Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 12:04     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


How can results be "so bad" when RD isn't out yet?
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:56     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


If I spent 200k on a high school and that was the outcome, I'd want a refund


Yah, nope. Money is well spent regardless. To each their own.


One more time for the cheap seats: you do not send a kid to a private school, Big 3 or whatever, solely because you think it will increase their chances to get into an Ivy or the cream of the crop schools. If this is your attitude, you deserve to be disappointed.


Well of course not my dear, how gauche to suggest otherwise. Everyone knows that’s why we have money and influence instead of leaving it up to a school. And of course the reason to send your kid to private is for the training to be UMC, the peer group and network and connections they make for work and marriage later on.


This is so … awkward. You’re trying way too hard.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:56     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


I don't believe your child heard that. He wants a gap year at your expense. I don't blame him...
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:42     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


If I spent 200k on a high school and that was the outcome, I'd want a refund


Yah, nope. Money is well spent regardless. To each their own.


One more time for the cheap seats: you do not send a kid to a private school, Big 3 or whatever, solely because you think it will increase their chances to get into an Ivy or the cream of the crop schools. If this is your attitude, you deserve to be disappointed.


Well of course not my dear, how gauche to suggest otherwise. Everyone knows that’s why we have money and influence instead of leaving it up to a school. And of course the reason to send your kid to private is for the training to be UMC, the peer group and network and connections they make for work and marriage later on.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:37     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


If I spent 200k on a high school and that was the outcome, I'd want a refund


Yah, nope. Money is well spent regardless. To each their own.


One more time for the cheap seats: you do not send a kid to a private school, Big 3 or whatever, solely because you think it will increase their chances to get into an Ivy or the cream of the crop schools. If this is your attitude, you deserve to be disappointed.


One more time for the cheaper seats: we are not talking about "Ivy or cream of the crop schools". We are talking about kids getting rejected from all their picks ranked 75+.


You need to do a better job trolling. RD isn’t even out yet.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:27     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


If I spent 200k on a high school and that was the outcome, I'd want a refund


Yah, nope. Money is well spent regardless. To each their own.


One more time for the cheap seats: you do not send a kid to a private school, Big 3 or whatever, solely because you think it will increase their chances to get into an Ivy or the cream of the crop schools. If this is your attitude, you deserve to be disappointed.


One more time for the cheaper seats: we are not talking about "Ivy or cream of the crop schools". We are talking about kids getting rejected from all their picks ranked 75+.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:25     Subject: Re:School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think that advising kids to matriculate to one of the schools that accepted them is hardly alarming advice, and that, if they are opposed to that then advising them that their other options are to take a gap year or go to a school that accepted them and try to transfer in a year is just speaking truth.

What else would you want them to say to a kid who chose their matches and safeties badly and is now upset at their options? Is there some other option missing?


I'd want to know how much input the counselor had in making the list and advising on which schools were safeties


As a parent? You would have that information, because you would have been present at the meetings where the lists were made!
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:19     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:First of all "Big 3" does not guarantee admission anywhere.

Publics always do better in this area.

Parents need to do their jobs and have their kids target safeties as well.


Not true. The kids getting in from public are less than 1 percent to top 20 colleges and they are hooked in a major way (shh it’s a secret that no one wants to admit but it is true).
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:18     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


If I spent 200k on a high school and that was the outcome, I'd want a refund


Yah, nope. Money is well spent regardless. To each their own.


One more time for the cheap seats: you do not send a kid to a private school, Big 3 or whatever, solely because you think it will increase their chances to get into an Ivy or the cream of the crop schools. If this is your attitude, you deserve to be disappointed.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:17     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:First of all "Big 3" does not guarantee admission anywhere.

Publics always do better in this area.

Parents need to do their jobs and have their kids target safeties as well.


Nah 40 percent of our big 3 went to top 25 colleges or top 20 liberal arts schools. The remainder went to top 30 liberal arts or top 40 university with the exception of one or two. Public can’t come close to that.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:07     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications

I think the actual words used were lost in transit, OP, and that they were probably given to a specific student.

Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:05     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


My Big 3 college office is advising that students take a fifth year at a local public school to increase their chances.


LOL..This can't be real. Some of these schools are fully exploiting people. I see how Bernie Madoff ran his scam.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 11:02     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:I heard from my kid that results are so bad this year at our (Big3) school that the college counseling office is now telling kids
to either take a gap year OR matriculate at a lower tier school and "try again next year".

Have you heard this? It is worrisome or typical advice?


My Big 3 college office is advising that students take a fifth year at a local public school to increase their chances.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 10:58     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
Anonymous wrote:Troll. Only ED, EA, and rolling admissions decisions are out right now. Come back after the RD decisions are released this spring.


PP adding that I am not a “Big 3” parent. This is true for any school. If the past few years have told us anything, ED, EA are not accurate predictors of RD results. Hop over to the College forum. Great discussions there.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2023 10:57     Subject: School advising kids to "try again next year" regarding college applications
I mean, what do you expect when the top 1% of students at every public HS and private HS are applying to the same colleges?

The early rejections and deferrals I'm seeing are for the same universities over and over. Expand your horizons!