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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people think St. Patrick's is exclusive (it is not). there are a ton of wannabees that may be obsessed with families that were once there a few years ago but moved on. BTW, I know that crowd and they moved their kids out early because they thought it was a soft school. that is the joke - you have to get your child out of there before 6th grade.

Actually, the joke is that you don't know how to capitalize a sentence.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people think St. Patrick's is exclusive (it is not). there are a ton of wannabees that may be obsessed with families that were once there a few years ago but moved on. BTW, I know that crowd and they moved their kids out early because they thought it was a soft school. that is the joke - you have to get your child out of there before 6th grade.

Actually, the joke is that you don't know how to capitalize a sentence.

I don't understand why people think St. Patrick's is exclusive (it is not). there are a ton of wannabees that may be obsessed with families that were once there a few years ago but moved on. BTW, I know that crowd and they moved their kids out early because they thought it was a soft school. that is the joke - you have to get your child out of there before 6th grade.

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Anonymous wrote:by people who have seen it first hand!

Or very jealous people.

jealous of what? the men in needlepoint belts? doubtful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of social climber families. I’ve noticed that the nice ones we know who initially go there don’t last long.

Where do the nicer families tend to go after St. Pats? Not trying to be a jerk but honestly curious as I would say most (not all) of the St. Pats families that have landed at our school would meet the less flattering description posted above - insular, cliquey, etc…

Same with ours! Out of all the st pats families at our k-12, the only nice one is one who left early bc they couldn’t stand the families or social atmosphere at st pats

Our grade completely changed when several St. Pats families joined. It was much closer and cohesive before they joined.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of social climber families. I’ve noticed that the nice ones we know who initially go there don’t last long.

Where do the nicer families tend to go after St. Pats? Not trying to be a jerk but honestly curious as I would say most (not all) of the St. Pats families that have landed at our school would meet the less flattering description posted above - insular, cliquey, etc…

Same with ours! Out of all the st pats families at our k-12, the only nice one is one who left early bc they couldn’t stand the families or social atmosphere at st pats

Anonymous wrote:by people who have seen it first hand!

Or very jealous people.

by people who have seen it first hand!

Anonymous wrote:St Patrick's parent community historically has been trashed. The only thing worse is the newbies who go to find"their people". I have heard that recently by two newish parents at St. Pat's. So awful.

Trashed by whom? DCUM?

St Patrick's parent community historically has been trashed. The only thing worse is the newbies who go to find"their people". I have heard that recently by two newish parents at St. Pat's. So awful.

We are St. Pat's parents and have been very happy with the school and parent community. The nursery years were tougher, because many parents tend to socialize at that age with their friends, so they don't care as much about play dates with your kid if they don't know you - and I realized its not really personal at that point, it is about parent convenience. Especially for the ones who have multiple older children. We were able to easily plan play dates with families that had one child, or where their nursery age child was the oldest. So, maybe that was not a St. Pat's thing, but an age thing? I haven't experienced another independent school yet as a parent, so I can't compare there.

As we moved further into lower school, and children's friendships become more clear, and parents seem very eager to ensure that everyone in a class is included in parties and events.

My DH and I did not select a school hoping to find friends for ourselves, we were looking for a school that would be the very best fit for our child, but we've ended up really finding a great group of people there that I do consider real friends. The people we've become close with are mostly parents of classmates, but as I've volunteered more, I have met many parents from other grades and become friends with them too.

One of my ex girlfriends' two daughters attended St. Pats, and she is amazing. Beautiful and very classy, and definitely not a social climber or exclusive. She is just the opposite, very inclusive. I am happy with my DW, but when I look back on my dating life, the St. Pats Mom is the only one who I sometimes wonder if they got away. Just one data point but hope it helps!

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of social climber families. I’ve noticed that the nice ones we know who initially go there don’t last long.

Where do the nicer families tend to go after St. Pats? Not trying to be a jerk but honestly curious as I would say most (not all) of the St. Pats families that have landed at our school would meet the less flattering description posted above - insular, cliquey, etc…

Serious question. How the hell would anyone know. The kids leave for high school. The parent interaction with other parents tend to decrease as your kid ages. By high school you will have little to no interaction with other parents. Specially if you are the new parents to a new high school.

This is why we are not going to school auction, etc. We do not know the other parents. These parents will hang with the people they know and they do not want to meet or interact with the new parents. It’s your kids school and social life not yours.

Current St Pats family. We are on financial aid. I will say during covid it’s been difficult to socialize obviously however we have had and continue to have a great experience. The teachers are fantastic and the parent community has been amazing. We have been happy and our daughter is thriving.

Anonymous wrote:Current family and there have a been a few welcoming families but overall it is awful. My daughter seems to liking it as she gets along with everyone and thrives pretty much everywhere. I do worry about her being surrounded by kids whose parents care more about the their social needs vs. the children. I wish I had picked a school where it is all about the children vs. the parents.

Seems like you picked a school that was good for your DD but not good for your socializing.