Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:47
Subject: Re:Should my boyfriend help me move?
Both of you have baggage (divorced, aged, kids) and your relationship is largely not the biggest priority for either of you. Don't be a drag.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:45
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
Anonymous wrote:I’ve had guys that I’ve been on like three dates with offer to help me move
Because its a new relationship and they are expecting booty.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:44
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
He shouldn’t move you but if he were a real mensch he’d offer to help in some fashion. Sounds like he doesn’t take your arrangement very seriously and has no interest in filling a husband role for you.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:44
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
Anonymous wrote:One of the main reasons to have a boyfriend is so he can do stuff like help you move! Of course he should help. He should have offered frankly. Now if you’d ask if he should actually haul the furniture with his forty something back, my answer would be no
There is a reason both of you are divorced. Don't be a parasite. Do this yourself. I would expect him to help you if you were sick but not if you could outsource work
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:41
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’ve been dating for a year and aren’t comfortable having this conversation with him? Of course he should help if he’s able, but he probably thinks you have it covered.
OP: I've been talking about it a lot and how the packing is a bit overwhelming; I guess I thought he'd offer. I never ask him to do anything for me really- never to help with my kids, or pick up something for me, or drive me anywhere. So I guess I'm feeling like I'm not getting much practical support from him in general.
You pay packers and movers.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:39
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
Anonymous wrote:Helping people move is the worst. You hired movers. You’re a big girl yourself. Cut the guy a break. And when he moves don’t offer to help him either.
+ 1
You outsource this. You are not a young person in your 20s FFS, and you are not a married couple or a relative
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:35
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’ve been dating for a year and aren’t comfortable having this conversation with him? Of course he should help if he’s able, but he probably thinks you have it covered.
OP: I've been talking about it a lot and how the packing is a bit overwhelming; I guess I thought he'd offer. I never ask him to do anything for me really- never to help with my kids, or pick up something for me, or drive me anywhere. So I guess I'm feeling like I'm not getting much practical support from him in general.
Keep an eye out. My friend (in 40's, both with teens) was moving apartments and BF of over 2 years did not comment, offer support or to help etc. either. Within a month, ghosted and never heard from again.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:34
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
I’ve had guys that I’ve been on like three dates with offer to help me move
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:34
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
One of the main reasons to have a boyfriend is so he can do stuff like help you move! Of course he should help. He should have offered frankly. Now if you’d ask if he should actually haul the furniture with his forty something back, my answer would be no
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:33
Subject: Re:Should my boyfriend help me move?
He really should have offered. I wouldn’t ask but I’d definitely re-think this relationship after you get settled.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:32
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
He sounds really disappointing. Does he come through for you in other ways? I would not want him as a life partner or role model for my kids.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:30
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
Anonymous wrote:Maybe I’m in the minority, but I would want help just because moving does suck. OP hasn’t stated where this relationship is going, if this is just a “for now” situation or if it’s something more. But if the latter, to me, this is part and parcel that kind of relationship. Being picked up from the airport, helping each other move, those are the things that soften the edges of life. Having sex and spending time together is nice, and if two divorceEd people are on the same page about only wanting that it makes sense. But I get the impression that that isn’t where the OP is at.
Agree with this.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:30
Subject: Re:Should my boyfriend help me move?
Anonymous wrote:No. You’re an adult with a job not a college student. Pay professionals to move your stuff. smh at your parasitism and entitlement.j
She is paying someone. Read the OP.
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:26
Subject: Re:Should my boyfriend help me move?
No. You’re an adult with a job not a college student. Pay professionals to move your stuff. smh at your parasitism and entitlement.j
Anonymous
02/02/2023 16:21
Subject: Should my boyfriend help me move?
MAYBE HE ASSUMES HE WILL BE THERE HELPING. I WOULD.