Anonymous
01/10/2023 10:38
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
That mindset will disappoint you and your daughter. There is no perfect school or dream school and your daughter is not "limited" because one school she likes doesn't offer merit.
I'm aware and that was not my question. I went to a Big U midwest state school because I had no money and no other options. I did fine. Just because you think that we are not "limited" doesn't mean that we think that way. I don't understand why you think this comment was helpful. You're giving me your opinion and it is one I did not ask for.
Ouch! the attitude!!
Anonymous
01/10/2023 10:37
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
They are either poor enough to get a lot of aid, rich enough to not need it, or had parents putting away a lot of money from conception.
The thing is, we did put away a LOT of money. Since birth we have made choices to forego other things in favor of this. And still, it's not enough to have all the choices we thought we'd have.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 10:36
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Here are some schools that were d3 that offered merit aid to my athlete, University of Rochester, Gettysburg college, Case Western, Stevens institute of Tech. D1 schools offered merit and no athletic money were Layfette College and American University.
Thank you. OP here. A couple of these are on her list, too.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 10:36
Subject: Re:schools w/ no merit aid
Another option is a medium size school with more merit and play club sport.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 10:35
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
That mindset will disappoint you and your daughter. There is no perfect school or dream school and your daughter is not "limited" because one school she likes doesn't offer merit.
I'm aware and that was not my question. I went to a Big U midwest state school because I had no money and no other options. I did fine. Just because you think that we are not "limited" doesn't mean that we think that way. I don't understand why you think this comment was helpful. You're giving me your opinion and it is one I did not ask for.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 10:21
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
That mindset will disappoint you and your daughter. There is no perfect school or dream school and your daughter is not "limited" because one school she likes doesn't offer merit.
Her daughter is literally limited to schools that do offer merit
No, in-state public schools are also an option without financial aid in their case.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 10:04
Subject: Re:schools w/ no merit aid
Look you can't have everything. My DS has a 3.9 weighted and not that many honors classes and no APs. He got accepted at all but one EA and was offered merit aid at every single one. Why? Because he picked schools he was at the top end of their stats and they want him to come. You can have merit aid but maybe not at your reach school.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:28
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
That mindset will disappoint you and your daughter. There is no perfect school or dream school and your daughter is not "limited" because one school she likes doesn't offer merit.
Her daughter is literally limited to schools that do offer merit
That is one ridiculous way to see it.
but that's true for many...
And many are “limited” by other factors: their academic records, the fact that they aren’t recruited athletes, the fact that all of the need-based aid in the world still might not make a school affordable because of travel costs and other incidentals.
Everyone is limited; OP’s daughter has fewer limitations than most and should focus on the many possibilities available to her.
Sure, OP's daughter is limited because her parents did well for themselves, but not well enough. =
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:27
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Do you can afford it, you’re just unhappy with having to sacrifice (“wiggle room”) so you want other families who are similarly well-off to cross subsidize you? Cool!
Look at the distribution, very well off kids and kids who qualify for a ton of aid make up the bulk of students. Students just barely full pay or receiving minimal aid can't afford it and don't attend.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:25
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
That mindset will disappoint you and your daughter. There is no perfect school or dream school and your daughter is not "limited" because one school she likes doesn't offer merit.
Her daughter is literally limited to schools that do offer merit
That is one ridiculous way to see it.
but that's true for many...
And many are “limited” by other factors: their academic records, the fact that they aren’t recruited athletes, the fact that all of the need-based aid in the world still might not make a school affordable because of travel costs and other incidentals.
Everyone is limited; OP’s daughter has fewer limitations than most and should focus on the many possibilities available to her.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:25
Subject: Re:schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:OP: If your daughter wants to attend an all-female LAC, then check-out Smith College and Mount Holyoke. Bryn Mawr is another. Not sure whether or not merit aid is available. Agnes Scott College in Atlanta is also all female.
Unfortunately for your situation,Wellesley College does not have to "buy" students.
If you can't afford Wellesley, how on earth can you afford Smith?
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:23
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
No, it only buys poor students.
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:19
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
That mindset will disappoint you and your daughter. There is no perfect school or dream school and your daughter is not "limited" because one school she likes doesn't offer merit.
Her daughter is literally limited to schools that do offer merit
That is one ridiculous way to see it.
but that's true for many...
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:14
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Do you can afford it, you’re just unhappy with having to sacrifice (“wiggle room”) so you want other families who are similarly well-off to cross subsidize you? Cool!
Anonymous
01/10/2023 09:13
Subject: schools w/ no merit aid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Long story short: we will not get any financial aid. We make too much for help but don't make enough to go full pay at a private in a way that leaves any wiggle room.
We are just starting this process, and child is an athlete that is in the midst of recruiting (only D3 at this point b/c of NCAA limits- and FTR I don't care if DC plays a sport or not but she does). I'm looking at the finances of the various schools and was shocked to learn that some of the schools she's been talking to give NO MERIT aid. DC has excellent grades, community service, ECs, and athletics.
I get she's one of many like man others . . . and I know at DC there are no athletic scholarships. But, how are people affording places like Wellesley? Their website and what I'm finding says they give ZERO aid on the basis that, essentially, "everyone there is special."
Yes, she can look elsewhere. And she is. But it is so sad to have to shut down a possibility that would, honestly, be such a perfect fit for her in every way. With room and board, etc. the cost per year is nearly $80K!!!! Two years would eat up more than our 529 has in it. Super bummed to have to limit her.
That mindset will disappoint you and your daughter. There is no perfect school or dream school and your daughter is not "limited" because one school she likes doesn't offer merit.
Her daughter is literally limited to schools that do offer merit
That is one ridiculous way to see it.