You need a perinatologist. Not just an OB.

I assumed it was my old age after 4 losses (spouse is a decade younger), but we did donor egg and only ended up with two viable/clear embryos despite a dozen good eggs. first one i lost at 9 weeks, the last one I insisted on lovenox all the way through and she's now a delightful toddler.

Other than the daily lovenox injections, it was a pretty uneventful pregnancy even though I was almost 47. i suspect there was some male factor. also they only test the moms for clotting mutations but there is some evidence that there is male contribution to placenta/clotting issues.

So Sorry OP. This is the worst. I know, because it was me- I had 5 losses at 6-8 weeks. I was eventually diagnosed with two things: first, genetic mutation (not chromosomal, sub-chromosomal) that resulted in nonviable embryos, and an endometrium that was too receptive and allowed those nonviable embryos to become pregnancies. I worked with Dr Kliman at Yale- never had to travel, just had material from losses sent to his lab. With my diagnosis the only thing to do was to keep trying. I eventually succeeded and have a healthy 10 month old.

Hopefully your next pregnancy is successful, but if you miscarry again, get a D&C and have the miscarriage tested for a chromosomal abnormality and then sent to Dr Kliman for additional testing. If you have chromosomal abnormalities, you can do IVF with testing for better results. If you are like me, it's a terrible process but there is nothing to do but keep trying- and try to figure out when you will know that you have had enough.

The fact that you can get pregnant again and again is a good sign, though heartbreaking when going through it. I was having the same experience age 40-42, though one pregnancy lasted until 10 weeks. I did IVF when I was 42 almost 43. Got one normal embryo and the transfer and pregnancy were successful, baby was born when I was a month shy of 44. For what it’s worth my RE didn’t make any big promises while we were going through it, knowing the stats, but after we had success he said that typically when that happens at 43/44 it’s for women with a profile like ours, who are able to get pregnant again and again. I also followed the supplements from It Starts With the Egg, and adding NAD+. Will never know for sure whether those supplements helped, but I think they did. It’s all about providing enough fuel for the mitochondria to work properly and recombine the genes correctly.

Anonymous wrote:I'm right there with you OP. Since 36 I've lost 5 pregnancies. The furthest was 14 weeks and the heart stopped beating suddenly. No chromosomal defects identified, all genetic tests came back clear. We're hopefully starting IVF with PDG testing to see how many are normal vs not.

Sorry to this PP and the OP, so hard.

OP, echo others that you need IVF + PGS testing of embryos.

OP I have to wonder if bias of your doctor against having a baby so old is holding you back from the correct referrals/care. You shouldn’t be under the supervision of a normal OB!