Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 18:24     Subject: Re:A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
The key question is, who are these middle aged men? There are very few who are single and desirable IME.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 18:00     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:Positive attitude, likes sex. Anything else is gravy


Woman here. I was getting depressed at all the "pretty" "fit" and "not fat" until I got to this one and now I'm getting excited because that's me! And there's plenty of gravy!
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 17:54     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:She has to appreciate my jokes. That's mandatory - the rest we can figure out in time.


Red flag. Men who “joke” all the time are generally. . . not funny.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 17:46     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Pretty
Likes sex
Smart
Wicked sense of humor
Adventurous (food, experience, travel)
Hates clutter
Decent stiletto collection
Doesn’t get seasick


Ah, I've got all but the last.

I got all of it, but two man are already in line. Take a number.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 17:22     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:After 15 years of marriage, my husband has a simple list:

“I want an older, independent woman who takes care of me. I want someone who cooks for me, cleans for me, and never asks for sex.”

There you have it.


So a mother?
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 17:14     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
After 15 years of marriage, my husband has a simple list:

“I want an older, independent woman who takes care of me. I want someone who cooks for me, cleans for me, and never asks for sex.”

There you have it.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 16:44     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She has to appreciate my jokes. That's mandatory - the rest we can figure out in time.


Wait, so you don’t want a lecture everytime you say something funny? Don’t get married.



This feels accurate. I guess because most women don’t enjoy racist, misogynist, fat shaming, homophobic “jokes” and hope to enlighten you before you embarrass yourself or lose your job.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 16:28     Subject: Re:A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Y'all missed OP's point.

You need a sense of humor.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 16:24     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Sex positive
Enjoyable to be around in general
No mental health issues
Not obese
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 16:05     Subject: Re:A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:No mental health issues.


Yup. Been there. Not again.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 16:02     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
I thought about making a list of things that middle aged men must have, but the DCUM women would only answer "money" - so......

Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 15:55     Subject: A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:Pretty
Likes sex
Smart
Wicked sense of humor
Adventurous (food, experience, travel)
Hates clutter
Decent stiletto collection
Doesn’t get seasick



I am all these and 52 : )
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 15:49     Subject: Re:A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of the guys who posted here ... is such a woman hard to find? Seems like it shouldn't be


As you have noticed, a lot of guys put "fit" in their description of what they want in a woman. Most America women (and men) are not fit, especially in middle age. So that removes about 70% of the population right there.


Kind of like women who want a man who is over 6 feet tall, makes at least $500k/year, etc.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 15:47     Subject: Re:A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
Anonymous wrote:No mental health issues.


This, and no baggage from divorce, daddy issues, or anything else.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2022 15:43     Subject: Re:A middle aged man's (actual) list of desired qualities
No mental health issues.