Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 20:08     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He was giving rides to students to and from parties where they had been drinking. So it wasn’t on school property.


The school is MEGA implicated if there was a whiff of this amongst administration. They were gilman students at the to
E he was doing this. I don’t know how you can send your sons to gilman after hearing this news.


Because you know that crap like this can happen anywhere, and you’re fooling yourself if you think that avoiding one particular school is the answer.

It’s terrible, but I’m satisfied that Gilman acted swiftly and transparently as soon as they knew about it. Not sure what else can be asked.



I’d be more sympathetic to this if gilman did get outed for decades of student on teacher abuse from the 70s-90s
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 19:43     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:Generations of gilman grads are clutching their pearls and worrying that this will tarnish their reputation.

Because YEP! this makes your school look really, really bad.


As a parent of an alum, this is not a concern. I haven’t been thinking how this will affect me, or my son. It’s horrific, but that is not part of it, at least it’s not for me.

Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 19:40     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:I acknowledge that this crap happens everywhere, literally everywhere. But I also think that schools can become so cultish and insular that reporting it, and sending a beloved member of the staff (and he was beloved and celebrated by many years of middle schoolers) to prison, becomes problematic.
Let's make schools less "cultish" and crap like this will be reported more freely. They only indoctrinate to ensure alumni donations anyway.


Except that there is zero evidence that because of being “cultish and insular” delayed reporting actually happened – from what I can see, the school reacted quickly as soon as anything was known. Assuming that there must have been a coverup simply because a lot of people really like Gilman is a little weird.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 18:53     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Generations of gilman grads are clutching their pearls and worrying that this will tarnish their reputation.

Because YEP! this makes your school look really, really bad.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 18:51     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
I acknowledge that this crap happens everywhere, literally everywhere. But I also think that schools can become so cultish and insular that reporting it, and sending a beloved member of the staff (and he was beloved and celebrated by many years of middle schoolers) to prison, becomes problematic.
Let's make schools less "cultish" and crap like this will be reported more freely. They only indoctrinate to ensure alumni donations anyway.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 15:47     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He was giving rides to students to and from parties where they had been drinking. So it wasn’t on school property.


The school is MEGA implicated if there was a whiff of this amongst administration. They were gilman students at the to
E he was doing this. I don’t know how you can send your sons to gilman after hearing this news.


Because you know that crap like this can happen anywhere, and you’re fooling yourself if you think that avoiding one particular school is the answer.

It’s terrible, but I’m satisfied that Gilman acted swiftly and transparently as soon as they knew about it. Not sure what else can be asked.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 12:35     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He was giving rides to students to and from parties where they had been drinking. So it wasn’t on school property.


The school is MEGA implicated if there was a whiff of this amongst administration. They were gilman students at the to
E he was doing this. I don’t know how you can send your sons to gilman after hearing this news.


I agree but I don’t think the admin knew and once they did they fired him. From what I understand the students asked him for rides after they had been drinking because they didn’t want to tell their parents. Admin could not have known until he was turned in by students but the students were intimidated against reporting him. This can happen anywhere. After this I googled and found all sorts of past sex abuse in private and public schools. These people probably seek these jobs to be near the kids and it’s not always obvious when someone is charming but evil.

I remember getting rides to and from school events and clubs from teachers way back in the day. I am so glad none of my teachers were pervs.


While this is true, as PP said, Gilman is a small community. This guy has spent the past THIRTY YEARS as part of that community (with a 5ish year break to attend college). There is pretty clearly a culture failure of some sort at play - to include inadequate controls on adult/child relationships within the school community and a lot of "it could never happen here" head in the sand stuff among both school staff and parents.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 12:07     Subject: Re:Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:Oh. Ok, he’s being charged with rape. Geez. His wife was very nice.


Why are you making stuff up? He’s not married
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 11:59     Subject: Re:Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Wow, the specific details shared above are awful. He really abused his position of authority to take advantage of students. No doubt there must be more victims.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 11:42     Subject: Re:Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Geez. Yeah. As a parent of an alum, I wasn’t aware of any whiff of something off about Chris Bendann. He set it up so that kids wouldn’t report that they got a ride from him (because would have to admit they were drunk) and then preyed on kids who were probably under the influence at the time. Then blackmailed them emotionally to take it further. One of the most despicable stories I’ve heard. Thank God someone came forward. I hope Chris Bendann gets sent away for a long time, and I hope his victim(s) get help, support, and the admiration for speaking up which they completely deserve.

Burn in hell, Chris.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 11:18     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He was giving rides to students to and from parties where they had been drinking. So it wasn’t on school property.


The school is MEGA implicated if there was a whiff of this amongst administration. They were gilman students at the to
E he was doing this. I don’t know how you can send your sons to gilman after hearing this news.


I agree but I don’t think the admin knew and once they did they fired him. From what I understand the students asked him for rides after they had been drinking because they didn’t want to tell their parents. Admin could not have known until he was turned in by students but the students were intimidated against reporting him. This can happen anywhere. After this I googled and found all sorts of past sex abuse in private and public schools. These people probably seek these jobs to be near the kids and it’s not always obvious when someone is charming but evil.

I remember getting rides to and from school events and clubs from teachers way back in the day. I am so glad none of my teachers were pervs.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 07:30     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?


At least they made the effort to document it. I graduated from a DMV girl’s school that swept all cases under the rug, and there are many


Which one? So did I but I haven’t heard this.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 07:30     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?


If this were the standard than MCPS would have been shuttered long, long ago.


How is that relevant? Gilman is a private school in Baltimore.

Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 05:12     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:https://news.yahoo.com/fired-gilman-school-teacher-arrested-211700887.html

At the bottom of this article it say decades of sexual abuse has been investigated at the school, from 1950-2008.
Awful and how is it still a school?


If this were the standard than MCPS would have been shuttered long, long ago.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2023 05:02     Subject: Teacher fired, charged with rape at gilman
Anonymous wrote:He was giving rides to students to and from parties where they had been drinking. So it wasn’t on school property.


The school is MEGA implicated if there was a whiff of this amongst administration. They were gilman students at the to
E he was doing this. I don’t know how you can send your sons to gilman after hearing this news.