This is OP. Thank you for all your replies! As I suspected, it must be something more to do with this particular family than Chinese or Asian culture as a whole. Or perhaps it is an immigrant mentality.

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Anonymous wrote:My family reveres a highly educated SAHM.

I’m Korean American. All my relatives in Korea stay home. They study hard to go a top university to marry well and they all stayed home when they had a baby. I’m married to a physician and I also stay home. My mother seems to approve of my life. In Japanese and Korean cultures, it is preferred that the mom stay home to raise the children. I don’t think it is the same for Chinese or Indians although the uber rich don’t seem to work.

How do you feel about that? Would you want your daughter to live similar life down the road? No judgment here. Just curious.

You ask this question on every thread marginally related to SAHMs. Maybe find something else to do.

I was the PP who asked the question. This was my first time ever asking that question. Weird.

I'm Chinese, too. No, it is not.

I know a lot of white American families who are disappointed in family members who become SAHMs.

Anonymous wrote:Why are we generalizing about "Asian-Americans"?

Right? Asia is massive with a zillion different cultures. I know OP said Chinese but still, this is nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:My family reveres a highly educated SAHM.

I’m Korean American. All my relatives in Korea stay home. They study hard to go a top university to marry well and they all stayed home when they had a baby. I’m married to a physician and I also stay home. My mother seems to approve of my life. In Japanese and Korean cultures, it is preferred that the mom stay home to raise the children. I don’t think it is the same for Chinese or Indians although the uber rich don’t seem to work.

How do you feel about that? Would you want your daughter to live similar life down the road? No judgment here. Just curious.

You ask this question on every thread marginally related to SAHMs. Maybe find something else to do.

My Filipino grandmother and mother both worked. It was my grandmother's career at the World Bank that brought her to the US. It was the men who stayed home bc they couldn't find work here.

Why are we generalizing about "Asian-Americans"?

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Anonymous wrote:My family reveres a highly educated SAHM.

I’m Korean American. All my relatives in Korea stay home. They study hard to go a top university to marry well and they all stayed home when they had a baby. I’m married to a physician and I also stay home. My mother seems to approve of my life. In Japanese and Korean cultures, it is preferred that the mom stay home to raise the children. I don’t think it is the same for Chinese or Indians although the uber rich don’t seem to work.

How do you feel about that? Would you want your daughter to live similar life down the road? No judgment here. Just curious.

I would want my daughter to live the life she wants. I am sending her to top schools to give her all the opportunities— that is my responsibility. How she chooses to use all those opportunities is her responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:Uhm not really. There’s even a Chinese word for ladies who lunch. They call them tai tais. So no you can’t generalize.

Tai tai means wife

It can be used to refer to your wife and it’s also a colloquial term for ladies with lunch. Plenty of Chinese aspirational tai tais.

https://amp.scmp.com/magazines/style/news-trends/article/3020193/what-hong-kong-tai-tai-likes-spend-her-money-and-how

https://rabbitholemag.com/a-taitais-world/

Anonymous wrote:Uhm not really. There’s even a Chinese word for ladies who lunch. They call them tai tais. So no you can’t generalize.

Tai tai means wife

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Anonymous wrote:My family reveres a highly educated SAHM.

I’m Korean American. All my relatives in Korea stay home. They study hard to go a top university to marry well and they all stayed home when they had a baby. I’m married to a physician and I also stay home. My mother seems to approve of my life. In Japanese and Korean cultures, it is preferred that the mom stay home to raise the children. I don’t think it is the same for Chinese or Indians although the uber rich don’t seem to work.

How do you feel about that? Would you want your daughter to live similar life down the road? No judgment here. Just curious.

There are five billion Asians. You can’t possibly group them altogether. Each family’s preferences and opinions will vary.

Anonymous wrote:My family reveres a highly educated SAHM.

I’m Korean American. All my relatives in Korea stay home. They study hard to go a top university to marry well and they all stayed home when they had a baby. I’m married to a physician and I also stay home. My mother seems to approve of my life. In Japanese and Korean cultures, it is preferred that the mom stay home to raise the children. I don’t think it is the same for Chinese or Indians although the uber rich don’t seem to work.

Anonymous wrote:In Asian American culture, yes.

true BS