Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 19:15     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.


This post is kind of jaw dropping to me.



To me too.


Me too. I feel sorry for that poster. To have never found a career that might actually satisfy a lot of what they complain about. I work in healthcare and find it enormously satisfying. Hard, physical, emotional work - but very satisfying. I love what I do and am interested and ready just about every day I go in to work. The 'glamorous' part is funny - what does that even mean to the person?


Maybe they were a production assistant for broadcast or something. Agree that she clearly wasn’t doing a job that brought her satisfaction and/or was not in a field that would be satisfying and challenging, just tedium in the hopes of achieving glamour. Glad things worked out for her.

I don’t have to work for pay, but I love it. Took a LOT of time off to SAH and now I’m glad to have a career again.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:41     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.


This post is kind of jaw dropping to me.



To me too.


Me too. I feel sorry for that poster. To have never found a career that might actually satisfy a lot of what they complain about. I work in healthcare and find it enormously satisfying. Hard, physical, emotional work - but very satisfying. I love what I do and am interested and ready just about every day I go in to work. The 'glamorous' part is funny - what does that even mean to the person?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:38     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.


This post is kind of jaw dropping to me.



To me too.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:33     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:The beginning of any new job is exhausting. You’ll get into a routine at work and it will get better OP.



+100000

Regardless of what you did before

After a week or two you won’t be so tired
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:30     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.


This post is kind of jaw dropping to me.

Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:28     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
The beginning of any new job is exhausting. You’ll get into a routine at work and it will get better OP.

Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:25     Subject: Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:Went back to work in my early 40s and was tired for over a year. Maybe 18 months. Was laid off due to covid and went back only part time. Took a significant financial hit but qualify of life is better.


Tired for over a year! Any tips that helped you? I'm not sure if I should start drinking coffee again in the mornings or if that will make things worse. I do eat a good breakfast.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:25     Subject: Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids?


Kindergarten. I have one kid, a dog and a husband and am tired! I can't imagine some of the families who have 3 kids, 2 dogs, a cat, and a lizard. Maybe part of it is my introversion. I need to be alone!

DP.. get rid of the dog if you are that tired. And get your DH to do more.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:23     Subject: Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids?


Kindergarten. I have one kid, a dog and a husband and am tired! I can't imagine some of the families who have 3 kids, 2 dogs, a cat, and a lizard. Maybe part of it is my introversion. I need to be alone!
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:22     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
I think it takes at least 6 months to settle into any new job, and a year before you are really rolling.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:22     Subject: Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:Work is hard OP.


I know, I just didn't feel like it was THIS hard when I was a little younger. And I was working way more hours and on weekends.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:20     Subject: Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:Are you eating decently, taking a vitamin, drinking enough water? I think it gets easier as you develop routines and get on autopilot. But definitely try to simplify at home—takeout, etc—and try to set aside time for exercise or something energizing.


I'm trying, but the job is unpredictable. Today I couldn't go to the bathroom until lunch time. I had 20 minutes to get and eat lunch, so I didn't eat or drink as much as I would have liked to today. I'm trying to preload on water before work and drink more in the evenings.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:19     Subject: Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Never. Once they are older you will be middle aged.


This. Can you quit ?


I just started!
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 18:11     Subject: Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Are you eating decently, taking a vitamin, drinking enough water? I think it gets easier as you develop routines and get on autopilot. But definitely try to simplify at home—takeout, etc—and try to set aside time for exercise or something energizing.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2022 17:55     Subject: Re:Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

I guess you're very fortunate that not everyone feels the way you do. Otherwise, no one would work.


I think most people feel like me but they work to pay the bills. I have super inexpensive tastes and thankfully I saved modest amount of money when I worked, and DH is also working. But, GOD, it is a drag to work!