Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 13:46     Subject: Re:In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The DC area is 90% people like you, OP. Maybe you have lived here too long, and it rubbed off on you? DC is all strivers, Alpha-females, Type-A personalities, teapot-tyrants.

Would it be healthier for you to relocate?

Funny because I don't really see them as Alpha-females. More like pushy grifters. And if a grifter is a smooth-talker and pushy, they successfully mimic the Alpha vibe. But it is just mimicry in the end.


+1

So true! I know people trying to claw their way to the "top" (or what they perceive as the "top" - it certainly is all relative, isn't it?) like that, and they only cling (!!) on to those who can help them claw. But in the end, they are stuck with themselves. For shame. It is hard to respect any of that nonsense, especially since it is so obvious, and they have no real talent, of their own. In their wake, they have more hate and ridicule that they brought to themselves, than anything.


* ones who they "think" can help them claw, without giving proper creedance to valuable and real life role models.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 13:36     Subject: Re:In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The DC area is 90% people like you, OP. Maybe you have lived here too long, and it rubbed off on you? DC is all strivers, Alpha-females, Type-A personalities, teapot-tyrants.

Would it be healthier for you to relocate?

Funny because I don't really see them as Alpha-females. More like pushy grifters. And if a grifter is a smooth-talker and pushy, they successfully mimic the Alpha vibe. But it is just mimicry in the end.


+1

So true! I know people trying to claw their way to the "top" (or what they perceive as the "top" - it certainly is all relative, isn't it?) like that, and they only cling (!!) on to those who can help them claw. But in the end, they are stuck with themselves. For shame. It is hard to respect any of that nonsense, especially since it is so obvious, and they have no real talent, of their own. In their wake, they have more hate and ridicule that they brought to themselves, than anything.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 13:33     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:This is why some people are kind of like hermits. They can be happy like that.


More often, they are depressed, anxious, and lonely.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 13:26     Subject: Re:In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:The DC area is 90% people like you, OP. Maybe you have lived here too long, and it rubbed off on you? DC is all strivers, Alpha-females, Type-A personalities, teapot-tyrants.

Would it be healthier for you to relocate?

Funny because I don't really see them as Alpha-females. More like pushy grifters. And if a grifter is a smooth-talker and pushy, they successfully mimic the Alpha vibe. But it is just mimicry in the end.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 11:06     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
This is why some people are kind of like hermits. They can be happy like that.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 11:02     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
I agree OP. I am happy here, I just need other people to do their part. It's exhausting be the reliable one all the time.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 11:00     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have adhd and maybe rejection sensitivity disorder? Sounds like your expectations of others are v high. I expect v little of others - at end of the day most ppl are out for themselves except your family. If your parents let you down it sounds like you tried to find unconditional love elsewhere and were disappointed bc it’s not really something anyone but family will give you


This. The only person who will love you this way is your mother if you’re lucky, and your children when they are little. If you get to experience this once or twice in your life you are lucky.


Lol, def not true w/my mother AND father, I was def unlucky
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 10:37     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Low expectations are the key to happiness.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 10:36     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have adhd and maybe rejection sensitivity disorder? Sounds like your expectations of others are v high. I expect v little of others - at end of the day most ppl are out for themselves except your family. If your parents let you down it sounds like you tried to find unconditional love elsewhere and were disappointed bc it’s not really something anyone but family will give you


This. The only person who will love you this way is your mother if you’re lucky, and your children when they are little. If you get to experience this once or twice in your life you are lucky.

And your dog!


Yes!
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 10:33     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:it's trauma, op. I have this too. Your sadness needs to be fully expressed.


I have found that expressing it does not make it better or make it go away. It just pushes people away. The only thing that helps for me is having more money and a nicer lifestyle but as that has slipped away too through divorce I am pretty close to giving up.


NP. Don't express the sadness to others. Journal and meditate on it. I've even spoken it out loud to myself. Once I work through things, they really don't have power over me anymore.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 10:28     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have adhd and maybe rejection sensitivity disorder? Sounds like your expectations of others are v high. I expect v little of others - at end of the day most ppl are out for themselves except your family. If your parents let you down it sounds like you tried to find unconditional love elsewhere and were disappointed bc it’s not really something anyone but family will give you


This. The only person who will love you this way is your mother if you’re lucky, and your children when they are little. If you get to experience this once or twice in your life you are lucky.

And your dog!


Yes!


I feel sorry for people whose life sucks, but that is mostly on them. OP is making a conscious choice and effort to not be this way. I feel you, OP!
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 10:26     Subject: Re:In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:The DC area is 90% people like you, OP. Maybe you have lived here too long, and it rubbed off on you? DC is all strivers, Alpha-females, Type-A personalities, teapot-tyrants.

Would it be healthier for you to relocate?


+1

PP here. I totally agree. People are simply not happy here, nothing will ever be enough, and they want others to feel their pain. Luckily, that is impossible, as not everyone is them. Keep your misery.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 10:25     Subject: Re:In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your antidote is compassion, for yourself and for others. Maybe start with some Tara Brach. I wish you peace.


The irony is that compassion is like my main focus in life. I have a serving type of career and spend most of my free time giving back to my community. I actually listen to a meditation most days in the Buddhist tradition that focuses on wishing peace for myself and others.

But yet here I am. I will look into the person you suggested though. Thank you.


OP, I just want to applaud you for digging yourself out, and not trying to take others down with you - that means you have hope! Continue to do good things, and good things will come back to you, and multiply. I wish you all that is good.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 08:37     Subject: Re:In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
The DC area is 90% people like you, OP. Maybe you have lived here too long, and it rubbed off on you? DC is all strivers, Alpha-females, Type-A personalities, teapot-tyrants.

Would it be healthier for you to relocate?
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2023 06:46     Subject: In the end, everyone is so damn disappointing.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have adhd and maybe rejection sensitivity disorder? Sounds like your expectations of others are v high. I expect v little of others - at end of the day most ppl are out for themselves except your family. If your parents let you down it sounds like you tried to find unconditional love elsewhere and were disappointed bc it’s not really something anyone but family will give you


This. The only person who will love you this way is your mother if you’re lucky, and your children when they are little. If you get to experience this once or twice in your life you are lucky.

And your dog!


Yes!