Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

And that's why some employers try to avoid hiring people with kids, or seem like they will soon have kids.

OP here- when you break it down.

It's 4 days because of the Flu. The FLu is a hard-hitting virus so that's to be expected.

I have had 2 sick days for myself: 1 in September and 1 in January.

I had 2 other sick days for my kids.

The other day is a combo of appointments (since we have NO flex time and if I use 45 minutes for an appointment, I have to take 2 hours) and a half day with a sick kid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

It is not a lot, no. People with young kids have to take a lot of sick time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

You would fire a nanny who had taken 9 sick days off in six months.

It would depend. My nanny has taken a lot of Sick time this year. Primarily because MY KIDS have been so sick and the adults keep getting hit too. It’s a rough winter. She’s worked for us long enough for me to know she is not faking and genuinely keeps getting sick.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

Yeah, that's not a lot. My kids (1 and 3) have each been sick 1-2 days every 2 weeks, give or take, since September. Fortunately I have a flexible job, but I'm pretty much constantly making up hours late at night since I only get 10 sick days a year. Which does nothing for my health, I'm sure, but it is what it is. Prior to this winter, sickness for my one kid was more like ~1 day/month which was still over my available sick leave, especially when you consider well child visits and my own doctor's appointments, but easier to make up. If I had a rigid job (e.g. no options for making up time/work) and no spousal help either, it would be impossible. That's why I said in the previous post OP needs to have a come to Jesus talk with their partner about WFH. Either he has to suck it up and ask at his current job or he (or she) needs to find a new job.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

You would fire a nanny who had taken 9 sick days off in six months.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you belong to a church? You might be able to find someone older who could be available on short notice. If you don't have a church affiliation, I would still call churches close to you, tell them your situation and ask if they know of anyone who might be willing to help you.

Good luck.

Maybe before the pandemic, this was a thing.

But after the pandemic, this is really not a thing.

Lol yeah, especially given the increasing average age of church goers. My church friends are great but they’re definitely not the people I would call to care for my sick kids.

But you don't know unless you ask! OP has very few options so stop shooting down ideas to help. My church has a group of women in early 60's who have been available for emergency help to families. If, anything. the pandemic made their availability even more important.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

9 days in six months is not a lot? If the next six months are similar it will be 18 days/year!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you belong to a church? You might be able to find someone older who could be available on short notice. If you don't have a church affiliation, I would still call churches close to you, tell them your situation and ask if they know of anyone who might be willing to help you.

Good luck.

Maybe before the pandemic, this was a thing.

But after the pandemic, this is really not a thing.

Lol yeah, especially given the increasing average age of church goers. My church friends are great but they’re definitely not the people I would call to care for my sick kids.

Anonymous wrote:Do you belong to a church? You might be able to find someone older who could be available on short notice. If you don't have a church affiliation, I would still call churches close to you, tell them your situation and ask if they know of anyone who might be willing to help you.

Good luck.

Maybe before the pandemic, this was a thing.

But after the pandemic, this is really not a thing.

Anonymous wrote:I added it up. Including a few doctors appointments that could not be scheduled at other times, I've missed 9 days combined from July through January including 4 days for the Flu for both of my kids.

It was 1 day July (kid), 1 day september (me), 4 hours combined appointments october + 4 days flu, December - 1/2 day kid, January 1 day me, 1 day kid.

That is not a lot at all! I would say that’s pretty average or even less than average for parents of multiple young kids.

You guys both can't work jobs with rigid schedules. I'm the one who is inflexible. I work 3 12 hr shifts a week so I have flexibility with that, but calling out for my shift requires another supervisor to have to come in. So DH is the one with flexibility. The one who WFH 99% of the time and can also field the calls from school if DS is sick.

I’m sorry OP. I can totally empathize. My kids got sick again last week and I ended up having to take leave without pay because I am out of time off (thank you multiple sick days!). It’s awful.

Do you belong to a church? You might be able to find someone older who could be available on short notice. If you don't have a church affiliation, I would still call churches close to you, tell them your situation and ask if they know of anyone who might be willing to help you.

Good luck.

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