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Anonymous wrote:This is bizarre. I’m an attorney and have NEVER seen another attorney dress as you’re describing. If I were her client, I would question her judgement. This is so unprofessional. Does your girlfriend have female mentors at the firm. This type of thing could derail her career.

Oh please, she was probably wearing a blazer.

She put on a coat before she left, but it was an outdoor coat.

I am a female attorney, and simply keep several blazers and a full suit at the office. No longer at a firm, but same type of environment. It’s just easier, especially in the winter to keep them at work. They don’t get wrinkled as easily, no need to deal with them under coats uncomfortably, and such. So I frequently had to work, and what would appear to be an under layer, sheath dress, or a skirt, or pants, and a blouse, without the outer upper layer. If you saw me without my coat on at that time, it would seem as though I didn’t have a complete outfit, and the sheath dress without more wood luck a bit out of place for my usual style.

if she made an error in judgment as to whether or not, some thing fits her well, and this is unusual, I think she would take into account your comment, any other luxe or comments, or her own, glancing in the mirror during the day, and may not choose to wear The dress again. Or she may decide that she thinks it looks just fine and likes it as one of her several looks. I don’t think there’s anything wrong and actually would encourage spouses to let the other one know if an outfit seems out of the norm for the person in a way that they may not realize. The idea that you say it makes you uncomfortable, though, is more troubling to me.

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Anonymous wrote:This is bizarre. I’m an attorney and have NEVER seen another attorney dress as you’re describing. If I were her client, I would question her judgement. This is so unprofessional. Does your girlfriend have female mentors at the firm. This type of thing could derail her career.

Oh please, she was probably wearing a blazer.

She put on a coat before she left, but it was an outdoor coat.

Anonymous wrote:This is bizarre. I’m an attorney and have NEVER seen another attorney dress as you’re describing. If I were her client, I would question her judgement. This is so unprofessional. Does your girlfriend have female mentors at the firm. This type of thing could derail her career.

Oh please, she was probably wearing a blazer.

Buy her a burqa for tomorrow.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she an attorney or staff? Maybe she’s looking to trade up.

An attorney.

You are with an attorney with a juicy booty? You better appreciate what you have and SFTU!

LOL. I do appreciate it. But is that really a good look?

pretty sure she will get the feed back on whether or not this is appropriate at work through veiled comments, looks, etc. maybe she misjudged--I mean, I dont wear plunging/revealing dresses to cocktail attire work events, only non -work events--but that's me. Doesn't sound right for law firm, unless she wears a blazer or jacket over, in which case a fitted sheath is normal. Then again I am 52, maybe things have changed.

Anonymous wrote:This is bizarre. I’m an attorney and have NEVER seen another attorney dress as you’re describing. If I were her client, I would question her judgement. This is so unprofessional. Does your girlfriend have female mentors at the firm. This type of thing could derail her career.

Her main sponsor at the firm is a male senior partner.

I will say, this is not how she regularly dresses. Hence why I commented.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she an attorney or staff? Maybe she’s looking to trade up.

An attorney.

You are with an attorney with a juicy booty? You better appreciate what you have and SFTU!

Anonymous wrote:Heel height is also a strong indicator of slutty behavior, so OP do her shoes send the wrong message according to you?

She was just wearing regular heels. Not the five-inchers or whatever. If I had to guess, they were maybe 2 and 3/4 inches.

Again, not really my speciality, but I didn't notice too much about the heels.

This is bizarre. I’m an attorney and have NEVER seen another attorney dress as you’re describing. If I were her client, I would question her judgement. This is so unprofessional. Does your girlfriend have female mentors at the firm. This type of thing could derail her career.

Heel height is also a strong indicator of slutty behavior, so OP do her shoes send the wrong message according to you?

OP here. I forgot to mention it had an open back too. Like not quite all the way down to the posterior. Somewhere between three eights and five eights of the back exposed.

Sorry, I don't really know women's fashion, so don't know what this kind of cut is called. Maybe a plunging back?

Anonymous wrote:Some women confuse "professional" with being "sexy." Unfortunately, this is a red flag; I don't think this is insecurity, this is about respecting and honoring your relationship. My wife has a beautiful body, and dresses in a way that is attractive and professional, but not lusty - there are times and places for that.

This is similar to the gym women who wear wedgie tights because they are "comfortable." Meanwhile, hookers and strippers are wearing similar clothing to "drum up" business.

Tell her she can wear what she wants; just respect your relationship together. Btw, that's a two-way street...

I think you have a pretty unhealthy obsession with other people’s leggings.

Anonymous wrote:Is she an attorney or staff? Maybe she’s looking to trade up.

An attorney.

Some women confuse "professional" with being "sexy." Unfortunately, this is a red flag; I don't think this is insecurity, this is about respecting and honoring your relationship. My wife has a beautiful body, and dresses in a way that is attractive and professional, but not lusty - there are times and places for that.

This is similar to the gym women who wear wedgie tights because they are "comfortable." Meanwhile, hookers and strippers are wearing similar clothing to "drum up" business.

Tell her she can wear what she wants; just respect your relationship together. Btw, that's a two-way street...