Anonymous
12/26/2022 21:08
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.
Wanting to have an occasional adult dinner, on vacation or otherwise, is not at all an unrealistic view of parenting. It’s a healthy one, in fact.
Read the OP, that’s not what she wants. She wants him gone huge chunks of the day. And what she wants and her budget are also out of sync.
Hi, I am OP. I do, absolutely, want him gone huge chunks of the day. 9-noon or even better, 9-3. Also I would like an option for a night out, 5-9. When he's with us, he will be playing with us in the pool, going on excursions, playing board games, making and having meals, etc. Trust me, the kid does not want to spend all his time with his mom and dad. When I was a kid, I wanted to be around other kids my age. That's what I am providing here, sanity for all while on vacation.
Budget-wise, we can afford quite a lot, but it has to make sense. $20k for a week at Beaches Turks/ Caicos isn't worth it to me personally. I could make $20K go on for a month-long or all-summer-long vacation, which I prefer. I have both time and money, but not so much money that a full time nanny makes sense - kid is too old for that, he wants sports/activities with other kids it's not about just supervision.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 21:01
Subject: Vacations with kids clubs etc
What you want isn’t going to exist at your price point. It sounds like the best way to accomplish the vacation you want to be on is to leave your child at home with a family member.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 20:32
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.
Wanting to have an occasional adult dinner, on vacation or otherwise, is not at all an unrealistic view of parenting. It’s a healthy one, in fact.
Read the OP, that’s not what she wants. She wants him gone huge chunks of the day. And what she wants and her budget are also out of sync.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 20:20
Subject: Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Ritz Carltons have great kids clubs.
The Omni homestead is great for a long weekend, lots to do and a kids club.
+1 Omni also has rooms with an attached sitting area (sleeper sofa, tv) for additional privacy.
If you go somewhere with a kid's museum or aquarium, you can often find camps. My DCs did a half day camp with their cousins at Cape Henlopen nature center once while in Lewes.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 20:05
Subject: Vacations with kids clubs etc
Ritz Carltons have great kids clubs.
The Omni homestead is great for a long weekend, lots to do and a kids club.
The Omni homestead is great for a long weekend, lots to do and a kids club.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 19:41
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.
I think you have a martyr’s view of parenting. But at any rate I don’t see OP asking for commentary on her desires, from martyrs or otherwise. So kindly buzz off.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 19:39
Subject: Vacations with kids clubs etc
^I know you don’t want all inclusives but that’s where we have done this, in Mexico and Jamaica. We have always gotten a 2 bedroom suite or two adjoining suites. We have stayed at many places and they were never that expensive in those two countries.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 19:36
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
Most nicer places we have stayed at have some sort of babysitting service for the evenings. I’ve never used it but others in the family have for their kids in places all over the world.
I understand. We have two kids and one never wanted to go to any type of kids club. The other wanted to be with the other kids and go with them to those activities constantly until about 8, when she stopped wanting to go to the kids club. We always let our kids decide what they wanted to do and had some mandatory family activities during the day. Other than that they could go with the others at the kids club or hang out with us.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:11
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.
Sounds like op has an only child that is a different dynamic. Two kids entertain eachother. Having one can actually be more difficult. Once he gets older I would let him invite a friend on vacations or vacation with another family.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 18:07
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.
You think you're better than me? Can you hear me laughing from where you are??
Different kids have different needs. Different parents have different needs.
I was also a SAHM for a while, and I still sent them to camps for school breaks. Not just so I could have time for myself, although I like that, but because the camps provide much more than a day with me at home. My kid needs a lot of activity, and I personally can't provide that day after day, so obviously I outsource it.
If you have less active/sedentary kids, or you park them in front of the TV or video game console, your experience is a lot different than mine.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:54
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.
Wanting to have an occasional adult dinner, on vacation or otherwise, is not at all an unrealistic view of parenting. It’s a healthy one, in fact.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 17:14
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 15:16
Subject: Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My ideal vacation would be: we have two bedrooms, and there is a drop-off quality kids program for a significant portion of the days- not just an hour or two, but the chunk of morning, 9-12, or all day, 9-3, and even a dinner/ night option such as 5-9. I have been researching, and have found some things, but wanted to see if anyone knows of something I might not have found.
- We don't want cruises, and let's not talk about it further please.
-We don't want big all-inclusives (honestly, Beaches Turks Caicos looks great, but not paying $20k for a week to live in 450 sq feet and no real separate bedroom for kid).
- Kid is 6, and likes almost everything, but would love outdoorsy activities.
In addition to looking at smaller resorts with kids clubs, I am also considering places where I could enroll child in the town/city's regular kids day camps for locals. Foe example, on a previous trip to Key West, I saw local kids doing the same stuff we were doing, but with their school's summer day camp.That's another thing that works for me if it's available in the location.
Why did you have a kid?
Seriously ...
So entertaining your kid 24/7 and having no privacy is your "vacation"? OK then.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 15:14
Subject: Re:Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.
In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.
Anonymous
12/26/2022 15:12
Subject: Vacations with kids clubs etc
Anonymous wrote:My ideal vacation would be: we have two bedrooms, and there is a drop-off quality kids program for a significant portion of the days- not just an hour or two, but the chunk of morning, 9-12, or all day, 9-3, and even a dinner/ night option such as 5-9. I have been researching, and have found some things, but wanted to see if anyone knows of something I might not have found.
- We don't want cruises, and let's not talk about it further please.
-We don't want big all-inclusives (honestly, Beaches Turks Caicos looks great, but not paying $20k for a week to live in 450 sq feet and no real separate bedroom for kid).
- Kid is 6, and likes almost everything, but would love outdoorsy activities.
In addition to looking at smaller resorts with kids clubs, I am also considering places where I could enroll child in the town/city's regular kids day camps for locals. Foe example, on a previous trip to Key West, I saw local kids doing the same stuff we were doing, but with their school's summer day camp.That's another thing that works for me if it's available in the location.
Why did you have a kid?
Seriously ...