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Anonymous wrote:At 11YO for a travel team? The Coach is right. You earn your playing time and if you miss a pass, you get benched.

Just to be clear - that’s stupid. It is also a fairly common thought from someone who has no clue about coaching youth. Thankfully, in most sports, you ditch those types at about 11. Ideally, you don’t have to deal with them at all. But, they end up hanging around until people realize: “yeah that guy is stupid.”

Kids (and adults) learn at different paces, and they are bound by their then existing physical abilities. Some kids learn quicker. Some kids are physically superior, some kids are both. Many are not. Yelling at a kid threatening negative action for failure to achieve some physical goal is ridiculous. If a kid is not paying attention, or appears to not be putting forth effort - encourage on the field of play if needed (“John I need you working hard out there.” “John, keep your positioning.” Or, more often, a quick discussion on the sideline. Guess what? Not every kid is at their best every day. Every coach knows that. But, along the same lines, — no youth coach has any particular understanding of a kid on a team. So they (if they have any sense at all) stay strictly with general motivational techniques and language.

Eventually - those kids who continue to progress are self-motivated to do the work necessary to achieve on-going improvements. None of that is done by yelling at a kid. Ever.

Coach didn’t yell. He said this. It’s fine and it was accurate.

OP, was trying to present this as neutrally as possible but yeah, it was yelled.

IMHO, telling an 11yo off the field that if they want to start, they need to do X consistently is the point, and 100% appropriate.

Yelling "Do you want to come off?" in the moment (according to DC), maybe not so much.

Several families chose to switch clubs rather than have their kids play under this coach, so I'm wondering if they were onto something.

Anonymous wrote:That’s not bad coaching. A good coach makes substitutions when a player isn’t helping the team, especially when the team needs help

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 11YO for a travel team? The Coach is right. You earn your playing time and if you miss a pass, you get benched.

Just to be clear - that’s stupid. It is also a fairly common thought from someone who has no clue about coaching youth. Thankfully, in most sports, you ditch those types at about 11. Ideally, you don’t have to deal with them at all. But, they end up hanging around until people realize: “yeah that guy is stupid.”

Kids (and adults) learn at different paces, and they are bound by their then existing physical abilities. Some kids learn quicker. Some kids are physically superior, some kids are both. Many are not. Yelling at a kid threatening negative action for failure to achieve some physical goal is ridiculous. If a kid is not paying attention, or appears to not be putting forth effort - encourage on the field of play if needed (“John I need you working hard out there.” “John, keep your positioning.” Or, more often, a quick discussion on the sideline. Guess what? Not every kid is at their best every day. Every coach knows that. But, along the same lines, — no youth coach has any particular understanding of a kid on a team. So they (if they have any sense at all) stay strictly with general motivational techniques and language.

Eventually - those kids who continue to progress are self-motivated to do the work necessary to achieve on-going improvements. None of that is done by yelling at a kid. Ever.

Coach didn’t yell. He said this. It’s fine and it was accurate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 11YO for a travel team? The Coach is right. You earn your playing time and if you miss a pass, you get benched.

Just to be clear - that’s stupid. It is also a fairly common thought from someone who has no clue about coaching youth. Thankfully, in most sports, you ditch those types at about 11. Ideally, you don’t have to deal with them at all. But, they end up hanging around until people realize: “yeah that guy is stupid.”

Kids (and adults) learn at different paces, and they are bound by their then existing physical abilities. Some kids learn quicker. Some kids are physically superior, some kids are both. Many are not. Yelling at a kid threatening negative action for failure to achieve some physical goal is ridiculous. If a kid is not paying attention, or appears to not be putting forth effort - encourage on the field of play if needed (“John I need you working hard out there.” “John, keep your positioning.” Or, more often, a quick discussion on the sideline. Guess what? Not every kid is at their best every day. Every coach knows that. But, along the same lines, — no youth coach has any particular understanding of a kid on a team. So they (if they have any sense at all) stay strictly with general motivational techniques and language.

Eventually - those kids who continue to progress are self-motivated to do the work necessary to achieve on-going improvements. None of that is done by yelling at a kid. Ever.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 11YO for a travel team? The Coach is right. You earn your playing time and if you miss a pass, you get benched.

Just to be clear - that’s stupid. It is also a fairly common thought from someone who has no clue about coaching youth. Thankfully, in most sports, you ditch those types at about 11. Ideally, you don’t have to deal with them at all. But, they end up hanging around until people realize: “yeah that guy is stupid.”

Kids (and adults) learn at different paces, and they are bound by their then existing physical abilities. Some kids learn quicker. Some kids are physically superior, some kids are both. Many are not. Yelling at a kid threatening negative action for failure to achieve some physical goal is ridiculous. If a kid is not paying attention, or appears to not be putting forth effort - encourage on the field of play if needed (“John I need you working hard out there.” “John, keep your positioning.” Or, more often, a quick discussion on the sideline. Guess what? Not every kid is at their best every day. Every coach knows that. But, along the same lines, — no youth coach has any particular understanding of a kid on a team. So they (if they have any sense at all) stay strictly with general motivational techniques and language.

Eventually - those kids who continue to progress are self-motivated to do the work necessary to achieve on-going improvements. None of that is done by yelling at a kid. Ever.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 11YO for a travel team? The Coach is right. You earn your playing time and if you miss a pass, you get benched.

Just to be clear - that’s stupid. It is also a fairly common thought from someone who has no clue about coaching youth. Thankfully, in most sports, you ditch those types at about 11. Ideally, you don’t have to deal with them at all. But, they end up hanging around until people realize: “yeah that guy is stupid.”

Kids (and adults) learn at different paces, and they are bound by their then existing physical abilities. Some kids learn quicker. Some kids are physically superior, some kids are both. Many are not. Yelling at a kid threatening negative action for failure to achieve some physical goal is ridiculous. If a kid is not paying attention, or appears to not be putting forth effort - encourage on the field of play if needed (“John I need you working hard out there.” “John, keep your positioning.” Or, more often, a quick discussion on the sideline. Guess what? Not every kid is at their best every day. Every coach knows that. But, along the same lines, — no youth coach has any particular understanding of a kid on a team. So they (if they have any sense at all) stay strictly with general motivational techniques and language.

Eventually - those kids who continue to progress are self-motivated to do the work necessary to achieve on-going improvements. None of that is done by yelling at a kid. Ever.

Anonymous wrote:At 11YO for a travel team? The Coach is right. You earn your playing time and if you miss a pass, you get benched.

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Hard to say. If he got benched, then that was a coaching decision. If he was asked, “Do you want to be benched?” in the way I might say, “Do want me to pull this car over?” to my kids, that is not a coaching decision.

Personally, I would prefer that my child get a warning not to make a mistake again vs. immediately being pulled off to sit on the bench. YMMV.

Hard to say. If he got benched, then that was a coaching decision. If he was asked, “Do you want to be benched?” in the way I might say, “Do want me to pull this car over?” to my kids, that is not a coaching decision.