Oh please! You’re being unreasonable. An international vacation for your birthday? I’d go crickets as well. She was beyond nice to follow up with a FT call, I hope you appreciate her.

OP, friends need to be able to communicate in mutually satisfying ways. If she consistently takes much longer than a few days to respond to texts, to the point that it’s hard to plan things or keep in touch, and you can’t find another easy way to keep in touch, it’s okay for that to be an issue.

I’m mid-40s, have three kids, work FT, etc., but I still make time to prioritize communicating with the friendships I want to keep. It’s not “needy” to want to keep in touch with friends - what’s the point if you rarely correspond?

Anonymous wrote:I am that person. I am not on social media and I do not check texts, emails and voice mails promptly. I will get to it in a week or 10 days etc.

If you want to get hold of me, call me on phone. If not, call my DH because he walks around with his phone.

If I don't pick the phone, call me several times at different time.

Okay, but do you really think anyone wants to talk to that badly?

I'm that friend. I'm 33, infant and toddler, severely depressed DH, and own a business.

Anonymous wrote:She's not your employee!

This. I've dropped friends and even distanced with relatives who treated me like an employee who needs to reply back in x days or minutes. Not everyone enjoys texting OP, and it takes so damn long to make decisions via text it's easier to have a conversation.

If I forget to text back unless it's about something really important like trip planning or something that actually requires a response for example a question such as, "what restaurant did you want to meet up at on Saturday night?" I never apologize if I don't text back. I just assume that my friends figured I probably got busy and possibly saw the text and put my phone down and I forgot to respond. Since we are all adults in our 30s with lives and we get busy and I figure my friends are mature enough to understand that and same goes for me if my friends forget to respond to a non essential text message I just assume they got busy or forgot to text me back. I certainly don't expect an apology because life happened and my friend has a life of her own. I guess according to some of these responses I should be apologizing everytime I forget to text back 🤷

One thing I can't stand is needy friends. I will drop a needy friend like a hot potato and not look back twice. People have lives and get busy. Quit taking everything personally

She's not your employee!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a very good friend who is like this!
Honestly it made me make fewer plans with her. She is also working all the time. It’s now mostly that she comes into the group chat when she pleases, and sometimes calls on the weekends asking if she can come over (she is the only one I am happy to see spontaneously). Sometimes she calls to chat.
But yes I have mostly stopped planning anything with her because it is such a drag. She claims to be too overwhelmed to answer simple questions. I love her but no thank you

We travel frequently and she does always come through it just takes a while to get things sorted out bc of the delayed response time

Same with my friend, she never really left me hanging but it’s exhausting to plan with her so I just started doing it less

Anonymous wrote:I have a very good friend who is like this!
Honestly it made me make fewer plans with her. She is also working all the time. It’s now mostly that she comes into the group chat when she pleases, and sometimes calls on the weekends asking if she can come over (she is the only one I am happy to see spontaneously). Sometimes she calls to chat.
But yes I have mostly stopped planning anything with her because it is such a drag. She claims to be too overwhelmed to answer simple questions. I love her but no thank you

We travel frequently and she does always come through it just takes a while to get things sorted out bc of the delayed response time

I have a very good friend who is like this!
Honestly it made me make fewer plans with her. She is also working all the time. It’s now mostly that she comes into the group chat when she pleases, and sometimes calls on the weekends asking if she can come over (she is the only one I am happy to see spontaneously). Sometimes she calls to chat.
But yes I have mostly stopped planning anything with her because it is such a drag. She claims to be too overwhelmed to answer simple questions. I love her but no thank you

Texting is getting really difficult. We get so many. Sometimes you glance down, see it, but are doing something that requires your attention. So you forget. And then it drops down the list.

I can only answer texts from my computer through iMessage. It's easier for me to type. So if someone has an Android, I sometimes miss it altogether.

Life is busy.

Not everyone likes to text or has the bandwidth, for whatever reason, to text back right away. If you need an answer immediately OP, call.

I refuse to have a conversation via text. I type all day for work - I'm not also doing it in my free time as well.

call on weekend.