Anonymous wrote:It's petty, but don't let it bother you, since that was likely her intent. The best response is no response at all. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if she appreciates you - she is an employee, not a personal friend, and as long as she is doing a good job of watching your child, that's all that matters.
Anonymous wrote:It's petty, but don't let it bother you, since that was likely her intent. The best response is no response at all. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if she appreciates you - she is an employee, not a personal friend, and as long as she is doing a good job of watching your child, that's all that matters.
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, having a kid in your house exposes you to insane liability risks. I would never have this nanny share without a reciprocal situation with the other nanny share family.
Anonymous wrote:I agree it was unprofessional of her to thank them in a group text.
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny asked us if she could watch another child 1 to 2 days a week - she cut our rate by just a few dollars per hour but is definitely making some good cash from the other family, which we applaud her for. The other kid is great in general, so we don't really mind. The other family however is not paying taxes, not paying sick leave, nor are they paying for holidays, etc.. They have their kid in daycare part time and the kid will be starting full time in a couple of months. And they are lovely, don't get me wrong.
What I'm annoyed about is that the other family must have given her a Thanksgiving bonus of some sort. Our nanny replied all in the group text we have with the other family, thanking them for their generosity, making it pretty obvious that we didn't give her a Thanksgiving bonus (although we offered numerous times for her to leave early this past week so that she could help her family out with their Thanksgiving plans).
I actually am feeling such less respect for the nanny. She definitely knew it was the group chat with the way she worded her thank you (so not a mistake). And I feel like it was completely thoughtless and tacky. My husband and I were both so shocked when we received the text. And a big part of that is feeling unappreciated by the nanny for letting her bring this other child into my home, with truly little benefit to us. On top of that she has taken 1 to 2 days off per week for the past 6 weeks due to sick leave and vacation (which was planned), so we've been scrambling to work and provide childcare while paying her full time, and so again, I feel unappreciated.
You’re passive aggressive and resentful individual. Some Nannies do get a small bonus for thanksgiving in addition to flowers(a great bonus during the Christmas time/end of year. You need to work with a therapist to get over this ‘low-self-esteem’ issues. And if you’re not longer respect your nanny, part ways civilly.
I also don't believe Thanksgiving bonuses are a thing and I refuse to make them one. I get the Holiday bonus and was planning on giving it to her earlier in December so she could spend it on holiday gifts, but I'm feeling pretty annoyed right now and I feel frustrated that the nanny has now injected even more drama into our lives and feeling just done with it.
Thanks for letting me vent.