Anonymous wrote:If your parent had any anesthesia, but even if they didn’t, be prepared for severe cognitive and behavioral symptoms. Imo they don’t warn people about this enough but even if you felt they were okay cognitively before the hospital stay, they may not be now. Top things to look out for are rough evenings and managing anything like medication, house stuff, etc.

100% this. It was awful.

OP - Are you aware of your parents finances since once you mentioned the other parent having some dementia, there really will be the need for some daily supervised care. You may benefit from having a visiting nurse set up a schedule to evaluare the home situation and see if you can get their services. Or see if an agency will do an in-home assessment and recommendation of care. One or both assessments may help provide you with key information. You may also want to look into other options for future care if at-home does not work. Better to have fuller coverage at the beginning and reduce as you see how both parents do and so you do not get worn out.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore the nasty PP. Your frail parent will need lots of help. My widowed MIL went home after her sepsis to a house with her trusty household help, who cook, clean, and do everything for her. If the other parent can take over all cooking, even feed her, help her with bathroom stuff, etc, then you won’t need to hire someone. Someone also needs to manage the medication schedule, if there are lots of meds.

Thank you…good advice

You are not taking swipes. Of course your other parent isn’t ready - who is ready for this, even in the best of circumstances, and I am guessing that other parent is justifiably scared about the situation. It’s very loving of you to step up to fill the gaps and troubleshoot and give support. What you describe is real life on all counts and best wishes to your whole family.

Op here…thank you for your kind words. Other parent is scared and also has some dementia so while physically able to help with cooking, shopping etc., this parent is not able to think ahead proactively and prepare for things. Leaves us in a watchful role to ensure we mitigate risks.

Many thanks to all who have responded with helpful input.

Oh, Ensure at the beginning if there is no appetite.