Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She won’t let you? Your 4 year old makes the rules? Cut the hair. If it isn’t brushed regularly, it looks horrible. She has to let you brush it or she is getting a haircut. That’s it. Stand firm.
This. You're in charge. Brush or cut.. Her choice.
Before getting “firm” with a 4 year old, it’s important to acknowledge that the OP doesn’t know how to care for the child’s hair, and getting her hair combed might be causing significant distress and even pain for the child. People with thinner straighter hair that doesn’t tangle easily might not realize this. OP might also have a different type of hair from her child, since most people who use conditioner, detangling spray, moisturizers or other products on their own hair would probably guess that similar products might be beneficial for a child’s hair as well — even if they seek out products formulated for kids.
OP, without knowing how long your daughter’s hair is and what type of hair she has, it’s hard to make specific recommendations. Consider using a detangling spray before you gently comb it out, starting from the bottom — as another PP said. If her hair tangles easily, wearing it and sleeping with it in braids or twists might keep it from tangling. If her hair is wavy or curly , it’s possible that brushing it might be painful and lead to breakage. If your daughter has a very different type of hair from yours, seek guidance re: products from someone familiar with products for her hair type.