent.

No

No tip, but family should have told you

When I was a nanny, I always felt SO used by people who would drop their kids off for playdates. I worked so hard at my role and it felt like my employers were farming me out to the neighborhood for free childcare. I would absolutely pay for my child to be watched by a nanny at someone else's house.

Tipping for a play date is absurd. I just can’t believe this is even a real question.

Don't be insane. It's not your fault the other family isn't there to care for their kids. You don't need to pay into their child care preference.

I'm regularly tipped from my occasional care families. As far as playdates, I usually don't expect extra but if it's something where the child will be over for 4+ hours and/or I'm expected to take them to outings, I won't turn away extra if given.

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Anonymous wrote:No but it would be nice for you to reciprocate. ( former Nanny who hosted playdates and had my charges go on play dates)

Of course I would tip someone who agreed to be responsible for my child. Not nice to take advantage of someone’s kindness.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and playdates are part of the job.

Speak for yourself.