Drop off party and "due to limited space we cannot accommodate any siblings" on the invitation. This isn't hard.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misygonistic jerk about this.

He's a little boy who wants an boys only party just like girls want only "girls" party! He has lots of time before he can be accused of misygonistic jerk!

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

No. You tell that mom that it is "boys only" and the daughter IS NOT invited. It is past time for women like this to stop bringing their uninvited children to parties.

Don’t invite the 3 years younger child. She won’t fit in with a pack of older laser tag boys.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her that unfortunately you can't accommodate siblings this year.

+1

+2. Be upfront. It’s never ok to bring along siblings who aren’t invited. Obviously you can’t and shouldn’t prevent someone from hanging around a public accommodation, but you don’t need to pay for laser tag, give a gift bag, pay for cake etc. She isn’t a guest at the party.

+1,000

It's beyond rude if the kids are now old enough to be articulating who they want to come to their parties. Done. It sounds like you might need to be more direct with the mom regarding "no siblings". Offer to drive the child or to arrange a carpool if that helps, but these aren't preschoolers. Your son does not need to accommodate another family's childcare/marital issues.

I had a neighbor that did that and it was so annoying. He just didn’t care. He also think he’s slicker than he is. And he never asked, just showed up. I would say directly that it’s a drop off party and that we cannot accommodate siblings.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her that unfortunately you can't accommodate siblings this year.

+1

+2. Be upfront. It’s never ok to bring along siblings who aren’t invited. Obviously you can’t and shouldn’t prevent someone from hanging around a public accommodation, but you don’t need to pay for laser tag, give a gift bag, pay for cake etc. She isn’t a guest at the party.

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Anonymous wrote:Let the girl come to the party! By no means do you need to provide her a space in the laser tag, etc. activity. She can come, hang out with her mom while the boys play the game, and eat some cake.

If the party isn’t drop off, I wouldn’t care if she came along and hung out with mom at the arcade or whatever else was going on in the venue while the boys did their activities

That doesn't sound like the issue because it wouldn't count towards the headcount. If the girl does the activity then it does and that's what OP is trying to avoid since this is a pattern with this mom and girl.

Anonymous wrote:Let the girl come to the party! By no means do you need to provide her a space in the laser tag, etc. activity. She can come, hang out with her mom while the boys play the game, and eat some cake.

If the party isn’t drop off, I wouldn’t care if she came along and hung out with mom at the arcade or whatever else was going on in the venue while the boys did their activities

By 9 years old just make it a drop off party. If the mom doesn’t get the message and asks to stay with younger sibling, tell her you’re so sorry but limited spots for the activity.

If you are inviting parents to hang out while the boys do the activity, you don’t really have a choice. The mom has nowhere to take her six year old and I’d have some empathy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misogynistic jerk about this.

Some of you are trying so hard to make this a thing.

Yeah, by about 1st or 2nd grade my daughters wanted girl only birthday parties. It’s totally normal for kids at that age to self-segregated with their same gendered friends. Not all kids and not forever but it’s fine.

OP, just say you can’t accommodate siblings and offer to drive the friend, if that helps. That’s also totally normal.

Anonymous wrote:Let the girl come to the party! By no means do you need to provide her a space in the laser tag, etc. activity. She can come, hang out with her mom while the boys play the game, and eat some cake.

If people don’t have to invite a twin in another class they don’t have to have a much younger sibling if they don’t want to. There are other solutions to this problem.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misogynistic jerk about this.

Some of you are trying so hard to make this a thing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misogynistic jerk about this.

Let the girl come to the party! By no means do you need to provide her a space in the laser tag, etc. activity. She can come, hang out with her mom while the boys play the game, and eat some cake.