Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:46
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
So? My sister has always been clear she doesn't want kids even since we were teens. She likes being an aunt and godmother, she doesn't want kids of her own. Her wife similarly is a wonderful aunt, just no interest in kids of her own. (They’re in their 40s).
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:44
Subject: Re:DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Perhaps you declared less dumb sh1t than I did as a 20 year old. I wouldn’t worry about it!
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:41
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
She’s in college, why would she want kids?
She may very well change her mind once she’s done with her education, established in her career and married. People change their mind all the time and she is correct. Kids are expensive … Especially for a student. Sounds like she’s a realist.
She may very well change her mind once she’s done with her education, established in her career and married. People change their mind all the time and she is correct. Kids are expensive … Especially for a student. Sounds like she’s a realist.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:40
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
This is shocking, especially because she is at a top 20 college.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:37
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
My Dd is 20 and has been saying since she was 2 or 3 that she doesn’t want kids. She’s never liked babysitting. I told her that’s totally fine.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:36
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DD says the same thing. I REALLY hope she’ll change her mind. I’ve always wanted kids and enjoy being a parent.
What? Don't you have kids??
You wanted and had kids. She doesn't want any so she shouldn't have to have one.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:36
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Why is it hard? Serious question. There's nothing worse than people having kids who should haven't them/didn't want them.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:35
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Anonymous wrote:DD is at a Top 20 college and has declared she doesn’t want kids because they’re expensive.
It makes me sad but at the same time, I blame myself because I keep reminding her how pricey college/clothing/housing is.
I’m just trying to ignore her declaration but it’s hard.
Its fine if she doesn't want any but she is too young to carve it in stone. Your worries at this point are pointless.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:33
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Anonymous wrote:DD says the same thing. I REALLY hope she’ll change her mind. I’ve always wanted kids and enjoy being a parent.
I don’t get it—you had a kid and are a parent. Your child is not you.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:33
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Anonymous wrote:DD says the same thing. I REALLY hope she’ll change her mind. I’ve always wanted kids and enjoy being a parent.
What? Don't you have kids??
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:33
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I knew at that age I didn't want kids, and never changed my mind. (I'm 49 now.)
She may change her mind, may not - the cost thing may be a factor, or may just be what she's saying because she feels like she needs reasons for what is at its essence an emotional decision.
I feel like the best thing you can do is to really talk to her, not try to argue with her or ignore her, but you know your kid best and also you know what you have the capacity for.
Really weird that you as a childless 49 y/o woman is responding to this.
NP. Really weird that you haven’t mastered subject-verb agreement.
My mistake. It’s still weird though.
No, it’s not. Women that do not want kids are always told they will change their mind. It’s important to recognize that not everyone does. And that is a valid choice.
What’s weird is your need to control who can respond to a thread.
+1. PP is probably one of those who squawks about “why are childless people even ON this forum,” when in fact this is posted in the Relationships forum.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:32
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Anonymous wrote:DD says the same thing. I REALLY hope she’ll change her mind. I’ve always wanted kids and enjoy being a parent.
Hopefully you raised her to think for her self and make her own decisions.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:31
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I knew at that age I didn't want kids, and never changed my mind. (I'm 49 now.)
She may change her mind, may not - the cost thing may be a factor, or may just be what she's saying because she feels like she needs reasons for what is at its essence an emotional decision.
I feel like the best thing you can do is to really talk to her, not try to argue with her or ignore her, but you know your kid best and also you know what you have the capacity for.
Really weird that you as a childless 49 y/o woman is responding to this.
NP. Really weird that you haven’t mastered subject-verb agreement.
My mistake. It’s still weird though.
No, it’s not. Women that do not want kids are always told they will change their mind. It’s important to recognize that not everyone does. And that is a valid choice.
What’s weird is your need to control who can respond to a thread.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:25
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
DD says the same thing. I REALLY hope she’ll change her mind. I’ve always wanted kids and enjoy being a parent.
Anonymous
12/11/2022 16:25
Subject: DD adamant she doesn’t want kids
It's fine. She's stressed by how expensive things are and doesn't see a clear path to earning enough. It's a very normal feeling at that age . Keep your mouth shut and let her find her way..