Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 19:01     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:I’m in a marriage with “separate” finances, but we share all expenses and have logins for each other’s accounts. It’s mostly laziness.


This is not that.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 17:11     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
^”continuing” not confusing. Although it is also confusing!
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 17:11     Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:What's in it for you? No.


He seems to think that not having any living expenses and confusing to have a relationship with him
And whatever he chooses to provide is desirable.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 17:10     Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Do you have bad money spending habit?
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 17:09     Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
What's in it for you? No.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:54     Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:We've always had separate finances so the process alone won't put me off. What I find offputting about your situation is that it used to be joint and now he wants to separate financially.


He makes a lot more money now than he used to.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:53     Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
We've always had separate finances so the process alone won't put me off. What I find offputting about your situation is that it used to be joint and now he wants to separate financially.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:48     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:Why is he bringing this up now? Do you suspect an affair?


No I do not. I think he just wants more control.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:47     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Why is he bringing this up now? Do you suspect an affair?
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:47     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:I would be wondering why he wants this all of a sudden. Is he preparing for an actual divorce? Trying to hide assets? Could he be having an affair? I would get a PI.


I think it is just a control thing for him.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:43     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
I would be wondering why he wants this all of a sudden. Is he preparing for an actual divorce? Trying to hide assets? Could he be having an affair? I would get a PI.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:43     Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:You are better off divorcing and getting childsupport and alimony.

I am so, so, so sorry that you had a kid with this POS.


Why do call him this without knowing all the facts?

God you are stupid.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:36     Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not except if he has good reason to be concerned with your spending. That's not a marriage. That's not a marriage.


My spending isn’t crazy although I’ve incurred some late penalties on taxes before. I do have goals that I’d need his income to achieve in terms of house, college funds, private school, vacations (I work FT and make about 25% of HHI). He is not into funding my dreams.


Not into finding your dreams? Or that of your child’s apparently. Sounds like a selfish jerk. Isn’t that part of marriage? Supporting each other?
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:35     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP again, to clarify he basically said he will pay all expenses and I can save my paycheck. However, I will have no claim to his or to our house that he bought before marriage.


Are you on the title for your shared house? Do you have a pre-nup specifying what happens to assets acquired before marriage? He seems to think he's so smart for pulling a fast one on you.


I’m not on the title or mortgage.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2022 16:27     Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:OP again, to clarify he basically said he will pay all expenses and I can save my paycheck. However, I will have no claim to his or to our house that he bought before marriage.


Are you on the title for your shared house? Do you have a pre-nup specifying what happens to assets acquired before marriage? He seems to think he's so smart for pulling a fast one on you.