Anonymous
02/21/2023 00:10
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
So these benefits are costing a couple thousand a month in lost rent, utilities, wear and tear on your house and food. If the ACs are worth a couple thousand a month it's OK.
Yeah, we dont think like you do. Are kids are priceless for us.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 21:56
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
South Asians?
Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).
I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.
Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.
South Asians? Why not their own parents? Why ILs?
To answer your question - I have seen all combos for multi-gen families in SA communities. Either set of parents, both set of parents, surviving parents from both set of parents, younger siblings who are single/widowed/divorced/disabled/studying/making less money, either/both/surviving grandparents, uncles and aunts, cousins. It really depends on families and their relationships.
But pp, you were not answering the prompt of this thread. You did not talk about how AC living with parents is beneficial. You were basically just SA bashing, correct? Tsk, tsk. Do better.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 21:51
Subject: Re:If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Our late 40s single daughter came to stay with us at the beginning of the pandemic and stayed nearly a year. It was wonderful to spend time with her. She brought her puppy and DH and I became dog lovers and ended up adopting a senior dog.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 21:38
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:So these benefits are costing a couple thousand a month in lost rent, utilities, wear and tear on your house and food. If the ACs are worth a couple thousand a month it's OK.
Lost rent?
My house is paid off, and when my youngest moves out, I'll have an extra guest room. Wear and tear?? If you say so. I'll grant you the additional water usage (minimal) and food. She often buys groceries, and she eats her main meal at work every day. I think it's financially manageable. 
Anonymous
02/20/2023 21:37
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Depends if they have ever lived on their own. On their own is crucial for development into an independent adult.
Define “on their own.”
Anonymous
02/20/2023 21:36
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Depends if they have ever lived on their own. On their own is crucial for development into an independent adult.
Thank you for letting me know. I'm 54, and I've never lived on my own. I own a lucrative business, raised four kids, regularly care for my elderly mom, have two degrees, and enjoy spending time with my husband of 30+ years.
I'm sad to learn that I'm not an independent adult.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 21:09
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
So these benefits are costing a couple thousand a month in lost rent, utilities, wear and tear on your house and food. If the ACs are worth a couple thousand a month it's OK.
NP. Why did you decide to say this?
Anonymous
02/20/2023 20:27
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
South Asians?
Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).
I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.
Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.
The neighbors in the affluent neighborhoods hate those houses with 20 people and 10 cars parked outside, such an eyesore.
Those are the illegal immigrant halfway houses for the subcontractors to live in, 3 to a room.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 13:32
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
South Asians?
Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).
I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.
Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.
The neighbors in the affluent neighborhoods hate those houses with 20 people and 10 cars parked outside, such an eyesore.
Never seen this. You don't live in an affluent neighborhood if you do, pp.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 13:25
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
South Asians?
Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).
I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.
Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.
The neighbors in the affluent neighborhoods hate those houses with 20 people and 10 cars parked outside, such an eyesore.
Thankfully, there’s nothing you (or Long Island, CT or NJ) can do about it.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 13:22
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
So these benefits are costing a couple thousand a month in lost rent, utilities, wear and tear on your house and food. If the ACs are worth a couple thousand a month it's OK.
Lost rent? Most people don't want to rent spare rooms in their home to strangers. Lol
Anonymous
02/20/2023 11:59
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
South Asians?
Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).
I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.
Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.
The neighbors in the affluent neighborhoods hate those houses with 20 people and 10 cars parked outside, such an eyesore.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 11:56
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
So these benefits are costing a couple thousand a month in lost rent, utilities, wear and tear on your house and food. If the ACs are worth a couple thousand a month it's OK.
Anonymous
02/20/2023 11:47
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
South Asians?
Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).
I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.
Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.
South Asians? Why not their own parents? Why ILs?
Anonymous
02/20/2023 11:46
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Tell us if they are single, married, have children etc.
Our AC (single, childless, mid 20s_ moved in with us due to the pandemic. They plan to be in this area for another couple of years for personal and professional reasons so they don't want to set up a home of their own. We do not charge for rent, groceries, utilities etc. They are banking most of their money (except gas, socializing or their own shopping etc).
They are single. We are benefitting by -
- being able to travel without worry about home and pets.
- companionship
- healthier living because a flexible communal routine is in place.
- Household is running more smoothly
- more socializing happening at all age groups. More family holidays being celebrated, more people dropping by, more in-house guests. more hustle bustle.
- chores get divvied up organically.
South Asians?
Of course they are single, most women want someone who is able to live on their own (not just financially).
I know some married sons and their families (DW, DC) live in parents (IL) home. They pool in money to buy big homes in good school district that they could not afford on their own early in their married life.
Not true that women/men want someone who lives on their own. The wives of these men have big careers and they do not want to become SAHMs to raise their kids. They only trust their ILs to look after their kids and it work well. Very successful and affluent families now.