Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds weird to me and I would not encourage it.

I agree.

+1. Something that’s fine for parents to do, not for grandparents. My ILs insisted on their grandchildren (DH’s brother’s kids) sharing their bed when they spent the night until they were about 10. It’s one of several reasons I won’t let my kids spend the night there. It’s a little weird, a little creepy, and a little boundary stomping (at least to me, maybe not to everybody). I’m all for letting my kids into my bed when they want (so I’m not against bed-sharing) but I am against other people demanding my kids be in their bed.

Anonymous wrote:This sounds weird to me and I would not encourage it.

I agree.

This sounds weird to me and I would not encourage it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We’re all American. Kids go along with it because she acts like it’s a really special treat and something to be excited about. Which then feels weirder to me, but I am open to hearing experiences of people who coslept when visiting grandparents. Perhaps it’s a sweet bonding experience or something.

It sounds like something the kids don’t really want to do, and I don’t like the idea of being emotionally pressured to do it. I would put a stop to it unless it’s something the kids actively want to do.

+1

I coslept with my grandma as a child. Loved it. I’d fall asleep listening to her tell me stories about life in the “olden days.”

Saying that, if my kid wasn’t comfortable, I’d tell grandma no.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We’re all American. Kids go along with it because she acts like it’s a really special treat and something to be excited about. Which then feels weirder to me, but I am open to hearing experiences of people who coslept when visiting grandparents. Perhaps it’s a sweet bonding experience or something.

It sounds like something the kids don’t really want to do, and I don’t like the idea of being emotionally pressured to do it. I would put a stop to it unless it’s something the kids actively want to do.

Most people in our culture have only seen grandparents bed sharing in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory

She sounds lonely. Is it based on her memories with her grandmother? I didn’t have grandparents so i have no idea, but I think the memories in this post are very sweet.

I would say this is context and family dependent. While I didn’t bed share with cousins *in the bed*, we certainly had group night slumber parties all together on the floor. Of course, we all had separate sleeping bags and the like, but my grandparents would put on movies and flashlights and we’d all just hang out in a pile of giggles and whispers.

I don’t find it such a stretch to “co sleep” like what you’re saying. That said, I am a CSA survivor. I wasn’t abused during these slumber parties - I was abused in the apparent safety of the seclusion of my own room and bed by my stepfather, but YMMV.

I slept in my grandmother’s bed one visit- I remember it so clearly! She stored her dentures, hung her wig, and snored so loud you could hear her down the hall. It was a funny feeling laying next to her, but I liked it. I liked taking stock of everything in her bedroom and being nosy, poking around her things.

I was extremely close with my grandma and would bed share with her whenever it was just the two of us. It is a fond memory for me but was 100% my decision.

She split her time between a country home and a beach house, both of which were very large, so even in my 20s when I would go stay with her it somehow felt creepy to be alone in my own room on the other side of the house and I felt more comfortable sharing her bed. If there was other family staying then I took a guest room.

My maternal grandparents only had 3 bedrooms, and grandma and grandpa slept in different rooms. They had 5 kids, so there were frequent visitors. If I spent the night and no one was visiting, I could sleep alone or with grandma, my choice. If my younger aunt was visiting, I would sleep with her, because she told the best stories. If my other aunt was visiting, I’d sleep with grandma, because that aunt would want me to fall asleep immediately. If my uncles were visiting I would sleep with grandma. We had about 3 favorite movies we’d watch on rotation while we fell asleep. It was fun.

I never would’ve dreamed of sleeping in the same bed as my great grandma even though we were just as close. I had a little bed that folded up for storage that she would put next to hers if I spent the night with her until I outgrew it when I was about 6. After that, I’d sleep in the guest room.

At my paternal grandma’s house, I can’t remember ever spending the night without my cousin (same gender, slightly older) also being there. We shared a queen size bed in the guest bedroom and grandma slept in her bedroom.

It really depends on the relationship and the comfort level of everyone involved.

I loved sleeping with my grandmother. We would chat, say prayers, and then she would listen to talk radio on her little transistor radio. It was all fascinating!

It is a problem, however, letting your kids think it's ok to share a bed with an adult relative for no particularly good reason. That can go very badly for some although not typically with grandma. Perhaps it is not worth the risk but that would also include not sharing a bed with their own parents.

snored!!! not scored lol

I loved being in bed with grandma!!! Until she scored, then I snuck away. My mother does same with DD. They sit in a king and watch TV and catch up talking.