Thank you not needed. My nanny also did not give an extra thank you via text or card or any form and I’m not offended at all. I’m grateful she takes such good care of my child.

Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't cleared by now, I would use that as an opportunity to ask if she would mind depositing it soon so you can balance your checkbook for December. If she misplaced it for some reason or it dropped out of the card and was lost, you can put a stop payment and reissue the check.

Don't do this. Lord.

Disagree with others. I'm a date night sitter for many families and received bonuses/gifts from around 6. Cash was in cards. I said ty in person then when I physically opened the card or gift bag when alone, sent a thank you again via text. It's just the polite thing to do imo.

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Anonymous wrote:She. Said. Thank you. That is sufficient.

Oh, and your OP is incorrect and misleading. Because she said thank you.
You should change it to: Nanny only thanked us once instead of 2+ times, should we be offended?

+1 she wants nanny to be groveling and obsequious

Get over it, OP

Anonymous wrote:If it hasn't cleared by now, I would use that as an opportunity to ask if she would mind depositing it soon so you can balance your checkbook for December. If she misplaced it for some reason or it dropped out of the card and was lost, you can put a stop payment and reissue the check.

It doesn't need to be deposited? for that tho

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Anonymous wrote:She did, she didn’t open it with us, so she would not have known what was in the wrapped gifts or card at the time. It’s just unusual to me since I’ve never given someone a gift and not had them mention to me what it was when thanking me. She was given a substantial check so I don’t even know if she opened the card. Guess I’ll find out if she deposits it. Just not what I am used to.

You are her employer, not family or friend. She said thank you and that's enough. An email or text would be nice but the check was a job bonus not a gift so you're demanding a thank you is silly. Do you thank her every day for all she does?

Actually, yes I thank my nanny at the end of every day.

Anonymous wrote:It might be cultural too. Sending a thank you note after you already said thank you in person is not something people necessarily do elsewhere.

+1

My immigrant mother is horrified even by the concept of thank you notes.

Anonymous wrote:She did, she didn’t open it with us, so she would not have known what was in the wrapped gifts or card at the time. It’s just unusual to me since I’ve never given someone a gift and not had them mention to me what it was when thanking me. She was given a substantial check so I don’t even know if she opened the card. Guess I’ll find out if she deposits it. Just not what I am used to.

You are her employer, not family or friend. She said thank you and that's enough. An email or text would be nice but the check was a job bonus not a gift so you're demanding a thank you is silly. Do you thank her every day for all she does?

You're not a friend giving her a gift, you're a boss giving her a bonus. It's nice if employees say thanks, but bonuses are a recognition for the work, not a gift, and are earned. So a thank you while nice isn't required.

We put cash in a card and there was no acknowledgement. I am just not saying anything and hoping she got it, but I’m definitely offended that I didn’t even get a “thank you” verbally.

Anonymous wrote:Some people think that The Help should be extra! Extra! Extra! Thankful to their benevolent employers. If they’re not, then they’ll be offended. Just like OP already is.

No, this is not at all the case. It has just not been my experience that someone doesn’t acknowledge the particular thing they’ve been given as a gift. For instance we exchange gifts with family and friends who save them till Christmas to open and then they will say “Thank you for the book” or whatever. That was why I was asking because it’s not been my experience. If that’s apparently normal for some people outside my circle then I won’t be offended.

If it hasn't cleared by now, I would use that as an opportunity to ask if she would mind depositing it soon so you can balance your checkbook for December. If she misplaced it for some reason or it dropped out of the card and was lost, you can put a stop payment and reissue the check.

Some people think that The Help should be extra! Extra! Extra! Thankful to their benevolent employers. If they’re not, then they’ll be offended. Just like OP already is.

Anonymous wrote:She. Said. Thank you. That is sufficient.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:It might be cultural too. Sending a thank you note after you already said thank you in person is not something people necessarily do elsewhere.

This could be it. Honestly every preschool teacher we’ve given gifts to has written a thank you card and other sitters have thanked us after they opened gifts/gift cards etc.

Do you send hand written thank you cards for all of your holiday presents?

I do not, nor am I expecting one. However I do specifically thank the person who gave me a gift for the particular gift(s) they give me. This was how I was raised.

And some are raised to say thank you upon receipt, which is what nanny did.
She already said Thank You.