Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 15:15     Subject: 15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Get her some advil and a heating pad.

Give her some time to adjust. Then, encourage her to do as much as she can. If she's truly miserable (beyond advil), take her to the pediatrician to explore options.

I wouldn't push tampons on her first cycle.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 15:13     Subject: 15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe try kindness. I couldn’t do anything for a good 24 hours when I was her age. I was literally sick and throwing up each month.

+1and people (especially other women) who try to diminish how bad it can be are the worst.


This. My mom had a brief three day period with hardly any symptoms. I had a heavy seven day period with migraines and severe cramps and mood swings. Her lack of empathy and dismissive ness was not helpful.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 15:11     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Anonymous wrote:I totally disagree with people dumping on the OP. She said the period just started and the daughter simply thinks the world will stop based on how bad it will be. She did not say her daughter is in pain or misery. Her post seems to indicate her daughter is hearing from other sources that it will knock you out for the count for a week and is acting like that’s how it will be.

This has nothing to do with minimizing the experience of others who do suffer. That’s not the facts here.


Dysmenorrhea can take a few cycles of regular periods to appear. She is basically asking how she can discount her daughter’s expectation of pain before it even happens. She doesn’t know how her daughter will feel during her periods. Why suggest she will pain free if it’s possible she won’t be?
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 15:11     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

With an emotional teen, best just to keep exchanges about sensitive issues short and cheerful. “I am sure you’ll manage, honey, women have been menstruating since time immemorial.” Not a bad idea to take her to donate some period products to a shelter and gain a little perspective.


Boy, that will help if she feels like someone is trying to dig her uterus out with a spoon, on the verge of puking and bleeding so heavy that Super plus tampons and a heavy flow pad sometimes don't contain it.


+1 these people are as bad as the women blessed with super easy pregnancies/deliveries that they attribute to doing yoga/drinking green juice or some such nonsense and can’t fathom that others had different experiences
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 15:10     Subject: 15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
She got her period on her birthday! Wow. Assuming this is real, I’ll second those who say to take a wait and see approach. As someone who ended up going to the hospital because my period pains were so intense, and had to be medicated, it’s upsetting to hear a mother would shut down lines of communication before pain even potentially happens.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 15:09     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
I totally disagree with people dumping on the OP. She said the period just started and the daughter simply thinks the world will stop based on how bad it will be. She did not say her daughter is in pain or misery. Her post seems to indicate her daughter is hearing from other sources that it will knock you out for the count for a week and is acting like that’s how it will be.

This has nothing to do with minimizing the experience of others who do suffer. That’s not the facts here.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 15:01     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Anonymous wrote:

With an emotional teen, best just to keep exchanges about sensitive issues short and cheerful. “I am sure you’ll manage, honey, women have been menstruating since time immemorial.” Not a bad idea to take her to donate some period products to a shelter and gain a little perspective.


Boy, that will help if she feels like someone is trying to dig her uterus out with a spoon, on the verge of puking and bleeding so heavy that Super plus tampons and a heavy flow pad sometimes don't contain it.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:54     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Anonymous wrote:I wonder is OP is a troll. DD bday today and she gets her first period. What are the odds? And she has a "I'll tell you what to think" type mom?


troll teenage boy. 15 is very late for first period and what adult woman is watching Tik Toks on periods?
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:51     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Have some compassion, jeez. Of course it’s hard to fathom that you can live life relatively normally while heavily bleeding from an orifice for 3-7 days, if you’re new to it.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:47     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
I wonder is OP is a troll. DD bday today and she gets her first period. What are the odds? And she has a "I'll tell you what to think" type mom?
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:45     Subject: 15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe try kindness. I couldn’t do anything for a good 24 hours when I was her age. I was literally sick and throwing up each month.

+1and people (especially other women) who try to diminish how bad it can be are the worst.


This.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:41     Subject: 15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Some women have extremely painful periods for the first day. I threw up regularly. I was the worst pain I ever had, every month. Make sure that's not the case before judging.

Otherwise, I do see a lot of weird focus on DCUM re: daughters getting their first periods.

Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:41     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
She is right. You don't really seem to understand her. And I don't mean her period.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:39     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
Period nonsense? Drama queen?

You seem like a terrible mother.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2023 14:38     Subject: Re:15 year old got period and being influenced by the many “I’m sick and can’t function on period”
“Every girl is different and it can change from month to month. I’ll make sure you have everything you need to make it as comfortable as possible when you’re on your period.”