OP just raise your children to be good, hardworking people. Don't compare them to what others are doing. That is a surefire way to suck the joy out of your kids' lives (and yours).

I am not competitive with other parents through my kids or otherwise. We're all doing our best, and doing what we think is best and what works best for our family dynamics. I make sure my kids are on target via their pediatrician and teachers.