The fact you believed your daughter enough to come here and ask us this question is hilarious. She must be constantly pulling the wool over your eyes.

My 14 year old hasn’t done anything h worthy of being grounded.

Are you mad she vaped or that she did it in class?

Anonymous wrote:My DD keeps telling me that I’m the only one to take her phone away ground her when she gets in trouble…:. She got her phone taken away for almost a week when she was caught vaping in class, skipping or getting written up for Misbehaving… why aren’t other parents disciplining their kids when they act up?

How is your kid complaining about you are the only one who punishes when she has so many issue? Most kids don't vape, let alone vape IN class. I would punish MORE for those type of comments after being in that much trouble.

Anonymous wrote:My kids don’t do anything to warrant “grounding,” the most they do is make salty comments to us.

But, if they were vaping and skipping classes, the punishment would go far far far beyond grounding.

But, I wouldn’t take the phone away. They actually need phones for school (unlocking the buildings, checking assignments, turning things in, communicating with sports teams, texting with advisor, etc etc etc).

then they should have thought of that before vaping or skipping school. Those are serious.

I have never grounded my kid because he has never done anything like vaping or skipping school (or at least never got caught). And we would never ground him as punishment because he loves being in his room. We have to make him take his phone places. Different punishments work for different kids.

My kids don’t do anything to warrant “grounding,” the most they do is make salty comments to us.

But, if they were vaping and skipping classes, the punishment would go far far far beyond grounding.

But, I wouldn’t take the phone away. They actually need phones for school (unlocking the buildings, checking assignments, turning things in, communicating with sports teams, texting with advisor, etc etc etc).

THANKS!!! I am showing this to her!!!

We have absolutely grounded and taken away electronics, so no, you are not the only one!

No you aren’t the only one, but many don’t use the word “grounding” anymore even if that is effectively what it is. I take away phone/electronics and any requests for plans with friends are denied for a period of time, depending on what they did wrong. They still attend sports and activities, and any plans with the family. From what my kids say, taking away phones/electronics is a very common punishment.

To me the word grounding means can’t go out anywhere. I don’t ground my kid but I do take screens away, dessert away etc. she’s in 6th. She lied to me one Friday about not having homework and then was doing it Sunday night at bedtime. She lost all screens for an entire week because she was in her tablet both weekend mornings when she could have been doing homework.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you take her phone away for vaping in class? That doesn't make sense. What does the phone have to do with the infraction?

But, no, you're not the only one who grounds their kids. But usually I align the consequence with the infraction. Taking a phone away for something not phone related doesn't make sense.

Disagree. Taking away the phone and electronics ALWAYS makes sense!

The absolute worst punishment ever according to my teens . Take the phone away, definitely.

I don’t really the “take the phone away” as the answer to all things. But from what I hear from other parents it is THE most common form of discipline for tweets and up. So you’re hardly alone in your approach. Actually grounding? Haven’t had a reason to do that TBH. When kids mess up, as they do, we do a serious “ I’m really disappointed in you right now” and that’s pretty effective.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you take her phone away for vaping in class? That doesn't make sense. What does the phone have to do with the infraction?

But, no, you're not the only one who grounds their kids. But usually I align the consequence with the infraction. Taking a phone away for something not phone related doesn't make sense.

What would you do as punishment for vaping at school?

Not OP, but their backpack and room would be subject to random searches and drug tests. I would prevent them from going out unsupervised with friends for X amount of time, like a month or more. I likely would not take the phone, since I’ve found aligning things to what they did seems to work better.

DP. In our house, having a phone is a privilege that must be earned by demonstating responsibility and good choices/judgment. Vaping in class is irresponsible, demonstrates poor judgment and illegal. If I can't trust my child to avoid making such an egregiously wrong choice to vape, why would I trust them to make good choices with their phone?

It is interesting that you think that the kid who is vaping, skipping school, and getting written up for misbehavior is a reliable source of information on what other parents are doing.

My teenagers haven't yet vaped, skipped school or been written up for misbehavior, but they have lost their phone for a day for violating our house rules on phones going down on the chargers in the kitchen at night.

Hard to know for sure but is the problem that the kids who have no significant consequences are the kids that your kid is hanging out with and getting in trouble with. Do you know the parents of your kids' friends?