Anonymous
02/02/2023 21:38
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.
Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.
Why are you directing this solely at women ?
Many men are equally if not more materialistic.
We do live in a capitalist society and people are Bombarded with ads promising this and that elusive form of happiness/ status/ allure if you buy whatever.
It is up to parents - moms and dads - to un-brainwash our children regarding materialistic life values.
No. Men are not as materialistic as women. That’s why all the luxury stores and products are marketed to women.
They are, they just prefer bigger ticket items like cars and boats. And when you factor in that many men see women as objects, they are indeed very materialistic.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 21:33
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.
Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.
Why are you directing this solely at women ?
Many men are equally if not more materialistic.
We do live in a capitalist society and people are Bombarded with ads promising this and that elusive form of happiness/ status/ allure if you buy whatever.
It is up to parents - moms and dads - to un-brainwash our children regarding materialistic life values.
No. Men are not as materialistic as women. That’s why all the luxury stores and products are marketed to women.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 20:39
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.
Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.
Why are you directing this solely at women ?
Many men are equally if not more materialistic.
We do live in a capitalist society and people are Bombarded with ads promising this and that elusive form of happiness/ status/ allure if you buy whatever.
It is up to parents - moms and dads - to un-brainwash our children regarding materialistic life values.
Agree. What a sexist post.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 20:32
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:I like high quality items. Either way, you’re going to need shoes, clothes, cars, furniture - why not make it nice? I am not a big consumer - I lean minimalist and don’t shop for the sake of shopping - but when I need something for myself, my house, or my family, I’m going to choose a nice item.
+1
Anonymous
02/02/2023 19:13
Subject: Materialistic women
I like high quality items. Either way, you’re going to need shoes, clothes, cars, furniture - why not make it nice? I am not a big consumer - I lean minimalist and don’t shop for the sake of shopping - but when I need something for myself, my house, or my family, I’m going to choose a nice item.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 19:07
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:I think your first mistake is assuming that women who own nice things are universally materialistic. The long and short of it is that I love beautiful, high quality items. Yes that includes things like a Chanel CF, but it also includes many other under the radar (and moderately priced) items that you might not know of. Liking nice things isn’t materialistic. Shoving it in peoples faces, assuming it makes you better than - that’s materialistic. I’m just living my life.
The thing I find so fascinating (as I assume your question is a spin off of the B&F thread about designer items), is the hostility directed to women who buy nice items. You rarely see the same vitrol for a nice watch a man buys to mark a milestone - but if a woman buys a purse or jewelry, she’s a materialistic shrew. I encourage you to question why that dynamic exists.
Finally, I also used to be one of those self righteous people that smugly said I valued experiences other things. And while I do love experiences - travel, good meals with friends, concerts - it’s all *consumption* just the same. So I got off my high horse.
I suggest you get off yours.
+100
I also like and appreciate high end designer jewelry and bags.. They don’t define me and I didn’t view myself any differently when I didn’t have the means to buy them. I also don’t think of myself as being superior or better to someone who can’t afford them - they are just things in the end and at the end of the day, don’t really matter.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:56
Subject: Re:Materialistic women
I think I’m happier than 90% of DCUM but that’s because I have a happy and strong marriage. That might be the scarcest thing around here, and certainly much scarcer than cash on hand for a Chanel jumbo flap.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:55
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!
What do you think of men who flash $10,000 wrist watches?
I’m not OP but I just men with flashy crap way more than women. Women are conditioned from childhood to see fancy stuff as a measure of their inner worth (princesses have tiaras, successful birthers get push presents, etc.)—its prehistoric and hard to shake. Men who want flashy cars and watches just seem like they are trying to compensate for physical or intellectual shortcomings.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:54
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.
Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.
I am absolutely happier than you as I don’t sit around and wonder about what others do with their money.
Are you happy? What makes you think you are happy?
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:52
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:A lot of the “high end” stuff isn’t of superior quality. It’s just branding. I do look down on people who spend thousands on an item with a big logo so they can do the advertising for the manufacturer.
Okay well then keep looking down? What a weird way to spend your time and energy though. Maybe just worry about yourself.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:51
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:A lot of the “high end” stuff isn’t of superior quality. It’s just branding. I do look down on people who spend thousands on an item with a big logo so they can do the advertising for the manufacturer.
It is a free country. Anyone can spend their money on whatever they want. Why do you feel the need to look down on anyone. Rude!
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:51
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!
You prefer the foreign ones then? Because women from my husband’s Asian country are so materialistic they would blow your mind. Like traveling to Paris to shop and only to shop.
I meant both.
Sure, we have plenty of dumb “real housewives” / McMasion types. Guess we are stuck with them unfortunately.
The ones from elsewhere, who drive Mercedes SUVs, wear tons of real gold bracelets, and have arranged marriages - just ewww!
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:47
Subject: Materialistic women
Anonymous wrote:I want food for my kids. Sorry if that makes me materialistic
It doesn't? The OP never even implied that.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:45
Subject: Materialistic women
A lot of the “high end” stuff isn’t of superior quality. It’s just branding. I do look down on people who spend thousands on an item with a big logo so they can do the advertising for the manufacturer.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 18:43
Subject: Materialistic women
I want food for my kids. Sorry if that makes me materialistic