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Anonymous wrote:OP returning after a day. I’m talking about the posters who leap to advising every OP to cut their parents or sister off. Yes, some parents seem awful from the OPs’ descriptions. In other cases, there are two clear problems with this.
1. It’s not always the parents’ fault. In some cases an immature OP is clearly the problem. (The SIL thread is an example, yes, yet on the first page one of you advised OP to cut SIL off.)
2. Cutting someone off for a minor offense is destructive and may be permanent. (The certified letter thread, where OP has given zero detail but some of you are yelling “cut mom off” anyway.)

People advising an OP to cut off someone, in the absence of details or when OP is immature, are destructive meddlers in others’ lives.

(As an aside, it’s so strange that one of you cares so deeply whether my thread succeeds or fails. I don’t care. If that’s all you have to worry about in your life, then you really are an immature drama llama.)

I’ve figured out the problem. OP has problems with reading comprehension and/or recalling main ideas from passages she reads. In the certified letter thread, the OP had already cut off the mom and was upset that mom wouldn’t accept her decision. That’s why there was a certified letter-she had been blocked in more common types of communication already. People weren’t encouraging OP to cut her off, because it had already happened. No wonder message boards are frustrating to the OP of this thread, so much reading is involved.

Just out of curiosity, OP. If someone keeps doing something you don’t like, and you tell them repeatedly to stop, what should you do when your words don’t work? What if, when you try to discuss the problem with them, they escalate? Every time. So you either quietly accept what they’re doing, discuss and increase conflict with no resolution-only escalation, or what else?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh dear, this thread fell rather flat, didn’t it, OP?

+1. Yikes! OP is all over the place with her “reasoning” and as someone else pointed out, clearly has issues with basic reading comprehension.

Anonymous wrote:Oh dear, this thread fell rather flat, didn’t it, OP?

Anonymous wrote:OP returning after a day. I’m talking about the posters who leap to advising every OP to cut their parents or sister off. Yes, some parents seem awful from the OPs’ descriptions. In other cases, there are two clear problems with this.
1. It’s not always the parents’ fault. In some cases an immature OP is clearly the problem. (The SIL thread is an example, yes, yet on the first page one of you advised OP to cut SIL off.)
2. Cutting someone off for a minor offense is destructive and may be permanent. (The certified letter thread, where OP has given zero detail but some of you are yelling “cut mom off” anyway.)

People advising an OP to cut off someone, in the absence of details or when OP is immature, are destructive meddlers in others’ lives.

(As an aside, it’s so strange that one of you cares so deeply whether my thread succeeds or fails. I don’t care. If that’s all you have to worry about in your life, then you really are an immature drama llama.)

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Anonymous wrote:OP - have you been cut off? It sounds like you are lashing out at invisible Internet posters who post advice on cutting someone off. I’ve never been cut off but I can imagine it is deeply frustrating that you can’t lash out at the person who cut you off because we’ll you’re cut off.

I don’t think it matters why someone choses to end a relationship if they don’t want to share that information. You really are in no position to judge whether a strangers decision to cut someone off is too minor in your opinion.

I think it’s healthy to remember that no one is entitled to an ongoing relationship with anyone else. It’s mutual acceptance only. You can’t rage your way into someone’s life or believe that just because you are related that they owe you something. They don’t. If you are cut off, accept it and move on.

Oh look, it’s the poster who thinks anybody who disagrees with her must have been cut off themselves. Your behavior here is a sign of immaturity and pot-stirring all by itself. No, as I’ve posted other threads, I spent a very pleasant Thanksgiving with my two children. My daughter used her 2nd or 3rd paycheck to take me to dinner, and last week my son thanked me for decisions I had made. Both were unsolicited and unexpected.

Your assumption that anybody who cuts someone else off must be right is sick, that’s the only word I can think of for it. Sometimes they’re right. Other times the person doing the cutting is overreacting to a minor slight by creating a permanent rift. Other times the person doing the cutting is an immature, self-centered jack-a$$ who isn’t getting their way. (Like you, I imagine.)

It's really none of your business, OP. Yet you create this overly dramatic thread to repeat the same things you said in the other threads.

Your cr@ppy “advice” is destructive and calling it out isn’t being “overly dramatic,” it’s bringing some reasoned maturity to the discussion. I’ve seen some (not me, ask the moderator) speculate you’re a troll or a 13-year-old. You should take a good look at your behavior, but you’re too immature to do so.

I think you need to take a break from the internet. You don't seem to realize that you are interacting with more than one person.

Yes, we all know there are two of you who think cutting everybody off is the solution to every inter-personal problem. You haven’t addressed any of the valid points raised above, about the value of using your words to compromise, instead all you have is insults. That alone says a lot about your maturity level.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - have you been cut off? It sounds like you are lashing out at invisible Internet posters who post advice on cutting someone off. I’ve never been cut off but I can imagine it is deeply frustrating that you can’t lash out at the person who cut you off because we’ll you’re cut off.

I don’t think it matters why someone choses to end a relationship if they don’t want to share that information. You really are in no position to judge whether a strangers decision to cut someone off is too minor in your opinion.

I think it’s healthy to remember that no one is entitled to an ongoing relationship with anyone else. It’s mutual acceptance only. You can’t rage your way into someone’s life or believe that just because you are related that they owe you something. They don’t. If you are cut off, accept it and move on.

Oh look, it’s the poster who thinks anybody who disagrees with her must have been cut off themselves. Your behavior here is a sign of immaturity and pot-stirring all by itself. No, as I’ve posted other threads, I spent a very pleasant Thanksgiving with my two children. My daughter used her 2nd or 3rd paycheck to take me to dinner, and last week my son thanked me for decisions I had made. Both were unsolicited and unexpected.

Your assumption that anybody who cuts someone else off must be right is sick, that’s the only word I can think of for it. Sometimes they’re right. Other times the person doing the cutting is overreacting to a minor slight by creating a permanent rift. Other times the person doing the cutting is an immature, self-centered jack-a$$ who isn’t getting their way. (Like you, I imagine.)

It's really none of your business, OP. Yet you create this overly dramatic thread to repeat the same things you said in the other threads.

Your cr@ppy “advice” is destructive and calling it out isn’t being “overly dramatic,” it’s bringing some reasoned maturity to the discussion. I’ve seen some (not me, ask the moderator) speculate you’re a troll or a 13-year-old. You should take a good look at your behavior, but you’re too immature to do so.

I think you need to take a break from the internet. You don't seem to realize that you are interacting with more than one person.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - have you been cut off? It sounds like you are lashing out at invisible Internet posters who post advice on cutting someone off. I’ve never been cut off but I can imagine it is deeply frustrating that you can’t lash out at the person who cut you off because we’ll you’re cut off.

I don’t think it matters why someone choses to end a relationship if they don’t want to share that information. You really are in no position to judge whether a strangers decision to cut someone off is too minor in your opinion.

I think it’s healthy to remember that no one is entitled to an ongoing relationship with anyone else. It’s mutual acceptance only. You can’t rage your way into someone’s life or believe that just because you are related that they owe you something. They don’t. If you are cut off, accept it and move on.

Oh look, it’s the poster who thinks anybody who disagrees with her must have been cut off themselves. Your behavior here is a sign of immaturity and pot-stirring all by itself. No, as I’ve posted other threads, I spent a very pleasant Thanksgiving with my two children. My daughter used her 2nd or 3rd paycheck to take me to dinner, and last week my son thanked me for decisions I had made. Both were unsolicited and unexpected.

Your assumption that anybody who cuts someone else off must be right is sick, that’s the only word I can think of for it. Sometimes they’re right. Other times the person doing the cutting is overreacting to a minor slight by creating a permanent rift. Other times the person doing the cutting is an immature, self-centered jack-a$$ who isn’t getting their way. (Like you, I imagine.)

It's really none of your business, OP. Yet you create this overly dramatic thread to repeat the same things you said in the other threads.

Your cr@ppy “advice” is destructive and calling it out isn’t being “overly dramatic,” it’s bringing some reasoned maturity to the discussion. I’ve seen some (not me, ask the moderator) speculate you’re a troll or a 13-year-old. You should take a good look at your behavior, but you’re too immature to do so.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - have you been cut off? It sounds like you are lashing out at invisible Internet posters who post advice on cutting someone off. I’ve never been cut off but I can imagine it is deeply frustrating that you can’t lash out at the person who cut you off because we’ll you’re cut off.

I don’t think it matters why someone choses to end a relationship if they don’t want to share that information. You really are in no position to judge whether a strangers decision to cut someone off is too minor in your opinion.

I think it’s healthy to remember that no one is entitled to an ongoing relationship with anyone else. It’s mutual acceptance only. You can’t rage your way into someone’s life or believe that just because you are related that they owe you something. They don’t. If you are cut off, accept it and move on.

Oh look, it’s the poster who thinks anybody who disagrees with her must have been cut off themselves. Your behavior here is a sign of immaturity and pot-stirring all by itself. No, as I’ve posted other threads, I spent a very pleasant Thanksgiving with my two children. My daughter used her 2nd or 3rd paycheck to take me to dinner, and last week my son thanked me for decisions I had made. Both were unsolicited and unexpected.

Your assumption that anybody who cuts someone else off must be right is sick, that’s the only word I can think of for it. Sometimes they’re right. Other times the person doing the cutting is overreacting to a minor slight by creating a permanent rift. Other times the person doing the cutting is an immature, self-centered jack-a$$ who isn’t getting their way. (Like you, I imagine.)

It's really none of your business, OP. Yet you create this overly dramatic thread to repeat the same things you said in the other threads.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - have you been cut off? It sounds like you are lashing out at invisible Internet posters who post advice on cutting someone off. I’ve never been cut off but I can imagine it is deeply frustrating that you can’t lash out at the person who cut you off because we’ll you’re cut off.

I don’t think it matters why someone choses to end a relationship if they don’t want to share that information. You really are in no position to judge whether a strangers decision to cut someone off is too minor in your opinion.

I think it’s healthy to remember that no one is entitled to an ongoing relationship with anyone else. It’s mutual acceptance only. You can’t rage your way into someone’s life or believe that just because you are related that they owe you something. They don’t. If you are cut off, accept it and move on.

Oh look, it’s the poster who thinks anybody who disagrees with her must have been cut off themselves. Your behavior here is a sign of immaturity and pot-stirring all by itself. No, as I’ve posted other threads, I spent a very pleasant Thanksgiving with my two children. My daughter used her 2nd or 3rd paycheck to take me to dinner, and last week my son thanked me for decisions I had made. Both were unsolicited and unexpected.

Your assumption that anybody who cuts someone else off must be right is sick, that’s the only word I can think of for it. Sometimes they’re right. Other times the person doing the cutting is overreacting to a minor slight by creating a permanent rift. Other times the person doing the cutting is an immature, self-centered jack-a$$ who isn’t getting their way. (Like you, I imagine.)

Anonymous wrote:Hmmmm…you know the person doing the cutting off is disengaging from conflict and drama. The cut off is putting an end to the conflict so people can just go live their lives happily. It’s the opposite of stirring any pots or loving conflict.

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely agree that there are some weird drama stirrers on DCUM, but I assume some of the best are trolls. I can see being completely worn out by it, and in my view posting a thread about it is different than stirring things up around here, but it is still not very productive. DCUM is about drama with the occasional ray of sunshine or sparking insight. If that bothers you, seems better to take a break, no?

Anonymous wrote:OP returning after a day. I’m talking about the posters who leap to advising every OP to cut their parents or sister off. Yes, some parents seem awful from the OPs’ descriptions. In other cases, there are two clear problems with this.
1. It’s not always the parents’ fault. In some cases an immature OP is clearly the problem. (The SIL thread is an example, yes, yet on the first page one of you advised OP to cut SIL off.)
2. Cutting someone off for a minor offense is destructive and may be permanent. (The certified letter thread, where OP has given zero detail but some of you are yelling “cut mom off” anyway.)

People advising an OP to cut off someone, in the absence of details or when OP is immature, are destructive meddlers in others’ lives.

(As an aside, it’s so strange that one of you cares so deeply whether my thread succeeds or fails. I don’t care. If that’s all you have to worry about in your life, then you really are an immature drama llama.)

Anonymous wrote:OP - have you been cut off? It sounds like you are lashing out at invisible Internet posters who post advice on cutting someone off. I’ve never been cut off but I can imagine it is deeply frustrating that you can’t lash out at the person who cut you off because we’ll you’re cut off.

I don’t think it matters why someone choses to end a relationship if they don’t want to share that information. You really are in no position to judge whether a strangers decision to cut someone off is too minor in your opinion.

I think it’s healthy to remember that no one is entitled to an ongoing relationship with anyone else. It’s mutual acceptance only. You can’t rage your way into someone’s life or believe that just because you are related that they owe you something. They don’t. If you are cut off, accept it and move on.