Anonymous
12/26/2022 19:51
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Anonymous wrote:My sister and BIL are first time grandparents to their grand daughter. I hosted Christmas and the baby and her mom( my niece) and the grandparents ( sister and BIL) were here. Baby is almost 1.
BIL announces that baby is curious and when they carry the baby, she points to all doors and they have to open them to show her what is behind the door. BIL says baby will be looking into all rooms and closets. (Baby will point to door and they will open it). He said if I don't want the baby looking through bedrooms, then I can take her upstairs myself to show her. How would you respond?
My niece ended up being good with keeping the baby busy.and that never ended up happening. BUT I found that interaction weird. The baby doesn't get to go everywhere just because she wants to....its called setting limits.
Was BIL weird?
I wouldn’t host Christmas if I’m required to open every door in my house upon command. Just tell him that doesn’t work for you and he can host Christmas instead.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:58
Subject: Re:BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Every room and closet is open in my house. We have cats that own us so bringing a baby into the mix would not bother me at all but I don't babysit so someone else has to do that. Our house is a help yourself house and if you see something you like tell me. I may just give it to you.
I have nothing I'm ashamed of and I'm not attached to things.
I have nothing I'm ashamed of and I'm not attached to things.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:52
Subject: Re:BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
God DCUM is so annoying sometimes.
Everyone STOP posting scripts. The visit is over. OP and baby apparently handled it fine. The only question was if BIL was “weird” not “please help craft the perfect script after you’ve located a time machine.”
Everyone STOP posting scripts. The visit is over. OP and baby apparently handled it fine. The only question was if BIL was “weird” not “please help craft the perfect script after you’ve located a time machine.”
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:47
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
“That’s so funny! Of course, this is our house so no going upstairs or into the bedrooms.”
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:44
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
This is why kids are so entitled these days.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:33
Subject: Re:BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Anonymous wrote:I would tell them which doors are off limits and find a few for them that she can open. Be very clear.
"Thank you for letting me know Larla is fascinated by doors." Doors a,b,c are off limits. Please do not go into those rooms. You can open doors x,y,z. However our house is not baby proofed so please watch her at all times."
Either this or just roll with it. Honestly it wouldn’t bother me, but I’m not a private person. But if you aren’t comfortable, that’s fine and this is a great script.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:30
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
I would take my sister aside and quietly say “You know that you and Bill have already turned into crazy grandparents with this door thing, right?”
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:28
Subject: Re:BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
My house, my rules. “Please do not open any doors except the one in which you sleep. If you cannot comply, please leave.”
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:07
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Anonymous wrote:My sister and BIL are first time grandparents to their grand daughter. I hosted Christmas and the baby and her mom( my niece) and the grandparents ( sister and BIL) were here. Baby is almost 1.
BIL announces that baby is curious and when they carry the baby, she points to all doors and they have to open them to show her what is behind the door. BIL says baby will be looking into all rooms and closets. (Baby will point to door and they will open it). He said if I don't want the baby looking through bedrooms, then I can take her upstairs myself to show her. How would you respond?
My niece ended up being good with keeping the baby busy.and that never ended up happening. BUT I found that interaction weird. The baby doesn't get to go everywhere just because she wants to....its called setting limits.
Was BIL weird?
"No, she won't. This isn't her home."
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:42
Subject: Re:BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Anonymous wrote:I would tell them which doors are off limits and find a few for them that she can open. Be very clear.
"Thank you for letting me know Larla is fascinated by doors." Doors a,b,c are off limits. Please do not go into those rooms. You can open doors x,y,z. However our house is not baby proofed so please watch her at all times."
+1
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:41
Subject: Re:BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Anonymous wrote:I would tell them which doors are off limits and find a few for them that she can open. Be very clear.
"Thank you for letting me know Larla is fascinated by doors." Doors a,b,c are off limits. Please do not go into those rooms. You can open doors x,y,z. However our house is not baby proofed so please watch her at all times."
This. Grandpa is just a bit clueless. I would just say something like "Cute! But not in this house. Please keep baby downstairs/in this area.. etc"
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:40
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Lol. Some people lose their darn minds when they fall in love with a baby. My dad sent a photo of my first the day she was born and my aunt said the baby was beautiful. My dad reprimanded her for only saying beautiful, she’s gorgeous at least.
Hopefully it wears off and normalizes (not just to make family events tolerable, but so she doesn’t grow up spoiled at that level). Just smile and set boundaries, redirect, and ask your sister or one of the child’s parents to intervene when needed. It’s annoying but manageable. If he pushes someone down the stairs for blocking a closet, that’s a different story of course.
Hopefully it wears off and normalizes (not just to make family events tolerable, but so she doesn’t grow up spoiled at that level). Just smile and set boundaries, redirect, and ask your sister or one of the child’s parents to intervene when needed. It’s annoying but manageable. If he pushes someone down the stairs for blocking a closet, that’s a different story of course.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:40
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Yep, one year old is gifted because she is curious about what’s behind the doors.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:34
Subject: BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
Sounds like he may just be trying to be cute talking about the baby's development. I can see saying that in a lighthearted vein. If he really means someone has to take the baby to all the rooms in the house and open all closets, then yes that's weird and I'd shut it down.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:33
Subject: Re:BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms
I would tell them which doors are off limits and find a few for them that she can open. Be very clear.
"Thank you for letting me know Larla is fascinated by doors." Doors a,b,c are off limits. Please do not go into those rooms. You can open doors x,y,z. However our house is not baby proofed so please watch her at all times."
"Thank you for letting me know Larla is fascinated by doors." Doors a,b,c are off limits. Please do not go into those rooms. You can open doors x,y,z. However our house is not baby proofed so please watch her at all times."