Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 19:37     Subject: Re:Lifestyle creeping backwards
I don’t know what context you are talking about. I enjoy spending and buying nice things. Why not? You worked hard for it. Maybe you don’t have good taste for finer things or are truly simple.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 19:29     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Younger people feel the need to flex more for social and dating reasons, and they haven’t yet experienced material wealth in all its forms. When you’re older you have enough experience to know what certain luxuries feel like so you don’t get excited as much at the thought of buying a new car, TV, whatever
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 17:49     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I agree actually. When I was in working in my early 20s, or graduate school and broke, I could’ve walked into a store and found a million things to purchase.

Now that we are 35 and collectively making seven figures, there’s nothing in shops that calls to me. I don’t have any need for fancy bags or things I used to lust for.

There is BIG ticket stuff that we would like that’s still unattainable, like a beach house. I think a large part of my joy comes from anticipation, and when you know you can have what you want, the anticipatory aspect becomes smaller and you might lose interest. Does that make sense?


This. Same with me. I'm 46. I used to to the mall and lust for fancy things. I got some Ferragamo shoes, handbags, Burrberry coats; fine jewelry etc. I guess, I have enough of those items, they are classy and will last a long time, I have no need or desire to buy more. I'm interested in stocks, real estate and generational wealth, so my children will get something from me when they grow up. I want more vacations, so I'm OK to spend money on those. But not material things ( I guess, I'm done).


Same at 56. I also think it’s because I’ve bought all those things and I look back and know that they haven’t truly made me happier.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 17:47     Subject: Re:Lifestyle creeping backwards
I never had that lust for things. I am finding that now that I am in my mid-upper 50’s I will pay more for upgrades when I travel or nicer towels and sheets. I am now willing to pay for things that make me feel better like massages or nice lotion.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 17:46     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
I don’t enjoy shopping any more. I’m 47. When l had a great body pre-kids l loved clothes shopping.

Also l have a few high end bags and pairs of shoes but l rarely use them, so l’m not interested in having more.

Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 17:44     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's about getting older. Ho much crap do we really need?!


+1


I think it's true. The older I get and wealthier I am -the less I crave luxury items or brand names. I don't need to impress anyone and it's so freeing. When I see someone in a $200k car I think -what a stupid fool.

Well that’s a stupid and foolish reaction to have. Lots of people derive joy from hobby interests like cars, boats, horses. It’s not necessarily about impressing others.

I’ve had my luxury purchases shat on by DCUM but they *do* bring me joy and it has nothing to do with how others react—except maybe people who share my interest and delight with me.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 17:31     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:I agree actually. When I was in working in my early 20s, or graduate school and broke, I could’ve walked into a store and found a million things to purchase.

Now that we are 35 and collectively making seven figures, there’s nothing in shops that calls to me. I don’t have any need for fancy bags or things I used to lust for.

There is BIG ticket stuff that we would like that’s still unattainable, like a beach house. I think a large part of my joy comes from anticipation, and when you know you can have what you want, the anticipatory aspect becomes smaller and you might lose interest. Does that make sense?


This. Same with me. I'm 46. I used to to the mall and lust for fancy things. I got some Ferragamo shoes, handbags, Burrberry coats; fine jewelry etc. I guess, I have enough of those items, they are classy and will last a long time, I have no need or desire to buy more. I'm interested in stocks, real estate and generational wealth, so my children will get something from me when they grow up. I want more vacations, so I'm OK to spend money on those. But not material things ( I guess, I'm done).
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 11:26     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's about getting older. Ho much crap do we really need?!


+1


I think it's true. The older I get and wealthier I am -the less I crave luxury items or brand names. I don't need to impress anyone and it's so freeing. When I see someone in a $200k car I think -what a stupid fool.


why? if they have the $$ AND it makes them happy to drive a $200K car whatever for that fact, who are you to judge? Jealousy in play perhaps because you chose not to spend your $$ on material things that you would like to have back?
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 11:23     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:We've always been frugal. We are looking to build generational wealth.


very sad
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 10:53     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:Ha I always say this to DH- when I was 24 all I wanted was a Prada handbag. Now I can afford any bag I want and use a diaper bag as a purse. I don't care about keeping up with the Joneses because I have nothing to prove.


Ha ha I can relate! When I was in my 20s and early 30s (pre-kids) I wanted expensive cool clothes. I can afford them much more easily now in my mid-40s but don't really want them. They don't look as good on me as they used to, I have very few occasions to wear them, my kids get their never ending snot and grubby mitts on my clothes constantly, etc. youth is wasted on the young!
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 10:50     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
I agree actually. When I was in working in my early 20s, or graduate school and broke, I could’ve walked into a store and found a million things to purchase.

Now that we are 35 and collectively making seven figures, there’s nothing in shops that calls to me. I don’t have any need for fancy bags or things I used to lust for.

There is BIG ticket stuff that we would like that’s still unattainable, like a beach house. I think a large part of my joy comes from anticipation, and when you know you can have what you want, the anticipatory aspect becomes smaller and you might lose interest. Does that make sense?
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 10:14     Subject: Re:Lifestyle creeping backwards
I like to spend lavishly on hobbies I’ll only stick with for a year or less.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 10:11     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's about getting older. Ho much crap do we really need?!


+1


I think it's true. The older I get and wealthier I am -the less I crave luxury items or brand names. I don't need to impress anyone and it's so freeing. When I see someone in a $200k car I think -what a stupid fool.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 10:08     Subject: Re:Lifestyle creeping backwards
Anonymous wrote:Once you buy enough stuff that you thought you always wanted and then realize that it doesn’t make you any happier, and sometimes even makes you less happy/complicates your life, it’s normal to not want so much stuff anymore.
Thanksgiving.

+1. The more stuff you own the more your stuff owns you.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2022 10:06     Subject: Lifestyle creeping backwards
No because most of us aren’t getting wealthier.