Following.

Wow, my DH has almost identical stats - same age, weight fluctuations and lifestyle changes!

I haven't found the magic bullet to help him. Agree with others on never saying no to a workout...its been motivating for him to feel stronger, capable of lifting more and increasing endurance (plus he has found a little community in his personal trainers studio).

but I have not managed to find a way to help him with food....he has no self control and often eats late at night. I will often see 5-6 empty snack size bags of Pirates Booty in our TV room during a late night binge. He knows he has an unhealthy relationship with food. He also loves his beer (not an alcoholic, just loves those gross to me IPAs etc).

Its hard to find the balance of support without nagging.....

A man at 5 8" at 200 pounds isn't a lot.

145 would be very thin!!

Anonymous wrote:Does he have a good life insurance policy? Because you're going to need it.

Yes he does, but this isn’t helpful. He’s on the treadmill right now.

Does he have a good life insurance policy? Because you're going to need it.

Agree with lots of others that I’d just leave him be. My wife is pretty good about that. She does demand we get take out on Friday and gets all annoyed when I don’t want to eat a pile of trash when I’m training for something. I’ve resolved that by finding my own take out and getting her something different

Don't do what my DW does and make me feel guilty for a lousy 30minutes of exercise. She texts me while I'm running about something the kids did and then when I get home says it must have been nice to exercise, makes passive aggressive comments, etc. Not very motivating.

He may binge eat in secret=no way to be 210 with eating normal amounts of food at 5 8=so emotional eater

My DH is 5'8 and 240 and eats considerably less than I do at 5'4 and 115. He is eating a small breakfast and a normal sized dinner, maybe a piece of fruit in between. (I am basically a hungry squirrel eating all day). Very different appetites and metabolism. He could be active more consistently but there is no issue with his calorie intake. He's had all the blood work. Hopefully he'll get Ozempic at some point.

His family is the same. SIL eats about 4 bites of food per meal and it would be never occur to her to have a snack. Shes not overweight but probably on the higher end of normal. They are all fighting crappy metabolism.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think most men want help, so I would just leave him alone about it.

Show your support by not buying junk food, eating heathy yourself, being active yourself, and not sabotaging him in any way.

My husband recently bought Girl Scout cookies, and I asked him to please not buy my favorite (Samoas). He then ordered 3 boxes of Samoas (plus Thin Mints, which my son likes, so fine). I'm still mad about it. Sure, I can just not eat them, but it felt really disrespectful.

Assuming he doesn’t like Samoas, it definitely is disrespectful.

I don't think most men want help, so I would just leave him alone about it.

Show your support by not buying junk food, eating heathy yourself, being active yourself, and not sabotaging him in any way.

My husband recently bought Girl Scout cookies, and I asked him to please not buy my favorite (Samoas). He then ordered 3 boxes of Samoas (plus Thin Mints, which my son likes, so fine). I'm still mad about it. Sure, I can just not eat them, but it felt really disrespectful.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you convince him to get blood work? That's what did it for my DH. He got a cold dose of ugly reality recently, and that is all he needed.

He hasn’t had a checkup in a while, so that’s a good idea.

He could also ask the dr if there's any medical reason why he's overweight despite his healthy habits. It's surprising that a runner who eats healthy would be that overweight.

He hasn’t exercised regularly in quite awhile. He ran all the time in college and would do long distances — 8-10 miles at a time. I think his body retains that cardio endurance. He can just get on the treadmill and go. He has a lot more endurance than I do.

I agree with the person who said they’re “skinny fat.” I feel like that’s him. He can do things athletically that you would not expect if you looked at him.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you convince him to get blood work? That's what did it for my DH. He got a cold dose of ugly reality recently, and that is all he needed.

He hasn’t had a checkup in a while, so that’s a good idea.

Except he already had the "dose of ugly reality" as you called it. He is doing it. The question was "how to support him."

I love it when you all start piling on the fat person even when they are clearly trying and doing what they are supposed to do. This was about her not him.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you convince him to get blood work? That's what did it for my DH. He got a cold dose of ugly reality recently, and that is all he needed.

He hasn’t had a checkup in a while, so that’s a good idea.

He could also ask the dr if there's any medical reason why he's overweight despite his healthy habits. It's surprising that a runner who eats healthy would be that overweight.

Anonymous wrote:Can you convince him to get blood work? That's what did it for my DH. He got a cold dose of ugly reality recently, and that is all he needed.

He hasn’t had a checkup in a while, so that’s a good idea.

Can you convince him to get blood work? That's what did it for my DH. He got a cold dose of ugly reality recently, and that is all he needed.

Anonymous wrote:What's his alcohol intake?

He drinks at most once a week.