Are you having any other issues with anxiety or PPD? This sounds like “perseverating” to me, which could be a sign of depression.

Look at your DH’s baby pictures and I’m sure he won’t have lips either.

And your child can always draw them larger, like the Kardashians.

Thin lips have not held Kate Middleton back. Your baby will be fine, OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't notice DH had no lips when you kissed him?

Your DD's lips will get bigger than they are now, and she can do lip injections when she gets older if necessary. Plus there's that temporary upper lip lift celebs are getting that makes top lip look bigger.

He has incredibly thin lips. I noticed but it’s no big deal. Tons of people have thin lips.

When you kiss, do you just kiss his face? Since his lips are so thin?

Lady with thin lips here chiming in. Upper lip practically non-existent and lower lip very thin. It's actually great for playing the flute and other instruments and it has not harmed me in life. I just emphasize my eyes instead of my lips when doing makeup and I had no trouble dating or being perceived as attractive or finding someone to marry. Your kid will be fine.

I have thin lips, OP. I’ve had a wonderful life, even played a brass instrument for many years. If your doctor hasn’t mentioned anything, your kid is fine.

Look at pictures of DH as a baby and compare.

Also, this thread is absolutely hilarious.

Your baby has been seen by doctors and nurses since literally the day she was born, right? You're current on all checkups? Then by all means ask your pediatrician about it at the next visit, but they would have told you by now if something was noticeably wrong. If "no lips" were a sign of some disorder, disease or problem, they would have detected that and told you about it.

I agree with others saying you should be screened for PPA/PPD, especially as you even mention FAS knowing that you didn't drink during pregnancy. I say this as someone who suffered from PPD: please talk to your doctor.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t mean this to sound dismissive, although I realize it might, but I think it’s more likely that you’re suffering from PPA or PPD than that there’s something actually wrong with your baby. When I was in the throes of PPA I convinced myself something was wrong with my baby, and I’ve heard other moms discuss the same experience.

+1

Particularly since you’re worried about FAS when you didn’t drink (??) and you brought it up to the doctor and he’s not concerned either.

I agree with the above. It would be ridiculous if you were worried about how she looks or how she might look (especially because you don't think thin lips are a problem for your husband), but the fact that you are concerned about her lips when she's nursing fine, there aren't any physical issues, and your ped said there was nothing to worry about seems like PPA/PPD. For some perspective, my younger child was born with an umbilical hernia (quite common, usually goes away in the first few years - but if it doesn't it would require surgery at around five). I was sad when our ped told us about the umbilical hernia and asked if there was anything we should or shouldn't do, but I didn't research it obsessively and I didn't blame myself. I couldn't forget about it, because I saw it whenever I changed my baby's diaper. That said, I just enjoyed my baby and focused on everything else going on in my life - it wasn't hard to do. A year later, the hernia closed. I would give the lips some time and remind yourself that there isn't a physical issue, it's purely cosmetic.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t mean this to sound dismissive, although I realize it might, but I think it’s more likely that you’re suffering from PPA or PPD than that there’s something actually wrong with your baby. When I was in the throes of PPA I convinced myself something was wrong with my baby, and I’ve heard other moms discuss the same experience.

+1

Particularly since you’re worried about FAS when you didn’t drink (??) and you brought it up to the doctor and he’s not concerned either.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't notice DH had no lips when you kissed him?

Your DD's lips will get bigger than they are now, and she can do lip injections when she gets older if necessary. Plus there's that temporary upper lip lift celebs are getting that makes top lip look bigger.

He has incredibly thin lips. I noticed but it’s no big deal. Tons of people have thin lips.

If it's not a big deal why did you make a post about it? Obviously, your baby inherited your DH lips.

I think she meant it wasn’t a big deal to her. But she might be worried about how that will affect the child. And I think that is a valid concern.

It’s like if you have ADHD and you are able to overcome it and lead a normal life like other people. But if your kid has ADHD, you can still be concerned about how it affects your kid even though you didn’t have any issues overcoming the challenges you faced.

You should be screened for PPA or PPD. Especially because you’re worried about FAS when you stopped drinking before conceiving - because that’s not a rational concern if you didn’t have any alcohol during pregnancy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't notice DH had no lips when you kissed him?

Your DD's lips will get bigger than they are now, and she can do lip injections when she gets older if necessary. Plus there's that temporary upper lip lift celebs are getting that makes top lip look bigger.

He has incredibly thin lips. I noticed but it’s no big deal. Tons of people have thin lips.

If it's not a big deal why did you make a post about it? Obviously, your baby inherited your DH lips.

Anonymous wrote:You didn't notice DH had no lips when you kissed him?

Your DD's lips will get bigger than they are now, and she can do lip injections when she gets older if necessary. Plus there's that temporary upper lip lift celebs are getting that makes top lip look bigger.

He has incredibly thin lips. I noticed but it’s no big deal. Tons of people have thin lips.