Anonymous
Post 12/18/2022 03:23     Subject: Re:Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:NP, but similar-lite situation. No intense chemistry, and we are both available. We've had a friendly working relationship for a while, and meeting in person, for me, sparked an interest. We've talked maybe 3-4 times in person. He said a couple of things that made me think he's possibly interested, as well; for example, he said something that made me pretty sure he knew something about me that I didn't tell him.

I'm afraid that the fear of awkwardness will keep me from exploring whether a relationship is possible.


You’re both available…completely different…and you only talk to him a little otherwise . I say go for it.

I’m not going for my crush only bc I am married with kids , he is married with kids, and he’s my boss (at a very good job). But if not for those three things, I’d go for it. (We work remotely.

If we were single and just working together, I’d be all over it.

Awkwardness isn’t a big deal—it’s usually just in your head.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 21:16     Subject: Re:Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
NP, but similar-lite situation. No intense chemistry, and we are both available. We've had a friendly working relationship for a while, and meeting in person, for me, sparked an interest. We've talked maybe 3-4 times in person. He said a couple of things that made me think he's possibly interested, as well; for example, he said something that made me pretty sure he knew something about me that I didn't tell him.

I'm afraid that the fear of awkwardness will keep me from exploring whether a relationship is possible.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 21:01     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why you don't poop where you eat.

Work is for working, not romance.


Ridiculous. So many people meet and go on to have relationships because of meeting at work. As long as everyone can behave like rational adults whether it works out or not there is nothing wrong with it.


Says the office floosy.


Haha. I'm sure you don't have to worry about men approaching you at work.



floozy= American English, floozie = British English
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 20:58     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why you don't poop where you eat.

Work is for working, not romance.


Ridiculous. So many people meet and go on to have relationships because of meeting at work. As long as everyone can behave like rational adults whether it works out or not there is nothing wrong with it.


I married my “hot guy from work” fling! Going on 15 years now.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 20:58     Subject: Re:Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:Op, don’t over think it. Just start over. The past is in the past. I’m always surprised by how easy it is to re-establish relationships. Some of us just make it more difficult than it needs to be.


Yes. Try to go back to the old relationship. It makes work more productive and pleasant, and all you need to do is not touch him, ever. Seems simple enough, no?
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 20:56     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP: he’s a man who farts, takes stinky dumps, and leaves his dirty underwear on the floor. He probably has bad morning breath.

Still attracted once confronted with his mundane reality?



It's odd to me that you think it's normal to no longer be attracted to someone because of normal bodily functions. Also odd that you think all men leave their dirty underwear thrown about


I like PP’s approach. It helps take the guy out of the realm of fantastical, irresistible chemistry. He’s a real person with real, human traits.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 15:26     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He’s probably sh#tting his pants that you’ll file a harassment complaint with HR.


It sounds like this was a one way thing. OP was all up on him and he was just going about doing his work. Now OP is acting like she hate the man. I seriously doubt this guy will want to work or be in close proximity to OP. Would you?


I have to agree this seems to be in ops head and she's behaving like a middle school girl with a crush
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 15:25     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:OP: he’s a man who farts, takes stinky dumps, and leaves his dirty underwear on the floor. He probably has bad morning breath.

Still attracted once confronted with his mundane reality?



It's odd to me that you think it's normal to no longer be attracted to someone because of normal bodily functions. Also odd that you think all men leave their dirty underwear thrown about
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 13:49     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why you don't poop where you eat.

Work is for working, not romance.


Ridiculous. So many people meet and go on to have relationships because of meeting at work. As long as everyone can behave like rational adults whether it works out or not there is nothing wrong with it.


Says the office floosy.


Haha. I'm sure you don't have to worry about men approaching you at work.


That's because she is 80 years old. No one under 80 says floozie.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 13:45     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
OP: he’s a man who farts, takes stinky dumps, and leaves his dirty underwear on the floor. He probably has bad morning breath.

Still attracted once confronted with his mundane reality?
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 10:01     Subject: Re:Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
You are so weird!
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 08:51     Subject: Re:Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Just imagine him as a dude you've been married to for seven years who doesn't make an effort any more and the feelings will pass.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 08:45     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:He’s probably sh#tting his pants that you’ll file a harassment complaint with HR.


It sounds like this was a one way thing. OP was all up on him and he was just going about doing his work. Now OP is acting like she hate the man. I seriously doubt this guy will want to work or be in close proximity to OP. Would you?
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 08:44     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:This is why you don't poop where you eat.

Work is for working, not romance.


She didn’t. Instead, she’s backed away and become cold and awkward, which is a better choice than pursuing something with the co-worker.

OP- time and practice. And try to remind yourself that how you’ve been acting is better than engaging further with your co-worker.
Anonymous
Post 12/17/2022 08:43     Subject: Intense Chemistry now Awkward with Coworker
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why you don't poop where you eat.

Work is for working, not romance.


Ridiculous. So many people meet and go on to have relationships because of meeting at work. As long as everyone can behave like rational adults whether it works out or not there is nothing wrong with it.


Says the office floosy.


Haha. I'm sure you don't have to worry about men approaching you at work.