Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:45     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

Lol, I appreciate the honesty. I met my DH when we worked together as clerks at the same law firm, and 22 years and 2 kids later we are happily WFH in the exurbs. Employers should give their new hires the option to come in to the office, but your desire to meet a spouse definitely isn’t a reason that my 45 year old married self needs to come in.


I have the same feelings. I met my husband through a coworker so I wouldn’t have met him if not for my in person job. I also loved my 20s. Grabbing coffee/lunch/spontaneous happy hours are all amazing social opportunities before you have other family responsibilities. I now WFH full time because I have kids and aging parents but I encourage all the young grads I mentor to go into the office. Frankly I don’t understand young grads that want to stay home and work all day - it would make me depressed. Get up, get showered, put on a cute outfit and go out there and live your life!
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:31     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

Agreed. However, unless you were working in a place that had a huge number of young people you will likely only meet older people or married people,

My tip to you is to become very social, get in touch with your college friends and grad school friends, pick up hobbies, meetup groups, take classes, join gym, take dancing lessons erc, and put yourself out there. Become the kind of person who gets invited to all types of events, learn how to host etc.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:30     Subject: Re:I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Great. Go in.
Nobody else is there.
So you didn’t get your MRS degree and now you want the MRS paycheck?

Go to a prestigious grad school since you’re husband hunting a certain type.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:29     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
We met our spouses at work or college because there was no internet. All the people I know in their 20s and 30s meet their partners through internet dating. Many more potential partners that way. More efficient.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:26     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:The time you save in commute can be used to explore hobbies, and there is where you meet people who may share more passions and interests with you than workmates.

Also, you don't have to deal with HR that way.


This. My ‘22 grad whose company is basically fully WFH says they have more free time than they’ve had since elementary school. Still figuring out how to make use of it beet.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:21     Subject: Re:I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:Great. Go in.


Nobody else is there.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:20     Subject: Re:I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Great. Go in.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:17     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).

Lol, I appreciate the honesty. I met my DH when we worked together as clerks at the same law firm, and 22 years and 2 kids later we are happily WFH in the exurbs. Employers should give their new hires the option to come in to the office, but your desire to meet a spouse definitely isn’t a reason that my 45 year old married self needs to come in.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:13     Subject: Re:I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:I grew up watching The Office and expected that my work environments as an adult would be similar. Dead serious.


It is like that sometimes. I worked in an office environment like the TV show. Many of the stereotypes are definitely accurate. Just not as cartoony as the show.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 17:59     Subject: Re:I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:I grew up watching The Office and expected that my work environments as an adult would be similar. Dead serious.


Ha! It used to be like that. My jobs in the 90s were.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 17:58     Subject: Re:I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
I grew up watching The Office and expected that my work environments as an adult would be similar. Dead serious.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 17:57     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Making friends, yes.

Going to the office for dating? NO! That’s inviting yourself to be fired. In certain situations, you aren’t allowed to date coworkers, especially if it’s a boss or someone on your direct team.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 17:57     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
Anonymous wrote:People used to meet their spouses at work. With WFH it will be hard for me to (new-ish grad here).


I've also met lifelong girlfriends through work. When you are working with someone 40 hours a week you really get to know them.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 17:56     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
I never thought about this. I met my DH through work. That was 16 years ago. I’ve worked at home for 10 years and I feel for the younger generation who is missing out on socialization. I made a lot of good friends thru work who are still trusted colleagues and friends

Sorry, OP
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 17:45     Subject: I oppose WFH because it will be more difficult for me to meet a spouse
It's all about you isn't it?