Anonymous wrote:OP why in the world did you let that dog in your house?
Your house your rules. You and DH are stupid. God forbid anyone got bit at your house you are responsible.
I love dogs however not in my house would i allow anyone to bring an aggressive one over.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH claims he explicitly told BIL no dog. Dog ended up being tied up in the freezing cold but BIL still seemed eager to bring the dog in. There were eight kids under 12 in attendance, including two toddlers and two babies.
Previous experience with this dog was Thanksgiving dinner where he brought it without permission and no warning it growls at children. For about the first hour BIL would pin the dog to the floor whenever it growled at a child. As time passed and the dog seemed to relax, BIL helped himself to the dinner I cooked and stopped monitoring the dog, so I was left frantically trying to carry a 20 pound baby around while keeping between the f--king dog and my toddler. DH said "What do you want, I'm eating!". SIL gaslighted me saying "It's not a pitbull".
No apology forthcoming. Clearly he and the other in-laws don't think he did anything wrong.
I am considering the nuclear option and reporting the dog to the city. If I did that I would be the big bad meanie forever of the family. Amazingly, BIL is a licensed childcare provider and works in a public school as some kind of an aid for people with special needs.
Is it an over-reaction to report the dog?
Is no one gonna mention the 20 POUND BABY?????
How old do you think counts as a baby? My daughter was almost 20 pounds at six months and she was big but not off the charts big.
Anonymous wrote:DH claims he explicitly told BIL no dog. Dog ended up being tied up in the freezing cold but BIL still seemed eager to bring the dog in. There were eight kids under 12 in attendance, including two toddlers and two babies.
Previous experience with this dog was Thanksgiving dinner where he brought it without permission and no warning it growls at children. For about the first hour BIL would pin the dog to the floor whenever it growled at a child. As time passed and the dog seemed to relax, BIL helped himself to the dinner I cooked and stopped monitoring the dog, so I was left frantically trying to carry a 20 pound baby around while keeping between the f--king dog and my toddler. DH said "What do you want, I'm eating!". SIL gaslighted me saying "It's not a pitbull".
No apology forthcoming. Clearly he and the other in-laws don't think he did anything wrong.
I am considering the nuclear option and reporting the dog to the city. If I did that I would be the big bad meanie forever of the family. Amazingly, BIL is a licensed childcare provider and works in a public school as some kind of an aid for people with special needs.
Is it an over-reaction to report the dog?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH claims he explicitly told BIL no dog. Dog ended up being tied up in the freezing cold but BIL still seemed eager to bring the dog in. There were eight kids under 12 in attendance, including two toddlers and two babies.
Previous experience with this dog was Thanksgiving dinner where he brought it without permission and no warning it growls at children. For about the first hour BIL would pin the dog to the floor whenever it growled at a child. As time passed and the dog seemed to relax, BIL helped himself to the dinner I cooked and stopped monitoring the dog, so I was left frantically trying to carry a 20 pound baby around while keeping between the f--king dog and my toddler. DH said "What do you want, I'm eating!". SIL gaslighted me saying "It's not a pitbull".
No apology forthcoming. Clearly he and the other in-laws don't think he did anything wrong.
I am considering the nuclear option and reporting the dog to the city. If I did that I would be the big bad meanie forever of the family. Amazingly, BIL is a licensed childcare provider and works in a public school as some kind of an aid for people with special needs.
Is it an over-reaction to report the dog?
Is no one gonna mention the 20 POUND BABY?????
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Omg, this is a terrible situation. Your BIL doesn’t seem to know (or care!) much about dogs or children. Your house, your rules. You don’t have to allow an unleashed, potentially volatile dog in your house.
What could you report the dog for? The city isn’t going to do anything about growing.
My MIL was hosting at an Arbnb. It was a potluck style thing. I don't see how the location is relevant to bringing a dangerous dog around children, although it does give me insight as to why h felt entitled to bring the dog. I already suspected someone gave him "permission". So does this mean zero family gatherings outside my house?
If it's not your house, that's easy. The second he comes in you pack up your kids and leave. "Oh, I didn't realize that dog would be here. My kids aren't allowed around him. Honey, I love you, we'll see you at home. MIL thanks so much for hosting. Come on kids! Chicken nuggets for Christmas! I know how much you love McDonald's. Daddy will bring your presents when he comes home."
You are insane
Anonymous wrote:DH claims he explicitly told BIL no dog. Dog ended up being tied up in the freezing cold but BIL still seemed eager to bring the dog in. There were eight kids under 12 in attendance, including two toddlers and two babies.
Previous experience with this dog was Thanksgiving dinner where he brought it without permission and no warning it growls at children. For about the first hour BIL would pin the dog to the floor whenever it growled at a child. As time passed and the dog seemed to relax, BIL helped himself to the dinner I cooked and stopped monitoring the dog, so I was left frantically trying to carry a 20 pound baby around while keeping between the f--king dog and my toddler. DH said "What do you want, I'm eating!". SIL gaslighted me saying "It's not a pitbull".
No apology forthcoming. Clearly he and the other in-laws don't think he did anything wrong.
I am considering the nuclear option and reporting the dog to the city. If I did that I would be the big bad meanie forever of the family. Amazingly, BIL is a licensed childcare provider and works in a public school as some kind of an aid for people with special needs.
Is it an over-reaction to report the dog?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Omg, this is a terrible situation. Your BIL doesn’t seem to know (or care!) much about dogs or children. Your house, your rules. You don’t have to allow an unleashed, potentially volatile dog in your house.
What could you report the dog for? The city isn’t going to do anything about growing.
My MIL was hosting at an Arbnb. It was a potluck style thing. I don't see how the location is relevant to bringing a dangerous dog around children, although it does give me insight as to why h felt entitled to bring the dog. I already suspected someone gave him "permission". So does this mean zero family gatherings outside my house?
If it's not your house, that's easy. The second he comes in you pack up your kids and leave. "Oh, I didn't realize that dog would be here. My kids aren't allowed around him. Honey, I love you, we'll see you at home. MIL thanks so much for hosting. Come on kids! Chicken nuggets for Christmas! I know how much you love McDonald's. Daddy will bring your presents when he comes home."
Anonymous wrote:DH claims he explicitly told BIL no dog. Dog ended up being tied up in the freezing cold but BIL still seemed eager to bring the dog in. There were eight kids under 12 in attendance, including two toddlers and two babies.
Previous experience with this dog was Thanksgiving dinner where he brought it without permission and no warning it growls at children. For about the first hour BIL would pin the dog to the floor whenever it growled at a child. As time passed and the dog seemed to relax, BIL helped himself to the dinner I cooked and stopped monitoring the dog, so I was left frantically trying to carry a 20 pound baby around while keeping between the f--king dog and my toddler. DH said "What do you want, I'm eating!". SIL gaslighted me saying "It's not a pitbull".
No apology forthcoming. Clearly he and the other in-laws don't think he did anything wrong.
I am considering the nuclear option and reporting the dog to the city. If I did that I would be the big bad meanie forever of the family. Amazingly, BIL is a licensed childcare provider and works in a public school as some kind of an aid for people with special needs.
Is it an over-reaction to report the dog?
Anonymous wrote:I expect at most he would get a warning but he can't play the "Hurngh durrr, I had no idea my dog doesn't like kids" card if/when it does bite someone.
Likely animal control won't document this "report" though. They don't even always properly document bites (in VA). Or if they do, it doesn't matter, because enforcement is what matters.
The point being that it won't solve OP's problem - she needs to not allow the dog in the house.